dreamstate83 Posted October 13, 2012 Share Posted October 13, 2012 (edited) Breakup: 2 Months ago Day: 14 Had a setback two weeks ago and sent an email. Oops. Still miss her, but staying busy doing the things I used to do~ Edited October 13, 2012 by dreamstate83 Link to post Share on other sites
a.b Posted October 13, 2012 Share Posted October 13, 2012 This is a good idea. 8 days without contact break up 14 days ago, as long as i'm busy and not thinking of her i'm almost fine (although deep down at the back of my mind I know and miss her) but then at night and in the morning I can't help but visualise what she done to me and it makes my skin crawl. Not really sure where I am. Link to post Share on other sites
KatZee Posted October 13, 2012 Share Posted October 13, 2012 Break up: 5/8/2012 Final e-mail to ex: 5/10/2012 He called 5 weeks later--- spoke for 10 minutes, back to NC for two weeks. He texted a load of horses.hit, I ripped him a new a-hole. NC since then. I don't ever anticipate hearing from him again. 2 Link to post Share on other sites
moveONorStay Posted October 13, 2012 Share Posted October 13, 2012 Break up 1 month ago NC - 6 days Gotta start somewhere, right?! 1 Link to post Share on other sites
River Rain Posted October 13, 2012 Share Posted October 13, 2012 Official breakup: 2 weeks ago Reality-check, it was over: 5 weeks ago No contact: 2 weeks I grieved for those first 3 weeks, knowing it was inevitable. Got angry, sad, hurt, desperate and fearful. Then I decided the heck with that and moved on, did my best to stay distracted, healthy and social. I had a few days where I felt that pain again, but overall I'm doing well. I'm already getting to know a new guy and it feels very good to move on. Feels good to know I'm still attractive and wanted because I lost a lot of confidence in the last relationship. Good luck to everyone! We deserve happiness and love! 3 Link to post Share on other sites
antelope82 Posted October 13, 2012 Share Posted October 13, 2012 starting over at Day 1 again, 3.5 months after breakup. went 1 week, then 2 weeks, then 1 week, then basically 6 weeks, then 2 weeks, now day 1 again. its tough with (sort-of) co-ownership of pets. but i just have to learn to filter out the cat... i guess. this isnt all NC but sometimes (very) Limited contact. Link to post Share on other sites
Ramzk001 Posted October 13, 2012 Share Posted October 13, 2012 Break Up: 31/7/2012 Last Email: 21/8/2012 NC: 3 months+ Stay stronger! Link to post Share on other sites
IST Posted October 13, 2012 Share Posted October 13, 2012 Break up: May 26th Stopped trying to be friends: June 27th Complete NC since: August 22nd Link to post Share on other sites
blue_jay_bird Posted October 13, 2012 Share Posted October 13, 2012 7 year relationship BU- 4 months ago. Broke NC- Sep, 20th i think So NC- One month... and a bit... lost count, which is a good thing i guess. Iv never been more disappointed in someone. Link to post Share on other sites
thembones Posted October 13, 2012 Share Posted October 13, 2012 Together almost 3 years. Breakup: 8/5/2012 NC since: 9/2/2012 The first month, I text her maybe 3 times. We met to catch up near the end of August, then I told her I needed closure a couple days later. Last time met for closure was 9/2/2012 and NC initiated, as I lost hope. She broke the NC to tell me someone we used to work with had died, Mid-September (he was 95 and I would have heard elsewhere). I responded with a "thank you", out of respect for the passing. Have not seen her, her car, or contacted her since then. Trying my best to completely avoid her (she lives 3 minutes from me and it is on my way to everywhere). Link to post Share on other sites
PlanB123 Posted October 13, 2012 Share Posted October 13, 2012 Break up: 13/07/12 (friday 13th) NC since: 06/08/12 she sent one breadcrumb text on 01/10/12 and unblocked me on fb. i didn't reply. first two months were easy as i knew she was with her new guy. when he dumped her on 01/10/12 it has become very hard because i know she is now single and out there ****ing everything. that is what bothers me more than anything--her giving her drunk self away cheaply. so last 13 days nc - tough going. Link to post Share on other sites
sendme Posted October 13, 2012 Share Posted October 13, 2012 13 month relationship Break up one month ago NC 13 days he sent me one breadcrumb a few days ago, I ignored it... saw pictures on Facebook last night, and a snotty comment from his sister about how I should delete them... I was hurt and sad and wondered what if I showed up at his house... but I stayed strong... so I made it to day 13! Hurray for me! 1 Link to post Share on other sites
