Why Married Men Cheat

[mronederful]

married MEN don't leave thier wives for thier G/F's. married MEN don't cheat on thier wives. i am a MAN and i get tired of hearing about the married BOYS that cheat on thier wives. so to all you O/W, find a single MAN that you can love and who will love you back, one that you don't have to share with another woman.

[therresa kennedy]

Ya, I agree that what you are saying is true, (Other women) SHOULD find their own man and not cause unhappiness for innocent families, but then it IS the MEN who choose to unzip their pants or is that all the women's fault too? But what about females being all those horrible things you say at the bottom of your post? I see absolutely NO truth to that at ALL, it just reeks of hatred, unhappines, bitteness and for what, what are the reasons? You might want to ask yourself that.

 

Men in this country murder approximately 2600 women each year, wives AND girlfriends, due to stalking and domestic violence. MEN are responcible for the vast majority of ALL rapes, murders and child molestations in this country so don't you think your opinion about women is a bit warped, a bit skewed? Women on the other hand murder less than 150 men nation wide in the course of each year. So, how have you come upon this pearl of wisdom, I wonder? Men are the ones who have the power to destroy, women's power in nearly every aspect is much less, almost comically so. I am a 40 year old woman and am finishing two degrees, so I think I am qualified so say a thing or two about this. I have lived a life and am not an airhead, unlike some people.

 

I certainly think you have more than a few issues to work out and don't be surprised if noone else responds to your post as a result of your bitter hate filled ditty on the bottom of your page. Good luck to you, I hope you don't allow your hatred to eat you up inside and destroy any potential you have for creating a life for yourself. Good luck to you.

[Debster]

Am I missing something here? Therresa I don't see anything about hatred and negative comments about females. The post also doesn't appear to be edited. I know I am tired this morning, but I don't get it.

[YellowLioness]

Yeah, I agree with Deb. I don't think he was saying anything about wanting to murder any women... do you?

 

I THINK he was just saying that he thinks that married men who cheat are immature, and that their wives could do better. This is not an untrue statement. He may also want other people in LS to know that there ARE married men who do not cheat, and who are strong and love their wives.

 

Cheating is something that several people think is wrong on this site, usually if they have been hurt through cheating themselves.

 

Also Teresa, no one is trying to say that you are not qualified to say anything. I'm glad that you have two degrees. Everyone is EQUALLY entitled to their opinions, and no one was saying that you aren't entitled to yours. :-)

[YellowLioness]

:-)

[fredrolin]

There are 2 reasons why women chase married men.

 

1) A married man has proven that he is willing to make a commitment. Married men are usually responsible, hard working and sensitive to a woman's needs. Older single men are still single because they are losers.

 

2) Sex only relationship. A married man who is willing to cheat will have sex with a woman and they go home. No strings, no attachments. some women want this.

[Fayebelle]

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Therefore 2 degrees or 6th grade education- all OPINIONS are treated equally here.

 

And it just so happens that I agree w/ Mr1- My MAN would never cheat so any woman hitting on him is wasting her time. IMHO- Mr1 was not "attacking" any females- he was just stating that any man who would mess around on his wife is a prize not worth winning. It would be better to go find a real Man who would be true to them.

[Fayebelle]

Originally posted by fredrolin

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1) A married man has proven that he is willing to make a commitment. Married men are usually responsible, hard working and sensitive to a woman's needs. Older single men are still single because they are losers.

 

 

 

1st of all any man who cheats does not know the definition of commitment. 2nd older single men are Not guaranteed losers- they could be shy, hurt by another, their true love could have died...you never know. Or maybe every woman he's been attracted to has been too busy chasing married men b/c some one told her the silly idea that all older single men were losers.

[InmannRoshi]

Older single men are still single because they are losers.

 

Or happy.

[moimeme]

I believe Therssa was referring to the poster's very negative sig about women which is now not there. However, it was indeed extremely unpleasant to the effect that I refused to answer his other posts. I'm glad it's gone.

[YellowLioness]

I didn't get to see his signature. Perhaps its better if I didn't. I get fired up when women, or anyone, really, is demoralized.

 

If I was in error because of my ignorance, I apologise for defending him.

[therresa kennedy]

Thank you moimeme, yes, one of the moderators cut his personal message on the bottom of his page, and it basically said something to the effect that "women are the most vile form of life this world has ever known" something totally absurd like that, I should have written it down, thank you Moimeme for backing me up, it was a totally ignorant and offensive thing to put on his page, and I reported him to a moderator, I have yet to see something like that, in any event, the moderator who contacted me told me that it was pulled, as it should be.

 

What he put at the bottom of his page totally warped and discounted his earlier half sane comments, also Kiababy saw it and responded to it on another thread some time yesterday so it was not only me who saw it.

 

I suppose I am known for being a bit outspoken, about how I don't approve of other women getting in between wives and husbands and I have been known to get a bit hotheaded, I have been scolded by some moderators about my mouth and I am not ashamed to admit it, but I do NOT believe in pure out woman hatred spewing on a site like this, when the vast majority of posters ARE women. I won't stand for it and will state my opinions. Sorry you girls weren't there to read the ridiculous ditty this guy had on the bottom of his page, it was sad and quite revealing about HIM!

[Fayebelle]

I'm a hot head too . I didn't see his signature so I thought you were just being a biscuit about his post.

 

My apologies.

