Mother is tired of herself.

[ahmedelsaka]

hey,

my mom is really getting on me, she is a mother and she has duties, and i respect that she can get angry because of them, so i just wanted her to be happier, so i went and started doing small things that i can such as doing the dishes, doing my lazy brothers beds, but she is still angry no matter what, she goes crazy, so me and my sister kept on doing everything, we just left stuff we dont know how to do like helping my lil bro in his homework and cooking and other stuff that to her and she still starts shouting at us for it, no matter what we try and she still starts b*tching out to us! and we just try to help her, and in the end she still starts b*tching out saying stuff like " yeah ill just go and work like im a slave to you" and never stops no matter what! and especially to my sister, she literally hates her, like when she comes in the room my mom starts staring at her for no reason, no matter what happens there is always some problem in the house from my mom, my dad is always working in his office, my brother is always out so he doesent stay in the house with our f*cked up terms, and when i try to stop them from fighting, they both end up making it worse for all 3 of us, my dad never interferes even though he knows whats going on, and all he says is go study, and i just hate this. im stuck at home doing nothing but stay in the screaming :/ and what really pisses me off is that my mom really hates her, dont say "no shes your mom she loves her" no she doesent, she really doesent, and she is angry when she has to do anything, like ANYTHING, i mean i respect that she is a mom and needs a break, but like when she does anything she gets angry, i mean thats way too much she should just try to bear atleast something, i cant remember the time she was actually normal. i try and do everything and keep up with studies and i put aside my social and love related problems just to help her and bear with it for her, but she still doesent do anything, i think that she should have atleast something, i never mention anything to her, but she kills up with everything else, and my older brother and father dont do anything like that. my dad has enough as he is overflowing with work and my brother is just a lazy a**hole who just goes out and runs away and i cant go out, i cant make her happy, and i cant make her stop hating my sister. i just have to wait and watch this mayhem at home and be depressed about it. and she still is on good terms with my father he is just not home with his work. and i know that there is nothing else that could get her up like this cause she has been like this for as long as i remember. i hate this......

 

my mom is too lazy to be a mother and is angry for it.

my dad is never home.

my sister is hated by her mother.

my older brother just runs away from the problems. (though i dont blame him, id do the same if i could)

my little brother is stupid and lazy to do anything on his own.

 

scr*w this! :/

[turnera]

She sounds depressed or at least unhappy with her husband. Nothing you can do anything about. But from my experience, you stepping in and making life easier for her isn't helping her. It just makes it easier to spend more time thinking about how miserable she is.

 

If I were you, I would read as much as you can about marriage, relationships, things like that, and if you find an opportunity to drop in an idea about ways she could do something differently, mention it. She may have never considered changing her life, but she can - it's just up to her, not you.

 

Also, stop doing things for the boys in your family. All that does is train them to be like their dad, who expects the females to do everything.

[Wolfcub]

You can't make her happy. Happines comes from within, not something somebody gives. Yes, she may be depressed, but you can't tell why, there are so many possible reasons: relations with dad, taking care of 4 children, menopause (oh, do read about that, that can make a nice mom into a real monster!), some other physical problems she doesn't want to speak about. Anyway its her who should want to do something about it and carry it out, be it psychotherapy, medication to take, surgery, travel to Mediterrainean or anything else.