Samteo Posted October 17, 2012 Share Posted October 17, 2012 I have known this lady for about 3 months but we seldom talk. Whenever I walked pass her in the hallway.. She would always peep at me. Caught her looking at me several times but she always looked away whenever I looked at her. I could not hold her eye contact for long. She always appear shocked whenever we came real close/face to face. She would always joke and laugh with her group of friends but whenever I came into the picture she would just remain quiet until I'm a distance away. Our friends always make fun of me and asked questions related to her. There were even gossip related to myself and her. I was once approached by her friend who whispered and said that she have a lot of suitors, if I want to ask her out, I will have to take queue no. Out of the blue, her friend also hinted that she is currently dating someone, but I immediately changed the topic and pretended that I does not care. I requested to be friend friend on Facebook and even dropped her a private msg. She did not reply or accept my request. Somehow, her friends got to know and started the gossip and teasing again. Recently, she just accepted my request but eventually removed me from her friend list again. On several occasions, I observed that she was standing alone while her group of male friends were standing next to her. As I approached, she noticed me and started to kick and punch them. We came faced to faced, and she just remained quiet. Instead of greeting her, I just walked pass her and moved on. After I left, she eventually remained alone again. Once I was with my friend, I met her along the hallway again. As I was rushing for my lecture, I just ignored her and moved away. My friend who was following me from behind, saw her respond. He told me that she looked depressed and just stare on the ground.. I felt guilty after which. Just this week, both of us were on internship. She was tasked to manage the customer service line. One of the consumer needed to file a complainant, hence I led him to the customer service booth. From afar, I noted that she was attending to one customer, hence I did not disturb her and refer the customer to the other operators. But as I approached the booth, I saw her staring at me several times while multi-task but eventually I left with greeting her again... Just today, 2 of our friends took a snapshot of her Facebook post - I'm looking for a boyfriend =>. They messaged me directly after she posted on her wall. I have always thought that she's beyond my reach and she is not interested to become friends. That's the reason why she did not add me on Facebook. But as I share the story with more people - they were calling me dumb and ignorant. Hence I decided not to sit on the fence anymore... I will like to seek some opinions & perceptions from the public. Any advice from anyone out there are welcome. Much appreciated and thank you. Link to post Share on other sites
River Rain Posted October 17, 2012 Share Posted October 17, 2012 I don't know...I mean, it all sounds really immature to me. She's giving you the eye, then ignoring you (by being quiet), then friending/unfriending...it's too confusing. If you really want to know, why not just be direct and ask her out? Otherwise, I wouldn't bother at all. People who are hot and cold tend to play too many games, in my opinion. Link to post Share on other sites
Shadow21999 Posted October 17, 2012 Share Posted October 17, 2012 If this story woke me up with out coffee, then you know It's important. PLEASE my friend, don't delay. I speak to you with experience from one girl in the past. She likes you, a lot, but wants you to make the first move. PLEASE!!! Do not ignore her. DO NOT. You will regret it. She's not playing games like River Rain is saying. I learned that the hard way. I am currently in the same situation with 2 girls. One chose me out of a whole class of guys to do a speech on. She looks to me for support, but unfriended me on Facebook. The other one never accepted my friend request, but laughs at all my jokes, even if there not funny, talks to me whenever she gets the chance, and even sat on my lap with my arms around her, but still never accepted the friend request. Don't ignore her. Especially when you mentioned the part about depression, that made me cringe a little bit. The time for action is now, not a month or 2 from now when you will hit self realization about how blind you were to her. The worst way to treat a girl is to ignore her. Link to post Share on other sites
Shadow21999 Posted October 17, 2012 Share Posted October 17, 2012 And the fact her friends messaged you right after that photo should have made it obvious. They know something you don't know, and they're dropping hints. In front of her friends she might be Ms. Popular, but in front of you she's shy. Girls don't be shy around guys they don't like. I learned that from life, and a lot of girl posts from this forum. Link to post Share on other sites
Author Samteo Posted October 18, 2012 Author Share Posted October 18, 2012 Thank you all... so much for the "de-coding" Sometimes i feel that ladies are so... unpredictable.. Everything can just start by just accepting a friend request... and proceed in that direction.. Anymore... advice on the above? Much appreicated Link to post Share on other sites
River Rain Posted October 18, 2012 Share Posted October 18, 2012 Thank you all... so much for the "de-coding" Sometimes i feel that ladies are so... unpredictable.. Everything can just start by just accepting a friend request... and proceed in that direction.. Anymore... advice on the above? Much appreicated I think men are unpredictable! I think in these situations when you don't have someone who is direct with you, it can get too confusing. I think a lot of time you have to go with your gut, but if you feel as though someone is kind of toying with you and it makes you feel uncomfortable and question things too much, it's not worth the hassle. Did you talk to her? Link to post Share on other sites
Author Samteo Posted October 18, 2012 Author Share Posted October 18, 2012 I just managed to see her along the hallway again.. But she's plain busy talking to her lecturer. I caught her taking a glance at me before making eye contact with her lecturer again T___T Link to post Share on other sites
River Rain Posted October 18, 2012 Share Posted October 18, 2012 I just managed to see her along the hallway again.. But she's plain busy talking to her lecturer. I caught her taking a glance at me before making eye contact with her lecturer again T___T Oh gosh...I think you need to talk to her soon, just to ease your mind. Link to post Share on other sites
Author Samteo Posted October 20, 2012 Author Share Posted October 20, 2012 Anymore opinion or suggestion~ Link to post Share on other sites
VeveCakes Posted October 20, 2012 Share Posted October 20, 2012 Yep you are reading way too much into every little thing about her. She's just not that into you or you would be talking by now. Link to post Share on other sites
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