[therresa kennedy]

yes, I knew it would happen, that it would be cut and people might get confused. I am glad one of the moderators did cut it, though, it was stupid, surprising and not a little hate filled.

 

I have never heard that expression, "being a biscuit" that's cute, I like that, and yes, I think we have our share of hothead females on these sites, but that is what makes it interesting. Thanks and best wishes to you fayebelle.

[Fayebelle]

My temper is actually MUCH better than it used to be and I found that creative euphamisms helped. If you are groping for a nice way to say a foul word you can calm down a bit and focus on the actual prob at hand. It really helps here b/c I don't have any replies saying "You are just a 4 letter word, 4 letter word, 4 letter word, 4 letter word, 4 letter word, 4 letter word, .."

[Debster]

I too was unable to see the signature. My apologies, Therresa.

[therresa kennedy]

Hi Debster, thanks for the post, yes it was a horrible woman hating post, something to the effect that "women are the most vile things to ever exist in this world" some kind of dumb thing he probably wrote himself.

 

It got cut, one of the moderators cut it, after I complained, and why not, I sure as hell am not going to feel I have to tolerate that kind of thing.

 

Sure some of us have strong opinions about women and men who cheat with married people but lets try to have some kind of rational or attempts at rational opinions, and not just an EXCUSE to direct woman hating comments on a wonderful site like this.

 

so, yes, it was a real eye popper, and I am glad the moderators had the good sense to pull it. Good luck to you Debster, and take care, I really enjoy your honest, fearless posts. Keep postin girl.

[moodyblues]

Personally Therresa, I LOVED IT! I was so happy to see someone else know about death stats other than myself. And may I say, opinionated or not, I have been there before and probably stated that rant before word for word.

Whatever you are doing with your degrees, I am sure that you are keeping up the good work!

[therresa kennedy]

Ya, I do try, I still have two years to go, have been at full-time status for three years straight with no breaks, except this summer term, will have two BA's in exactly two more years. Crim-jus and Eng-lit.

 

I will be able to do some really interesting work once I am finished, and all that, but for now, I am just taking a much needed break, having fun, and blasting or getting blasted on this site. Oh, well, ya gotta do what tickles ya right? At least if it (harm none) as the wicky girls like to say.

 

And yes, death stats are no laughing matter, they are tragic, and really represent women's powerlessness in this country, and men's power. In Gavin de Becker's fine, fine, fine book entitled, The Gift of Fear, he says in one chapter that

 

(At core a man fears a woman will laugh at him. At core a woman fears a man will kill her). Think about it men, the next time a woman looks at you with fear or seemingly rudely brushes you off etc. What women fear from men is so completely tied up in reality and survival, and what men fear from women is just the simple nuances of communication, and repore. Think about it people, if you give it some thought, it may inspire an ephiphany of sorts, damn, Spock did I spell that right?

[Fayebelle]

Originally posted by therresa kennedy

In Gavin de Becker's fine, fine, fine book entitled, The Gift of Fear, he says in one chapter that

 

(At core a man fears a woman will laugh at him. At core a woman fears a man will kill her). Think about it men, the next time a woman looks at you with fear or seemingly rudely brushes you off etc. What women fear from men is so completely tied up in reality and survival, and what men fear from women is just the simple nuances of communication, and repore.

 

Wow! That could be one of the most sadly honest things I've ever heard. I never thought about it in that context but it really seems true.

[moodyblues]

Therresa, that's cool about being in school. I did domestic violence work for five years (including keeping track of all of the DV related homicides and suicides in AZ) and went back to get my Masters in Social Work in order to take a break from it all. I haven't read that book, but I will definitely check it out. Another GREAT BOOK is "Why Does He Do That" by Lundy Bankcroft which is INCREDIBLE and talks about batterers.

[therresa kennedy]

Well, I just found out I have 169 spy infections in my computer, that is why it has been so slow! That and 6 virus's, so now I am running ragged trying to get that damn spyware protection, geez, I've got some personal **** on my computer.

 

Crap, I know it's off topic, but man!!

[mronederful]

well to all those that didn't like my signature, it's now gone, i did not mean it to demoralize anyone, it was a quote from a movie with richard clooney, oh brother where art thou, i thought it was cute so i included it. i don't condone demoralization of anyone, and to those who didn't get a chance to read it it was something like.... the female is the worst evil that mankind has ever faced. i don't actually feel that way, i just thought it was funny somehow. this post WAS to kind of shed some light on the fact that not all men think with thier "little friend" i personally would not risk a good relationship for a piece of anyone's a$$. i think that men who cheat do not deserve to be classified as MEN nor do they deserve the wives that put up with it, it's selfish, wrong, irresponsible, and just childish. and i feel that the O/W that is waiting around for him to leave his wive is living in a dream world, older single guys are not all losers. i know a few personally that own thier own house, pay thier bills, lead respectable lives and just don't have the time to look for love. to say older single men are all losers, is like saying all single moms are just looking for a daddy. it doesn't take into consideration the individual's situation all older men are NOT losers, we're just smarter, and we probably live longer than a married guy who's wife is screwing around. i'm gonna work on a new signature

[ENNYJJ]

To the one who says MARRIED MEN DON'T CHEAT Wrong! I am involved with a MM and believe me neither one of us meant for it to happen, but it has. I never went after him!!!! He persued me even when I was still involved. We both know it's NOT RIGHT!!, but somehow we can't get out, nor want to??????????