suladas Posted October 26, 2012 Share Posted October 26, 2012 Wow... what a jackass. adding insult to injury... We all need such wake-up calls! Glad you have had yours and can now move on! X2. It's almost a blessing when they do something like that and you realize they just aren't worth it. I kinda wish my ex would have done something like that. I can think of her as a bad person for a while, but I know it's not really true so it doesn't last long. And her actions seeing her still give me reason to believe she isn't over me and it sucks Link to post Share on other sites
River Rain Posted November 3, 2012 Share Posted November 3, 2012 I'm back and humbled and kind of crying a lot... NC: day 1 again, the reconciliation was wishful thinking, damn him. Link to post Share on other sites
Tree_Salmon Posted November 3, 2012 Share Posted November 3, 2012 I'm back and humbled and kind of crying a lot... NC: day 1 again, the reconciliation was wishful thinking, damn him. It's hard to resist believing in that fairy tale that everything can go back to being great but its something we all have to face. You'll get to a new place eventually. Then you wont care about that old crappy relationship anymore. Everyone around me is rushing into relationships recently and it sometimes bothers me but when i really think about it, its about quality. So take your time and stick with NC. Link to post Share on other sites
River Rain Posted November 3, 2012 Share Posted November 3, 2012 It's hard to resist believing in that fairy tale that everything can go back to being great but its something we all have to face. You'll get to a new place eventually. Then you wont care about that old crappy relationship anymore. Everyone around me is rushing into relationships recently and it sometimes bothers me but when i really think about it, its about quality. So take your time and stick with NC. Harder still to resist his words and promises that he's changed, and that I'm the best thing that's ever happened to him, etc...when reality hits, it's truly just make believe, in this case, hard to accept though, I do feel foolish and pretty much used up and discarded. This too shall pass and I'll be fine I managed NC for a month before, but this time it's for keeps. Link to post Share on other sites
Tree_Salmon Posted November 3, 2012 Share Posted November 3, 2012 Harder still to resist his words and promises that he's changed, and that I'm the best thing that's ever happened to him, etc...when reality hits, it's truly just make believe, in this case, hard to accept though, I do feel foolish and pretty much used up and discarded. This too shall pass and I'll be fine I managed NC for a month before, but this time it's for keeps. Most people are full of sh*t. They speak in the moment and want to feel a certain way but they don't really get it. If those things were all true, you wouldn't be here. He would have done all the right things a long time ago. Keep bottom lining all those actions whenever you feel down. Things are easy when someone loves you. You don't have to drag it out of them. 1 Link to post Share on other sites
River Rain Posted November 3, 2012 Share Posted November 3, 2012 Most people are full of sh*t. They speak in the moment and want to feel a certain way but they don't really get it. If those things were all true, you wouldn't be here. He would have done all the right things a long time ago. Keep bottom lining all those actions whenever you feel down. Things are easy when someone loves you. You don't have to drag it out of them. You're so right, I shouldn't have to drag anything out of him - or any man who claims to love me. I just became the dumper, I was the dumpee the last time, so I stood up for my dignity this time around, but I still feel like sh*t. It's all just emotion and rejection. I'm sure I'll feel a lot better in a few days. But NC remains permanent with this one. Too much damage done now. Link to post Share on other sites
BrokenPrincess Posted November 3, 2012 Share Posted November 3, 2012 We are both married and knew it would never end well just based on statistics but I never imagined it would hurt so much to erase this person from my life. His wife found out 10/13 and we said goodbye 10/16, NC since then. I am respectful of his wishes to try to rebuild the trust in his marriage, but this week I still feel these instincts to want to email or call him with little things going on. Anyway, I am thankful for this thread to show me that maybe in a few more weeks these feelings will fade. When the urge hits me, I feel like I am a LS addict, looking for ANYTHING comforting to read to get my mind off contacting him!! :/ 1 Link to post Share on other sites
