Eternal Sunshine Posted October 15, 2012 Share Posted October 15, 2012 I seem to accomplish great things when I am angry. I get this burst of energy "I will show the whole world!!!!" I put extra effort in my work, I kill it at the gym. It has helped me move forward many times. After a break up for example, getting angry instead of depressed was the key for me. 2 Link to post Share on other sites
Pyro Posted October 15, 2012 Share Posted October 15, 2012 but if you hold on to that anger for too long it may block you from certain positive things in your life, so anger could go either way. Link to post Share on other sites
MonsterMash Posted October 15, 2012 Share Posted October 15, 2012 I seem to accomplish great things when I am angry. I get this burst of energy "I will show the whole world!!!!" I put extra effort in my work, I kill it at the gym. It has helped me move forward many times. After a break up for example, getting angry instead of depressed was the key for me. I'm the same way. I totally understand it. Link to post Share on other sites
Anela Posted October 15, 2012 Share Posted October 15, 2012 I can relate to this, and what Pyro said. I know that in recent years, I've recognized depression as anger turned inwards. I distinctly remember being curled up, in and out of a depression-sleep, and then I thought of something that made me angry: the next thing I knew, I felt a spark of hunger, sat up and drank a little gatorade, and then went to the kitchen to make some spaghetti, getting in the shower whilst it cooked. I've also been stuck there for almost three years. It eased up at times, but it's come roaring right back due to ongoing situations. I hope to find balance somewhere in the middle, like right now when I'm finally feeling a little better after a really bad five days. Anger has helped with certain things, but the happiness I've felt here and there, has made me want to draw again, and make other things. Link to post Share on other sites
soccerrprp Posted October 15, 2012 Share Posted October 15, 2012 Anger can sometimes be a positive emotion, but mostly NOT. The key is how it is dispersed and whether that anger consistently rears its head to further and gradually taint the person demonstrating such. If it takes anger to get you to do what should be done under normal, healthier conditions, then you are a firecracker ready to explode it seems during that time of adrenaline, anger, bitterness... Link to post Share on other sites
todreaminblue Posted October 15, 2012 Share Posted October 15, 2012 I seem to accomplish great things when I am angry. I get this burst of energy "I will show the whole world!!!!" I put extra effort in my work, I kill it at the gym. It has helped me move forward many times. After a break up for example, getting angry instead of depressed was the key for me. I can beat the stuffing out of a bag when I am angry but honestly getting angry at people makes feel guilt and guilt is destructive to me.I have this kaleidoscope of angry faces in my head that i remember being angry at me....i dont find anger constructive unless it is to kick box the crap out of kickboxing bag....determination is what gets me through the bad times.....i dont have to be angry to do that.....i fight when i have to ...i dotn nurture the anger....like an athlete....an athlete or a boxer doesnt fight for the sport because he angry.........he fights because he loves the sport and has respect for his opponent and respect for the sport....there's no anger.....anger causes losses actually......not wins.....you are too caught up being angry.......you miss the sucker punch.you need determination, respect and love to actually win at anything..karate masters are not angry people......they are in fact......eerily calm and serene..........put me up against an angry person any day.......they are the ones who make mistakes...you can find the loop holes that make them vulnerable..this is a lesson i have learned......never go angry its false logic.......go calm.......deb Link to post Share on other sites
Author Eternal Sunshine Posted October 15, 2012 Author Share Posted October 15, 2012 I meant more, after a break up with my ex - I was never depressed. I didn't dwell on good memories. I kept thinking "He is a piece of s... and I am 10 times better than him in every way. He doesn't have a hope in hell getting anyone that's even close to me." Then I threw myself into work, eating healthy and exercise. I remember in the past lying in bed for days/weeks post break up and thinking "I miss him soooo much. I will never find anyone like him. Life is not worth living" sniff sniff. Missing work, cancelling on friends. Give me anger any day. 2 Link to post Share on other sites
todreaminblue Posted October 15, 2012 Share Posted October 15, 2012 I meant more, after a break up with my ex - I was never depressed. I didn't dwell on good memories. I kept thinking "He is a piece of s... and I am 10 times better than him in every way. He doesn't have a hope in hell getting anyone that's even close to me." Then I threw myself into work, eating healthy and exercise. I remember in the past lying in bed for days/weeks post break up and thinking "I miss him soooo much. I will never find anyone like him. Life is not worth living" sniff sniff. Missing work, cancelling on friends. Give me anger any day. is that anger actually or just fierce determination....sounds more like that too me.....cheers for your clarification....hugs.....deb 1 Link to post Share on other sites
Hawaii50 Posted October 15, 2012 Share Posted October 15, 2012 (edited) is that anger actually or just fierce determination....sounds more like that too me.....cheers for your clarification....hugs.....deb I agree, I think we're talking about the wrong feeling or at least a miss-interpretation of the original feeling. I do understand the feeling you're talking about, but haven't thought much about it... most things, if not all, spring from either love or fear. Edited October 15, 2012 by Hawaii50 1 Link to post Share on other sites
Hawaii50 Posted October 15, 2012 Share Posted October 15, 2012 I think breaking up with a bad situation makes you more able to see your own self worth a bit more, and now you have a whole lot more time on your hands. Where as maybe in your second instance of crying on the bed is was maybe, the opposite. Or some of the things that you did to end it, or he left you etc.. 1 Link to post Share on other sites
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