Dating for 2-3 months. Together or apart for holidays?

[Mydish1]

Honestly, I suffer depression and anxiety. I'm fine telling people now, but when I was going through the worst of it, I felt shame, I felt like I was broken or something. And in my case, yes, it was due to family issues.

 

I think I always worried that if I opened up and made myself vulnerable, I'd be judged and rejected. It's hard to open up to people when you're scared. But you two seem to be fine otherwise right? Some people take longer to open up, but once they do, it's complete trust.

 

Yeah she admitted it'll take some time for her to get comfortable around me. I was impressed by her trust in me last week when she invited me over to her place and allowed me to leave after her (she works earlier than I do), have access to the food in her kitchen and lock up when I left. Funny enough I haven't even had the opportunity to do the same for her yet at my place.

 

For a stereotype of a woman, you'd think she would fall into the category of being emotionally open. But it isn't the case at all because she barely talks about her feelings...and probably reveals all to her therapist. I found out about the therapist by accident, but if I didn't I don't know if she would have ever told me.

 

Are you on her FB? Is her family on her FB? If so then her family probably knows what you look like and a bit about you. Even if her family is somehow not visible to you, she may have showed you to them. After two months of dating I would have.

 

One more thing, don't take FB so seriously. A relationship is official when it's official IRL. FB is so irrelevant many don't advertise their status on FB and some people even fake their Rlship status on FB.

 

Good point. I have been tagged in her photos that she posts up on Facebook. And her family has probably seen it. But then again, it's always easy to just assume a photo of a guy they see is just a friend of hers. She does have a profile picture up with one of her gay guy friends, does that mean people should assume they're an item? Probably not.

 

In less than 2 months, my family knows about her already as they've asked me and I mentioned some things. They are kind of eager to meet her, but I haven't budged. Maybe one of these weekends I'll ask if she wants to come up for dinner and see her reaction.

 

I don't take FB that seriously. But most/everyone I know who is in a relationship usually makes their status known on FB...if there is anything worth being relevant, then I think it should be the status.

 

Even people who do not visit their families often might think the holidays are special.

 

I think for her she treats it more as an obligation/tradition than the need to want to celebrate and make it special.