Author justrandomchicks1 Posted October 14, 2012 Author Share Posted October 14, 2012 he's actually 28. he's not old. his W is 22. Link to post Share on other sites
UpwardForward Posted October 14, 2012 Share Posted October 14, 2012 I didn't get an abortion. I just lied because they have enough issues as it is. I spoke to her and she for the first time talked about his issues. I just decided to quit and cut all ties and now I'm just really depressed about it. Idk before him I was so lonely now I am again alone and worst off. It sucks.... Thanks for the advice guys though. I'm sorry you quit w/o another job in this market. Because of the circumstances of your having to quit, I'm thinking you may still be able to collect unemployment. (But I don't know where you're located). If you need a job right away, temporary work through an agency, etc - may be a thought. I'm glad you are keeping your baby. My grandson's mother had a tubal pregnancy when she was your age. She was able to conceive just once in the following 23 yr period. At another time, I would suggest you get an attorney and ask the father to pay child support. Link to post Share on other sites
Author justrandomchicks1 Posted October 14, 2012 Author Share Posted October 14, 2012 I'm sorry you quit w/o another job in this market. Because of the circumstances of your having to quit, I'm thinking you may still be able to collect unemployment. (But I don't know where you're located). If you need a job right away, temporary work through an agency, etc - may be a thought. yes I have been actively looking into employment in that avenue and all other options... I'm glad you are keeping your baby. My grandson's mother had a tubal pregnancy when she was your age. She was able to conceive just once in the following 23 yr period. At another time, I would suggest you get an attorney and ask the father to pay child support. they still can't see it. I'm hoping it's just too early. Link to post Share on other sites
UpwardForward Posted October 14, 2012 Share Posted October 14, 2012 they still can't see it. I'm hoping it's just too early. How far along are you, and when did the doctor tell you to return. Link to post Share on other sites
Author justrandomchicks1 Posted October 14, 2012 Author Share Posted October 14, 2012 How far along are you, and when did the doctor tell you to return. it was for the procedure they said to come back in two weeks. But I'm not of course. I'm 5 weeks from my lmp. Link to post Share on other sites
UpwardForward Posted October 14, 2012 Share Posted October 14, 2012 it was for the procedure they said to come back in two weeks. But I'm not of course. I'm 5 weeks from my lmp. Good. Do you have enough to live on until you get another job, and does your area offer unemployment benefits. Link to post Share on other sites
Author justrandomchicks1 Posted October 14, 2012 Author Share Posted October 14, 2012 yea if I find one quick enough. Link to post Share on other sites
Author justrandomchicks1 Posted October 14, 2012 Author Share Posted October 14, 2012 I wasn't supposed to be able to become pregnant to egin with.... Link to post Share on other sites
Author justrandomchicks1 Posted October 14, 2012 Author Share Posted October 14, 2012 there won't be another time likely that I'll get pregnant. Because of how my body works. And he's not much older than me his wife is 22. And I'm a woman. That's what the law says anyway. He has other issues though. I realize I should mind my own usiness... Link to post Share on other sites
Nothingwithouthim Posted October 14, 2012 Share Posted October 14, 2012 Good luck, stay strong & healthy 1 Link to post Share on other sites
Author justrandomchicks1 Posted October 14, 2012 Author Share Posted October 14, 2012 thanks guys Link to post Share on other sites
UpwardForward Posted October 14, 2012 Share Posted October 14, 2012 there won't be another time likely that I'll get pregnant. Because of how my body works. . You're on the right track. I pray for you - and that you also find another job. With being pregnant you may have to work temporary jobs. This job market can be good because if they like you, they will ask you to stay - thus the employer feels more comfortable as well. When you're further into your pregnancy I would approach the father for support. Link to post Share on other sites
Author justrandomchicks1 Posted October 14, 2012 Author Share Posted October 14, 2012 I don't plan to ask anything of him actually. I feel it would cause more trouble for him. I'm an adult. I got myself into this. I can deal with it alone. and yea I'm a tomboy and a lot of me does feel like I'm actually a guy. My sexuality shows that I see my relationship with guys as gay and my attraction to girls as straight. I only dress to impress guys because I have a female body and have to enhance what I have to be appealing to guys. But I don't feel like a girl. Other girls I try to get close with bore me. Mainly feel like I'm a gay guy stuck in a girl's body. But she's imo not bad looking so I'm not all that sad about being a girl. It just is when I realize and think about it long enoug. I wish weren't a girl. Things like this wouldn't happen. But yeah I do have gender identity issues I do think it's crazy though to call myself a guy when I know biologically I'm not. I try to accept myself as is really. Plus being straight is easier than eing gay. Link to post Share on other sites
UpwardForward Posted October 14, 2012 Share Posted October 14, 2012 yea you must know nothing about embryology. If it's not developed enough they can't do an abortion that's why getting one at 4 or 5 weeks is rare. thanks I didn't think I looked nice enoug to be considered photoshopped it is me I have a whole youtube. he did take my virginity I gave everything I had to him and I said that in the op. Like I said I was in love at first sight. I actually still love him the same I just feel maybe I'm the problem. I just want whatever's best for him There have been a few other OW's on here who were virgins at time they slept w a MM, and they did follow through with their pregnancies, have reported back as doting loving mothers, finishing their schooling etc. Don't let the devil defeat you, Imo you are on the right track. Life can be a challenge, but worth it. Link to post Share on other sites
