LuckyCharm Posted October 11, 2012 Share Posted October 11, 2012 My Dad's gf has turned him completely against me, my DH and my daughter. My Daughter is his only grandchild and has not seen her in 2.5 years since she was 18 months old. He never calls or sends cards on her b-day, holiday and won't even call me on my b-day's Last Christmas I tried sending my dad a holiday card along with pic's of my daughter only he never opened it, sent it back in the mail and turned our family name into a bad word I still forgave him and drove up to his house since I was worried for his well being, he said he sent our mail back because I didn't include his gf's name on the envelope. I told him that I wrote his name first on purpose because I wanted him to open it first because I had something in there that was personal for him and a little something for the both of them. He still had a lot of anger for I decided to give it a few months and he said he wanted to work things out but said he's too busy building his house and that if he's ever in our neighborhood someday he'll come by if we're still living in the same place....Well, I know that meant he doesn't care but still called him up for his b-day and since my DD was next to me I asked her if she would like to wish grandpa a happy b-day and he hung up on us! He also told me that my phone number is no longer on his contact list and acted like he didn't recognize my voice when I called. His gf also sucks up to my Aunt but will no longer call my Aunt because she's jealous of my Aunt and I being close so 2 months ago when my Aunt called her up to ask if my dad has signed some kind of paper due to my grandmothers death she tells her that she misses my, my DH and our daughter. I told my Aunt she's lying, dad's gf has spread so many lies and not only has she ever tried contacting me she tells my Aunt she misses me and then blocks me on FB I have a feeling I will never have my dad back in my life ever again and I keep grieving over losing him and I don't wanna hold out hope anymore. I also don't want his gf stirring up any more drama and involving my daughter (for instant maybe grandparent rights, which I had never denied) but with his gf I never know just how far she's capable of going that's why I think the best thing to do would to legally divorce him that way my dad and his gf can no longer hurt me. How do I go about legally divorcing my dad? Link to post Share on other sites
carhill Posted October 11, 2012 Share Posted October 11, 2012 As far as I'm aware, once an adult, one has no forced legal ties to their parents, so there is nothing to divorce. Simply erase them. Think about the billions of people in the world you have no contact with and could care less about, then add two. Pretty easy. I erased my mother's family in this way. 1 Link to post Share on other sites
Author LuckyCharm Posted October 11, 2012 Author Share Posted October 11, 2012 As far as I'm aware, once an adult, one has no forced legal ties to their parents, so there is nothing to divorce. Simply erase them. Think about the billions of people in the world you have no contact with and could care less about, then add two. Pretty easy. I erased my mother's family in this way. Thanks! I couldn't find anything on the web on how divorce a parent. only thing I'm worried about it him and his gf suing me for visitation rights (they have money) KWIM? it just hurts so much that his gf is spreading so many lies about me and there's nothing I can do about it since she's being so sneaky. If I cannot divorce him, then is there some legal way for me to make sure he and his gf don't try suing for visitation right and using my Daughter to hurt me? if she ever wants to meet her grandfather when she's 18 that's fine with me but till then I really don't trust him and his gf. Link to post Share on other sites
carhill Posted October 11, 2012 Share Posted October 11, 2012 Anecdote: ExW's niece married a guy whose culture frowned upon him marrying a lady not of their culture. It was so strained that my exW and I had to stand in for his parents during part of the wedding because they simply refused to be there. Subsequently, the son denied his parents access to their children and ceased visiting them. I lost track once my exW and I divorced but this dynamic went on for years during our M. All it takes is a choice and executing that choice. Unless it can be proven that you're an unfit parent, any lawsuit regarding your children would be nothing more than an expensive waste of time for a potential litigant. Courts generally don't involve themselves in such family matters and I doubt there are any compensable monetary damages involved. That said, if a process server ever shows up, take it seriously and hammer them in court and attach any legal fees to the judgment against them. Revenge is a dish best served cold. Good luck. Link to post Share on other sites
wow04 Posted October 11, 2012 Share Posted October 11, 2012 Google Grandparents Rights in your state. I know where I am, the grandparents can only get visitation if they have had a relationship with child in the past. I would suggest no contact with him. You have done everything you can to have a relationship with him, now it is his turn to come to you. Good luck! Link to post Share on other sites
pink_sugar Posted October 11, 2012 Share Posted October 11, 2012 Considering their lack of effort to be in your daughter's life. I don't think you have anything to worry about. Erase him from your life and move on. Don't involve your daughter with him any further. My mom never had a good relationship with her father and encouraged us to see him for the longest time. I was never close with him nor do I really care to be. Link to post Share on other sites
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