t24021994 Posted July 29, 2004 Share Posted July 29, 2004 I have a friend, so-called friend. She only uses me to babysit her kids. She can't even go grocery store with her kids. She met this man back in December and is getting married this Saturday. She is a gold digger, a cheater and a all around lazy person. She has told me before that she has never been faithful to anyone. A few months ago she cussed him out over the phone in front of me and a few other people. The way she went about it was awful....you are suppose to be "in love" and have those butterfly feelings, not yelling and cussing your lover out. The night before last they both came over here and brought her children for me to watch while they went to a movie.....he didn't look very happy. So, here is the problem.....I am attracted to this man and I see alot of good qualities in him that she doesn't see. I use to be married to an alcoholic and would love to find a good man. I keep telling myself to pick up the phone and call him on his cell phone and tell him how I feel. I don't want to start trouble or do I want to be classified as a home wrecker. I do not believe she is getting married for the "right reasons". So I need some advice as what to do.......please hurry.....their wedding is Saturday. PS The wedding isn't a big wedding. They bought the marriage license and everyone else is "donating" things for the wedding. How sad! Link to post Share on other sites
Olivia_19742004 Posted July 29, 2004 Share Posted July 29, 2004 To be quite honest, their relationship isn't any of your business. So, although I understand that you wanted to give the full picture, stating that she doesn't treat him well won't justify you making advances on a man that is supposed to get married on Saturday. You're not his personal savior and he is an adult that needs to make his own choices. He is marrying her for a reason and regardless of whether or not you think it's a good idea it's not your decision to make. There are other good men out there. Link to post Share on other sites
Author t24021994 Posted July 29, 2004 Author Share Posted July 29, 2004 I didn't want to call him and tell him what an awful person she is.....I just wanted to call and let him know that I was interested in him and if it didn't work out between them then look me up. Sometime things in life only come around once. Originally posted by Olivia_19742004 To be quite honest, their relationship isn't any of your business. So, although I understand that you wanted to give the full picture, stating that she doesn't treat him well won't justify you making advances on a man that is supposed to get married on Saturday. You're not his personal savior and he is an adult that needs to make his own choices. He is marrying her for a reason and regardless of whether or not you think it's a good idea it's not your decision to make. There are other good men out there. Link to post Share on other sites
Olivia_19742004 Posted July 29, 2004 Share Posted July 29, 2004 If that's what you want to do then do it. Link to post Share on other sites
Pained Posted July 29, 2004 Share Posted July 29, 2004 I agree with Olivia, but I think you should keep it at a "if you'd ever like to talk about anything" level, with a warm smile. Oh, and hand those children back to her. They're HER children, and SHE needs to raise them. Link to post Share on other sites
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