venusianx13 Posted October 16, 2012 Share Posted October 16, 2012 It's been a while since the custody arrangement between me and my son's father had been mapped out in court. Probably close to 6 years. Other than that, we've been to court about 3 other times over the years, for a few issues that have arisen (substance abuse concerns about my ex, child support agreements, etc.) I do not miss going to court - it is a long, stressful, and unpleasant experience (for all of us). In previous posts, I've described my son's dad as a relatively irresponsible, disinterested, serial co-habitator who continuously subjects our son to his new partners. He recently broke up with his girlfriend, Lauren, and the next day had a new girl's car parked in his driveway. I witnessed all of this because I had picked up my son that day. So, new gf was there, spending time with my son...already?!?! This would be gf #6 for my son's dad. I don't like it, but it's not illegal, so there's not much I can do or say (although I did tell him how I feel about it). On the contrary, I've always been careful in that regard. I had one long term boyfriend for 5 years, but he was relatively disinterested in my son (which is part of the reason we did not work out.) I am with the man I am going to marry now, and he cares for my son very much. This is the second man I've ever introduced my son to, and I did so only because I was confident he was a keeper. I want stability for my son. I went away last weekend, and it was my son's father's weekend with him. When I returned, I found out that his dad had pawned him off on his ex girlfriend for the night, so that he and his new gf could go out. These girls, for one, must be stupid. Second, I never consented to this arrangement. I have kept mum since hearing of this, as I know that my son is fond of his father's ex. I don't want to be the bad guy... but is this really appropriate? I honestly don't feel good about it, and it is, from what I recall, against the rules of our court order. I'm really, really angry with his father for doing things like this... Link to post Share on other sites
carhill Posted October 16, 2012 Share Posted October 16, 2012 Your ex'es exGF was a known babysitter whom your son was/is familiar with and evidently responds well to. IMO, if your son's health and safety is not threatened, what your exH does in his private life is his business. Sure, it apparently differs markedly from your own private life but that is how humans are, different, and apparently why your M didn't work out. IMO, gender is neutral here. Is exH a 'bad parent' for getting a babysitter for his and your son so he and his GF can 'go out'? Opinions vary. If you feel the court order regarding custody has been breached, have a lawyer go over it and advise you of any remedies and offer opinion regarding prosecuting such an action and its effects. They deal with this stuff all the time. Good luck. Link to post Share on other sites
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