Are introverted otaku girls like this? whats next? I'm lost.

[Kokoro-Fan]

Last year I asked this introverted, otaku girl out (otaku = very into gaming, anime, etc.). She never initiated conversation with anyone but if you spoke to her, she'd talk. I did most of the talking when I initiated conversations with her and they ended up being extremely short and sometimes awkward. So yeah, eventually I asked her out, she said yes (huge shocker) and nothing came out of it. For some reason, I took it the wrong way that she still wouldn't initiate conversations and didn't reply to another text message I sent (she only replied to 1), so I gave up completely and instantly.

 

A year later: present time. I have classes with her. It was awkward for me at first because I never moved on. I avoided eye contact and everything with her. I kept thinking of ways to talk to her but nothing. Then things started getting a little less awkward for me. Class is all about team work and we had to be around each other a lot but still we didn't talk or anything.

 

Until recently. I found an opportunity to talk to her. Let me explain: since class started, we always 'street pass' each other. Street pass is a neat feature on the 3DS that exchanges information (avatar, profile, etc.) with other 3DS users near you. We are the only people in our classes that have one. After a couple of weeks, she rated my 3DS avatar. I got the prompt on my 3DS and I got happy. This could mean many things right? Do you guys think she meant something? For one, she didn't have to rate at all (I didn't to avoid awkwardness).

 

So that week I decided to talk to her and I did it after class. It was very short and straight to the point mainly. I told her I noticed she plays X game and if I could add her. So we both added each other. I can't read girls (especially her) but I don't know, it felt like she didn't want to talk? LIke when I started talking, she smiled and looked down. I'm not sure how to describe the smile though.

 

So that weekend I used the 3DS' messaging feature. I wrote her a message saying thanks for adding me and that I really like her art work. I also attached a little drawing I made of kirby. She replied back saying no problem and thanks as well; she included a drawing of a character she created.

 

But yeah this week, I couldn't figure out how to talk to her or anything. There was a moment in class where we stood right next to each other but neither one of us said a word. I really don't know what to say to her. If I went on a date with her then I'd feel more comfortable talking. I don't know if its normal for a girl like her to be this way, if shes interested or not which is why she's being really shy, or anything. Its driving me crazy.

 

Which brings up another thing, would it still be a good idea to ask her out to the movies despite not really interacting with her at school? I plan on saying hi and things like that though. I also plan on playing 3DS with her online and maybe using 3DS as a way to talk to her more. Maybe messaging her as well (but I will ask her out in person of course).

 

I admit, I'm shy around girls I like but that disappears after a short while. But its different with this girl. Maybe its because she doesn't talk much. I'm afraid we'll have no chemistry at all and makes me very sad. That sucks because I really like her and want to get to know her more. She's like my dream girl. We're also into the game things like gaming, anime, etc. Maybe she just needs to trust me? She has to know I like her right? I asked her out last year.

 

But yeah, what do you guys think? I'm really lost here. I'd hate to be heart broken again but at the same time I really need to get this off my chest. I scrwed up last year and I'm happy to see her again. I was waiting for this moment. Any advice would be appreciated. I want to give up but I simply can't. I don't even know how and will continue trying until I get a real answer (rejection or I end up going out with her). Oh and is it a problem if I look like a tough guy? Everyone thinks I'm a little intimidating because I look like a rocker but when people get to know me, they consider me one of the nicest persons they've met. Plus I've been pretty shy to this girl.

[unluckycat]

First off, how old are you? I'm curious.

 

Secondly, from the sound of it, it doesn't seem like you can talk to her just as much as she doesn't talk to you. I used to be really shy unless someone talked to me. And the more they talked, the more I'd open up. Maybe ask her about her artwork or characters, get her to talk about her interests or something? It sounds like she'll talk if you think of more things to discuss with her? I know I was like that, so maybe it's similar...?

 

I am an otaku myself, so I know that nerds tend to be a bit awkward when being social, so it's hard to open up. But just keep trying to find common ground or something. Maybe ask her out to lunch or something (can't really talk during a movie, save that for a later date).

[Kokoro-Fan]

First off, how old are you? I'm curious.

 

Secondly, from the sound of it, it doesn't seem like you can talk to her just as much as she doesn't talk to you. I used to be really shy unless someone talked to me. And the more they talked, the more I'd open up. Maybe ask her about her artwork or characters, get her to talk about her interests or something? It sounds like she'll talk if you think of more things to discuss with her? I know I was like that, so maybe it's similar...?

 

I am an otaku myself, so I know that nerds tend to be a bit awkward when being social, so it's hard to open up. But just keep trying to find common ground or something. Maybe ask her out to lunch or something (can't really talk during a movie, save that for a later date).

 

I'm 21. I think my problem is fear. I tried talking to her last year every now and then but it ended up being very short. I always had to initiate conversations and all and she never went out of her way to do that. That's why its hard for me to just try talking. I had a chance to talk to her but I tried not to because I knew the same problem would occur.

 

A movie would be perfect for us I think since we are both shy. I'm very shy with her but I can talk just fine with other people. Besides talking can be done before or after the movies just like I have done before.