Author justrandomchicks1 Posted October 14, 2012 Author Share Posted October 14, 2012 I'm unemployed. And single with no family in this region of the world and just starting college. But people have done it before. It can be done it's not best situation and not the worst... 2 Link to post Share on other sites
Author justrandomchicks1 Posted October 14, 2012 Author Share Posted October 14, 2012 I'm willing to do what it takes tbh 2 Link to post Share on other sites
alexandria35 Posted October 14, 2012 Share Posted October 14, 2012 I'm also curious what condition you have that makes you think you can't get pregnant. Back in June you were still a virgin but you were pregnant by september so not only does this show that you can get pregnant but it also shows that you did so quite easily. If a doctor told you couldn't get pregnant I'd say this proves that diagnosis wrong. Did you tell the MM you couldn't get pregnant? Did he feel duped when you turned up pregnant almost right away? Regardless of what you decide to do with this pregnancy, I hope in the future you will use contraceptives. 1 Link to post Share on other sites
Author justrandomchicks1 Posted October 15, 2012 Author Share Posted October 15, 2012 I'm ok with myself. Feeling a certain gender has nothing to do with parenting. I don't believe the stuff he told me. I already said I realized and found out some deep demons he has that's why I broke up with him. Because I feel I'm adding tohis issues. I can get a job and make things work. I'll get two jobs if I have to save up. I used condoms sometimes sometimes not. Stupid idea I know. I'm getting tested asap especially after what I found out.... I'm certainly using bc soon... I told him I couldn't get pregnant he had suggested I lied but I hadn't I honestly believed I was infertile. 1 Link to post Share on other sites
Author justrandomchicks1 Posted October 15, 2012 Author Share Posted October 15, 2012 How do you even know if you can/can't get pregnant ?? Yet, you imply NOW is the ONLY time you can get pregnant? And FYI - abortions CAN be done at 5 weeks. How are you going to support a child? How are you going to pay for your medical bills? What about adoption? Please don't try to keep this baby so you can stay close to the MM. Please. That is not fair to a child. yea it's rare. I know because it was known at birth I was born with a few anormalities and I wasn't supposed to e fertile.... If I have to I'll get two jobs and assistance of any kind to get on my feet and be able to support myself and a child. I am determined to make it work. Link to post Share on other sites
Author justrandomchicks1 Posted October 15, 2012 Author Share Posted October 15, 2012 all my friends were at work or some at school ut not very close. I have no family in america no. I have enough for this next month. So I have until december.to get a job. I have experience I pretty much raised up my two brothers when I was a kid. I had to grow up fast and I've never really been into shopping I write and sing and play video games and stuff like that. All because I'm pretty idle. I actually like taking care of los. It'll be tough I'm not saying it won't but I'm willing to deal with what I got to do. My priority from now on is the wel-being of the baby first and foremost. 1 Link to post Share on other sites
UpwardForward Posted October 15, 2012 Share Posted October 15, 2012 all my friends were at work or some at school ut not very close. I have no family in america no. I have enough for this next month. So I have until december.to get a job. I have experience I pretty much raised up my two brothers when I was a kid. I had to grow up fast and I've never really been into shopping I write and sing and play video games and stuff like that. All because I'm pretty idle. I actually like taking care of los. It'll be tough I'm not saying it won't but I'm willing to deal with what I got to do. My priority from now on is the wel-being of the baby first and foremost. I think you can apply for - and receive unemployment benefits based on the reason you had to leave. It will not hurt to try. Apply for unemployment right away, so you don't loose any money through delay of application. Also the Department of Employment in our area has a listing of open jobs/employment. Link to post Share on other sites
pureinheart Posted October 15, 2012 Share Posted October 15, 2012 yea it's rare. I know because it was known at birth I was born with a few anormalities and I wasn't supposed to e fertile.... If I have to I'll get two jobs and assistance of any kind to get on my feet and be able to support myself and a child. I am determined to make it work. And you can make it work for you and your baby. It's something you'll never regret:) There is assistance out there for you in many forms and from many places. God makes a way when there appears to be no way...have faith that all is well with you. God Bless you love and ((((hugs)))) Contact a few of the churches in your area and someone in one of them will lead you in the right direction and I will pray that your steps be guided and that peace and strength will follow you the rest of your days:) 1 Link to post Share on other sites
Artie Lang Posted October 15, 2012 Share Posted October 15, 2012 see.....he wasn't such "great guy," after all. Link to post Share on other sites
Author justrandomchicks1 Posted October 16, 2012 Author Share Posted October 16, 2012 no he wasn't yea I'm trying every avenua that's available to me. Hopefully in the end it's enough... 1 Link to post Share on other sites
meeji Posted October 17, 2012 Share Posted October 17, 2012 you answered your own question.... "If he loved me........" Seems like he's just telling you that. Abuse or no abuse,at the end of the day he goes home to his family. Link to post Share on other sites
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