IsSheACheat Posted October 16, 2012 Share Posted October 16, 2012 Ok so I have had a sick feeling about this for a while now. We have been fighting more and our sex life is gone. When we started out she was obsessed with me and we had sex a lot. I could barely keep up. Now nothing. And when we do it is like she is disgusted which, just makes everything all the more worse. I have had many partners and the only other time i have experienced this from a woman was when my fiance broke up with me years ago so you can see how i might be a bit paranoid. i'm not a bad guy, and she's not a bad girl, however something is terribly a miss. I have tried to talk to her but she won't talk and gets angry and defensive if I ask her is she's cheating - and yes I have asked her straight forward. All the boxes are ticked in addition to my own intuition, she stays out now with new work mates and works longer and is strange in her communication, she buys new clothes, goes on work trips, is more conscious of her health, doesn't really care about me and I feel her looking down on me even though i am trying etc, etc, etc. Sounds pathetic I hate even writing this but hey, it's true. It is getting ridiculous, the other day at hr work function she was edgy so I said go have fun and talk to your workmates and do what you need to so she instantly walked off and stood alone with a man from her work for a while which ive never seen her do. I don't like it and am coming across as a paranoid freak now but... Link to post Share on other sites
Author IsSheACheat Posted October 16, 2012 Author Share Posted October 16, 2012 When we met she told me all of her secrets and fantasies, one of the problems she had had with her last partner was that she believed they 'grew apart' and she went off to see a 'friend' and slept with him - later saying that the relationship was over anyways. This scares the **** out of me as she is attractive and won't have any problems finding a guy who will oblige. Also, she rarely kisses me on the lips anymore and jokes with me like we're best buddies. Link to post Share on other sites
karnak Posted October 16, 2012 Share Posted October 16, 2012 When we met she told me all of her secrets and fantasies, one of the problems she had had with her last partner was that she believed they 'grew apart' and she went off to see a 'friend' and slept with him - later saying that the relationship was over anyways. This scares the **** out of me as she is attractive and won't have any problems finding a guy who will oblige. Also, she rarely kisses me on the lips anymore and jokes with me like we're best buddies. It's over. Link to post Share on other sites
road Posted October 16, 2012 Share Posted October 16, 2012 How many times is she going to have to stick a fork in you for you to realize that you are done? 1 Link to post Share on other sites
mammasita Posted October 16, 2012 Share Posted October 16, 2012 She's cheating. Link to post Share on other sites
ThatJustHappened Posted October 16, 2012 Share Posted October 16, 2012 She may or may not be cheating on you, but either way she has obviously checked out of the relationship. It's over..she's just waiting for you to dump her so she doesn't have to be the one to do it. 3 Link to post Share on other sites
PlanB123 Posted October 17, 2012 Share Posted October 17, 2012 yup done. she's cheating. will finish with you when one of the guys she ****ing shows he is interested in a relationship. the not kissing thing...its coz she kissed someone else that day (or put her lips somewhere even worse) so she feels guilty then kissing you. Link to post Share on other sites
Cb3657 Posted October 17, 2012 Share Posted October 17, 2012 I think one way to handle this is just go completely no contact with her. Don't try to talk it out, just move out and stop answering your phone for a bit. I think you will find the truth pretty quick (good or bad). I also think by the tone of your post you already know the answer so don't give her the satisfaction of a big drama do the predump unless you think it is worth trying to save a relationship with a serial cheater who is cheating prior to marriage Link to post Share on other sites
ThatJustHappened Posted October 17, 2012 Share Posted October 17, 2012 I think one way to handle this is just go completely no contact with her. Don't try to talk it out, just move out and stop answering your phone for a bit. I think you will find the truth pretty quick (good or bad). I also think by the tone of your post you already know the answer so don't give her the satisfaction of a big drama do the predump unless you think it is worth trying to save a relationship with a serial cheater who is cheating prior to marriage Ugh, don't do this. It's extremely immature. Link to post Share on other sites
Cb3657 Posted October 18, 2012 Share Posted October 18, 2012 Ok guess I am wrong on this then, I just thought , if he knows she's cheating and has tried several times to talk to her, get no reply except agnst, what are his options? The times in my life I truly remember with embarrassment are the big drama moments, what good came of it, I got to yell and feel betrayed she got the release of being dumped yaaa I still say skip it if it's over. Link to post Share on other sites
Cb3657 Posted October 18, 2012 Share Posted October 18, 2012 Ya wanna have some real fun , go to full investigation mode, drag it out, find all the dirty details, confront her with them, then try to rebuild a relationship that neither of you really needs. Run it through your mind 100 times a day, it will make you a better person. Link to post Share on other sites
ThatJustHappened Posted October 18, 2012 Share Posted October 18, 2012 Cb3657 how old are you? Link to post Share on other sites
Cb3657 Posted October 18, 2012 Share Posted October 18, 2012 You are absolutely right, I'm a immature brat of a fella, Sorry but this guy is seeing a absolute checkout, what do you suggest? Don't focus on me, I just suggested one way to go, find a better option and suggest it to him, if my option was immature by your standards then please lead on. Link to post Share on other sites
ThatJustHappened Posted October 18, 2012 Share Posted October 18, 2012 Have a conversation with her. Tell her it's over. Walk away with dignity. Be sad, then move on. Link to post Share on other sites
MonsterMash Posted October 18, 2012 Share Posted October 18, 2012 Don't tell her ****. Pack your bags and go. Don't even be sad about it. If she asks why...tell her she already knows. But don't get drawn into a conversation about it. Short, sweet and to the point. Link to post Share on other sites
CC12 Posted October 18, 2012 Share Posted October 18, 2012 OP, nobody here knows if your girlfriend is cheating on you or not. Surely you're not going to take the replies here and go, "Well, that does it. People on the internet said she's cheating on me so it must be true." It almost doesn't even matter whether she's cheating or not. She seems to have checked out of the relationship. You think she doesn't even care about you. What's the point of staying? 2 Link to post Share on other sites
Cb3657 Posted October 18, 2012 Share Posted October 18, 2012 I suppose I came across poorly in my second post which was meant to be sarcasm, I agree with most of the posters here, walk away try to hold onto your dignity. Link to post Share on other sites
sweetkiwi Posted October 18, 2012 Share Posted October 18, 2012 sometimes things fizzle out. I'm dealing with parts of this as well. Maybe she's not cheating. Maybe she's just unhappy. Doesn't seem like she's in it anymore, so its not really in your hands anymore. She won't talk. She's done. Its done. You can talk and talk and talk but she has to want to change. 1 Link to post Share on other sites
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