Tree_Salmon Posted November 3, 2012 Share Posted November 3, 2012 We are both married and knew it would never end well just based on statistics but I never imagined it would hurt so much to erase this person from my life. His wife found out 10/13 and we said goodbye 10/16, NC since then. I am respectful of his wishes to try to rebuild the trust in his marriage, but this week I still feel these instincts to want to email or call him with little things going on. Anyway, I am thankful for this thread to show me that maybe in a few more weeks these feelings will fade. When the urge hits me, I feel like I am a LS addict, looking for ANYTHING comforting to read to get my mind off contacting him!! :/ Yeah, ive never really needed help dealing with these feelings before. I guess its because im older and my relationship was 6 years long. It's hard getting rid of people even though I'm the dumper. I also feel rejection and all that. Mostly because she was with a guy almost instantly. But most of the time I don't really care as much as I feel that i should. There have to be more people out there we are compatible with. Just have to be open to letting them in. Link to post Share on other sites
sweetkiwi Posted November 3, 2012 Share Posted November 3, 2012 i can't sleep because usually i'm in your bed with you. Where i'm comfortable. Where you're there, breathing next to me. I'm watching the run rise. Wishing you would just say something. When you wake up i won't be there. You'll have your breakfast and miss me. I was so good to you. I love you so much i wanted to be perfect for you. The first time in my life. I thought i'd be okay just hours ago. Then i think of your eyes. Of your voice. I barely ate today. Smoked a lot of weed. I miss you. I want to be with you now. But you need to wake up on your own. Figuratively and literaly. Everyone says you're asleep. Some people think you're dull but i know different. You started to blossom with me. Did i end it too quick? Link to post Share on other sites
thembones Posted November 4, 2012 Share Posted November 4, 2012 I broke NC last night! It was good and bad. Broke up 3 months ago. NC - 1 Day. Story below if you wish to read: http://www.loveshack.org/forums/breaking-up-reconciliation-coping/breaks-breaking-up/355300-i-broke-nc-after-2-months-questions-abound#post4369557 Link to post Share on other sites
boblet Posted November 4, 2012 Share Posted November 4, 2012 BU: 2 months ago, (almost) 2 year relationship Day 29 of NC, almost at that 30 day mark! Some days are unbearable, today I really miss him. Link to post Share on other sites
notsosuperman Posted November 4, 2012 Share Posted November 4, 2012 BU: 24th september. I started NC the 26th, she contacted me 6 days later to hear how I was, and I responded. Since then I have been NC, so almost 5 weeks. It is so weird... Link to post Share on other sites
terlislee Posted November 4, 2012 Share Posted November 4, 2012 BU 3 months ago, haven't heard from him for over two, but tried to contact him a few times. Went NC for 6 weeks, broke it last week so now I'm day 5 and pretty much at the anger stage once again Link to post Share on other sites
Harradin Posted November 4, 2012 Share Posted November 4, 2012 Chose to go NC 2 weeks and 2 days ago after she messed me around with feelings etc. Had a few moments where I've had to hide mutual friend's posts (photos with her in it) but its all good. I have no way of contacting her as she's blocked on Facebook and I deleted her number. Not heard anything from her, realising she wasn't worth my time so not getting as bad feelings about trying to get in touch with her as she's still with the guy she left me for. Link to post Share on other sites
Bad_Feeling Posted November 4, 2012 Share Posted November 4, 2012 She broke up with me 5-6-12 NC to 8-21-12, I sent a text. No reponse Contact via text from her 10-30-12. I did not respond. Link to post Share on other sites
4lic3 Posted November 9, 2012 Share Posted November 9, 2012 Broke up: 6/08/12 No contact since: 9/10/12 It wasn't easy but i'm getting better. I don't think we'll ever talk again and its okay. I don't need a narcissist jerk. Link to post Share on other sites
songbird70 Posted November 9, 2012 Share Posted November 9, 2012 BU 7/26 and haven't had ANY contact since :-(. Not because I haven't tried but the man lives in a cave...lol Link to post Share on other sites
puzzled1 Posted November 9, 2012 Share Posted November 9, 2012 Last contact. 10/28/12 She called me and also texted me 11/3/12 (I never responded) She texted again 11/5/12 (didnt respond) now I keep wanting to text/ check up on her, but I know that is only going to push me back and hurt me even more. So one day at a time by faking it till making it Link to post Share on other sites
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