Appleness Posted October 13, 2012 Share Posted October 13, 2012 There are some of you who have read my BU thread from about 5 months ago, but to make a long story short, my LTR boyfriend recently split with me after many years of being together. It was our third break and quite frankly (looking back), I had started to emotionally detach due to some of the things he started to do to hurt me. I was upset about the first 1 or 2 months but even after having to see him in person recently, I'm really at the point where I just feel quite indifferent towards him. I think I care more about missing out on interactions between myself and his mom as well as our mutual friends (some of whom have picked sides). Anyways, I have a good friend from work who I've known for more than 5 years. We first worked at another place together but then, he moved to another job and then I left for my current job. He started here about a year and a half ago. We are really good friends but I have always had a bit of a crush on him which I never acted on because we worked together (and that's inappropriate). During the time that he worked somewhere else and I was going through my second break-up, I tried to call him to talk (I kinda treat him like a big brother where I tell him everything) but he had changed his number. I also always assumed I wouldn't be his type. He is recently engaged to a wonderful girl that he went to school with. She is beautiful, kind, and a truly wonderful person and I cannot be happier for my friend. At the same time, a small part of me wanted to confess that I sorta liked him all along. He caught me off guard today by telling ME that for that better part of a year when he first started working with me again, he was waiting for me to break up with my bf (now ex) who he could see was "tarnishing my sparkle". He said if he had know that I would have eventually broken it off for good, he might have waited but at the time, he knew I wouldn't have listened to him even if he's told me that my ex wasn't good for me. I wish I had known that he had feelings for me then because I definitely would have talked to my ex about not being happy in the relationship instead of just feeling like I wouldn't ever have anyone else in the world (because I was constantly being told that I was "difficult" and that I was lucky to have someone who was so patient and understanding). I really don't know how to reconcile my feelings right now... Link to post Share on other sites
pacattack81 Posted October 13, 2012 Share Posted October 13, 2012 Hey Appleness, Thanks for replying to my thread. After your reply I took some time to take an interest in what you've been going through since you took that time for me. You should consider trying to move on from the current situation with your ex. You guys have been broken up on 2 or 3 occasions and from your posts it seems that at times he's rude, arrogant and selfish. You don't deserve to be treated poorly. Sometimes it's hard to come to an understanding that a particular person you love isn't the right one for you. Don't go through all these difficulties with him. Somebody who loves you would try their best not make you feel unhappy. It's nice to see that you have a new guy interest. I think it further proves that life can move on despite the feelings u still have for your ex. Unfortunately he's probably not the right person being that he's engaged and all, but I'm sure it's quite refreshing to find out that he was interested in you as well. I wish you the best of luck and I hope that you can find happiness with someone in the future. Link to post Share on other sites
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