Author justrandomchicks1 Posted November 30, 2012 Author Share Posted November 30, 2012 Well a lot has happened since this post I actually realized I couldn't go without him. So I got back with him and I had the abortion just yesterday. I'm sad but happy he's been there for me and I'm actually more in love with him than ever I don't know I know it's not right but I'm living with the choices made really Link to post Share on other sites
Saba Posted November 30, 2012 Share Posted November 30, 2012 Well a lot has happened since this post I actually realized I couldn't go without him. So I got back with him and I had the abortion just yesterday. I'm sad but happy he's been there for me and I'm actually more in love with him than ever I don't know I know it's not right but I'm living with the choices made really Hmm how was he there for you? I missed that part of the story or do you mean that he is there for you since you decided to do what he wanted rather than what you wanted? 1 Link to post Share on other sites
Tara247 Posted November 30, 2012 Share Posted November 30, 2012 Come on, OP, you're smarter than this. He wants you to get an abortion because he doesn't want his wife to find out, nor does he want to be saddled with child support for the next eighteen years of his life. Don't abort your baby. Take this bastard to the cleaners! Make him pay! His penis got to play, now he needs to PAY! 1 Link to post Share on other sites
whichwayisup Posted November 30, 2012 Share Posted November 30, 2012 Come on, OP, you're smarter than this. He wants you to get an abortion because he doesn't want his wife to find out, nor does he want to be saddled with child support for the next eighteen years of his life. Don't abort your baby. Take this bastard to the cleaners! Make him pay! His penis got to play, now he needs to PAY! She's already done it Tara. Well a lot has happened since this post I actually realized I couldn't go without him. So I got back with him and I had the abortion just yesterday. I'm sad but happy he's been there for me and I'm actually more in love with him than ever I don't know I know it's not right but I'm living with the choices made really I do hope you do some counseling. If you feel depressed, sad, moody, angry , guilt..Anything along those lines, go talk to somebody to help you cope with this in a healthy way. This man has pulled the wool over your eyes and it makes me worry for you, that some day soon he's going to hurt you so badly. I just hope he wasn't the one totally pushing you into your decision.. Shield your heart and make sure you have other people, other interests in your life other than just him. Don't put him first, don't make him your number one priority. 1 Link to post Share on other sites
ThatJustHappened Posted December 2, 2012 Share Posted December 2, 2012 Wait..so the wife is abusive and the husband is staying with her and allowing his child to be subjected to the abuse? Even if she's not physically abusing the kid, watching his/her dad get beaten and screamed at is NOT going to be good for him or her. Why doesn't he leave the wife and take the poor child with him? He is almost as bad a parent as his wife is. OP, I really hope you pull it together and call the police for that poor child's sake. As for yourself, you can live without him. You're choosing not to. Take responsibility for your choices. It sounds like you have enough heartache on your plate without this loser contributing to it..I truly hope you're in therapy. I can't really say anything else except good luck, and I hope things get better for you. Link to post Share on other sites
Scarlett5 Posted December 2, 2012 Share Posted December 2, 2012 OP you sound extremely naive and vulnerable. Certainly not a tough cookie who could even begin to handle the emotional impact an affair has upon oneself - a difficult situation for even the strongest and grounded of people. Your views seem very idealised, and not very realistic...almost helpless. This is absolutely not a situation to bring a child into. You are too reliant upon others (MM)....how can a child rely on you when you can't even rely on yourself? I'm worried for you. Start counselling asap and learn to gain some self worth! 1 Link to post Share on other sites
Adamgem Posted December 2, 2012 Share Posted December 2, 2012 I've been pretty much just having a relationship with this guy who's married. I kind of fell in love with him when I first saw and I'd do anything for him. Sometimes thoug I feel it's only me giving in the relationship. He says he loves me and he cares for his wife and family. But I feel like if he loved me wouldn't he be ok with my having his child. And he's everything but ok with it. If he loves me why is it he prefers his wife with this. I feel terrible about getting an abortion. But I don't know how else to get him to be how we were before. And he acted as thoug he truly loved me and now I feel it's fading. And I don't know what to do. He's in an abusive relationship with his wife for the sake of his kids but he's not willing to sacrifice anything for us. I feel like despite everything I'm nothing to him... I just want to feel what I felt in the past with him. But he's making it hard to try to keep it that way. I feel as though why after I've given him everything he still will do more risk more for a woman who beats and berates him in public. It's like he's bound to her and I don't get why because I've always felt we were soulmates. What can I do to make things better? I was pregnant too. I think completely forget about him. Really. Decide what you really want. With or without him. Do not let him influence your decision. It is your decision. I could not make up my mind. In the end I aborted (you can find some of my old posts)..... I regret it everyday. I am no longer with him and don't care. I care about the baby. I do not know if this is helpful or not. But from reading your post - he sounds useless. Mine supported me no matter what I decided. He would pay - get a nanny - anything as long as I was happy. I can't believe I was so stupid. I hate myself and I don't think I will every get over this. Good luck with your decision. I hope you make it for yourself and nobody else. Link to post Share on other sites
woinlove Posted December 2, 2012 Share Posted December 2, 2012 A few posters seem to have missed jrc1's update, where she explains she just had the abortion: Well a lot has happened since this post I actually realized I couldn't go without him. So I got back with him and I had the abortion just yesterday. I'm sad but happy he's been there for me and I'm actually more in love with him than ever I don't know I know it's not right but I'm living with the choices made really Jrc1, I agree with the post which said you seem too vulnerable to be an OW. I hope you can get counselling and have friends and/or family to confide in. Please take care of yourself and don't give up all your power to MM. Link to post Share on other sites
Scarlett5 Posted December 3, 2012 Share Posted December 3, 2012 Well a lot has happened since this post I actually realized I couldn't go without him. So I got back with him and I had the abortion just yesterday. I'm sad but happy he's been there for me and I'm actually more in love with him than ever I don't know I know it's not right but I'm living with the choices made really Disasterous. Link to post Share on other sites
Mimolicious Posted December 4, 2012 Share Posted December 4, 2012 WOW! To the OP. Seek counseling. Sounds like you have few issues to resolve before you can move forward to have any kind of emotional relationship, let alone an affair. Stop seeing this man! She is married and obviosly is not leaving his W for you. You will be wasting your youth with such man. Life is a sad thing to waste. There are plenty of single man alive! Hope later on in life you are able to have babies... or else you will deeply regret having an abortion. Link to post Share on other sites
Author justrandomchicks1 Posted December 7, 2012 Author Share Posted December 7, 2012 I'm ok with never having a baby I kind of made peace with that when I was pregnant I don't have much regret it wasn't what was meant to be I'm ok with it Link to post Share on other sites
pink_sugar Posted December 7, 2012 Share Posted December 7, 2012 It sounded like an abortion was the best option in the OP's case. She wasn't ready at all. 1 Link to post Share on other sites
passingbreeze Posted December 7, 2012 Share Posted December 7, 2012 Either this thread is totally bogus, or it's the craziest bunch of contradictions that I've ever read?? If justrandomchicks is indeed pregnant, she needs to get an abortion ASAP. Somehow, I don't believe she will ever get around to doing that! We don't need yet another single, unemployed mother living off the taxpayer, but that's exactly what will happen. As for the man in question: obviously he is not in love with her, nor is he in love with his wife. He is in love with himself. Good luck getting him to even see the baby, much less pay child support! 1 Link to post Share on other sites
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