bodes4567 Posted October 15, 2012 Share Posted October 15, 2012 My girlfriend and I go to two different colleges far away from each other so we agreed that we could be "exclusive" only when we were both home and together in person but while were away at school we were basically single. Recently i got her to admit to me that she has been sleeping with one of her guy friends for a few weeks now. Even though I'm in love with her in a way it turns me on knowing that another guy is enjoying her. I want to figure out a way where I can get details about her sex life . I've asked her like how many times a week she gets with him, if she sleeps at his place , and sometimes ill ask her when the last time she did something with him was but , i want to be able to ask her for details but in a non obvious way like i don't want her to get weirded out that i want to know about her sexual activities with him. It has to be a subtle way that leads into her telling me more and more about what they do. Link to post Share on other sites
SensitiveTJ Posted October 15, 2012 Share Posted October 15, 2012 My girlfriend and I go to two different colleges far away from each other so we agreed that we could be "exclusive" only when we were both home and together in person but while were away at school we were basically single. Recently i got her to admit to me that she has been sleeping with one of her guy friends for a few weeks now. Even though I'm in love with her in a way it turns me on knowing that another guy is enjoying her. I want to figure out a way where I can get details about her sex life . I've asked her like how many times a week she gets with him, if she sleeps at his place , and sometimes ill ask her when the last time she did something with him was but , i want to be able to ask her for details but in a non obvious way like i don't want her to get weirded out that i want to know about her sexual activities with him. It has to be a subtle way that leads into her telling me more and more about what they do. Not to be a downer here, but no matter how you put the question there's a very good chance it's going to be weird. Even though it sounds like both of you are comfortable with what appears to be an "open" or "semi-open" relationship, being interested in the intimate details of what she's doing with other guys is unusual. And she might react badly when you, even if it's a well-crafted query. Is she curious about what you do with other girls? That might be a clue as to how she might respond. Link to post Share on other sites
road Posted October 15, 2012 Share Posted October 15, 2012 In open relationships the woman always wins because she can always get more men to f**** her. If I was OP I would ditch this woman. I know he is in love (probably because he is a nice guy). She is not in love at all. Women in love don't f**** other men in that manner. best advice Link to post Share on other sites
Chi townD Posted October 15, 2012 Share Posted October 15, 2012 Pierre is absolutely right. She has no remorse. SHe doesn't care that she's screwing some other dude. That tells me that she has no respect for you. And it's hard to love a person you don't respect.. The relationship is over. You just don't see it. Time to move on. Link to post Share on other sites
Plan 9 from OS Posted October 15, 2012 Share Posted October 15, 2012 Deep down do you have the cuckold fetish? It sorta sounds like you do. IMO, you need to break up with this GF and do some soul searching to figure out why you get off knowing that other guys are having their way with your GF. If left unchecked, you'll soon be having fantasies about your wife having sex with other men and will want to make this happen. 1 Link to post Share on other sites
karnak Posted October 15, 2012 Share Posted October 15, 2012 Deep down do you have the cuckold fetish? It sorta sounds like you do. IMO, you need to break up with this GF and do some soul searching to figure out why you get off knowing that other guys are having their way with your GF. If left unchecked, you'll soon be having fantasies about your wife having sex with other men and will want to make this happen. Unfortunately, MANY guys do have this kind of "cuckold fetishism". In fact, I believe some unconsciously marry women that they know will later cheat on them. That's why so many guys (and gals) want to stay married even after knowing they've been cheated on. Then they use lame excuses (like the "we have children factor") in order to be at peace with themselves and justify their fetish. Link to post Share on other sites
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