River Rain Posted October 13, 2012 Share Posted October 13, 2012 13 month relationship Break up one month ago NC 13 days he sent me one breadcrumb a few days ago, I ignored it... saw pictures on Facebook last night, and a snotty comment from his sister about how I should delete them... I was hurt and sad and wondered what if I showed up at his house... but I stayed strong... so I made it to day 13! Hurray for me! But looking at pics on fb is contact isn't it? Don't go back there! Congrats on staying strong! Link to post Share on other sites
BrokenDreamCatcher Posted October 13, 2012 Share Posted October 13, 2012 Together 9 yrs He cheated before about a year ago, I tried to move on, started dating someone new, he came back with lots of tears and pleading and apologies, I fell for it. Things seemed to be going in the right direction, until yesterday when I confronted him about a woman, and left a comment on his fb. He then just cut me off like that, deleted and blocked me form everything. Said he was getting out of my life. Very abrupt and sudden. With him leaving town tomorrow for 5 wks, maybe that will makes NC easier. Day 1 here.. Link to post Share on other sites
suladas Posted October 13, 2012 Share Posted October 13, 2012 Been almost 2 weeks now, 3 months since the BU. The last contact wasn't a breakdown for me, it was deleting her off of facebook and just telling her I didn't want to see it anymore, if it wasn't for that i'd be up to 5 weeks now. I did hit a 1 month before to. Not in NC though, it's just LC since we are neighbors. Don't talk, but still see each other a bit and stuff. It's been tougher but i've just learned to live with the reminder she is still there and don't fight it. Link to post Share on other sites
College_Stoodent Posted October 13, 2012 Share Posted October 13, 2012 6.5 year relationship One case of GIGS later ... BU - 23 Sept NC - 25 Sept Almost 3 weeks of NC so far Link to post Share on other sites
Author dreamstate83 Posted October 14, 2012 Author Share Posted October 14, 2012 Well, back to day 1! Not out of weakness, but out of my desire to understand how people think. Ah well~ Link to post Share on other sites
River Rain Posted October 14, 2012 Share Posted October 14, 2012 Well, back to day 1! Not out of weakness, but out of my desire to understand how people think. Ah well~ We all have setbacks...just be strong. 3 Link to post Share on other sites
GlassParasol Posted October 14, 2012 Share Posted October 14, 2012 Date of BU: 26/07/2012. NC since: 26/07/2012. Miss him sometimes, but I already knew it was over anyhow long before BU happened. Staying strong, and bettering myself everyday. Link to post Share on other sites
River Rain Posted October 14, 2012 Share Posted October 14, 2012 Date of BU: 26/07/2012. NC since: 26/07/2012. Miss him sometimes, but I already knew it was over anyhow long before BU happened. Staying strong, and bettering myself everyday. Same here, I knew it was over 3 weeks before it was official. The best thing you can do is take care of yourself and live with pride. You don't need him to be happy, keep telling yourself that because it's the truth. 1 Link to post Share on other sites
GlassParasol Posted October 14, 2012 Share Posted October 14, 2012 Same here, I knew it was over 3 weeks before it was official. The best thing you can do is take care of yourself and live with pride. You don't need him to be happy, keep telling yourself that because it's the truth. I'm sorry you went through it too. It's hard knowing when it's coming, but it hurt me just as much as if I hadn't. Yes, you're right and I am slowly learning that - it helps if I know that in the grand scheme of things, he's just a bump in the road. I read your post and I'm glad to see you're also moving on. We can do it, just takes time. 1 Link to post Share on other sites
suladas Posted October 14, 2012 Share Posted October 14, 2012 Well, back to day 1! Not out of weakness, but out of my desire to understand how people think. Ah well~ Live and learn it's happened to all of us, I think it's better to learn first hand instead of taking advice for some things. I had the urge today again. All I do to stop myself is tell myself i've told her how I feel, she knows and there's nothing else I can do but keep moving on. Link to post Share on other sites
Author dreamstate83 Posted October 14, 2012 Author Share Posted October 14, 2012 Let's make this post a double function post. If you want to text your ex back and have convinced yourself there is a good reason, post it here first so we can talk you out of it! Link to post Share on other sites
Svet74 Posted October 14, 2012 Share Posted October 14, 2012 im an oldie lol broke up back in april of 2011 jeez, still have feelings for him. NC 1 month at this point. Longest was 3 months Link to post Share on other sites
bluefairy812 Posted October 15, 2012 Share Posted October 15, 2012 i'm considering breaking NC to contact my ex because he owes me money. and i'm very broke. what should i do? Link to post Share on other sites
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