kailali Posted October 17, 2012 Share Posted October 17, 2012 I know it's a strong word, but I seriously think I might hate my sister in law. We are the same age, and were best friends in our teenage years. We had a falling out of our own and went on our separate ways. I ended up falling in love with and marrying her brother, and we have been married for two and a half years now. Husband and Sister were INSEPARABLE growing up, they were best friends. They have been through a lot together, and grown together as a result. I tried to respect that, and put our differences behind us, and be her friend. BUT... she drives me crazy!! My husband is US Army, and she would post photographs of herself on Facebook in digicam lingerie. She told me that she was going to get my husband's name tattooed on her. This made me uncomfortable, but I never said anything. We got pregnant within a few months of one another, and we both got married. I had to listen about how great Sister and her marriage was, and how terrible mine was to Husband. Husband continued to do and do for Sister, like buying her things all the time that they couldn't afford like a laptop, etc. Once the babies were born, Sister went back to being anorexic and stripping, doing drugs... not healthy choices, but nothing I will judge. She separated from her husband and started telling me all the time how much her son looked like Husband, but MY son didn't, and telling me since her baby didn't have daddy, Husband would have to be the man in his life... Uh... okayyy... no. But I still said nothing. Husband deployed. Sister went all around telling EVERYONE that Husband told her I was cheating on him. Husband stopped talking to her after this. Sister lost it, slandering me AND my 9 month old son publicly. She would call me from the bathroom of her work and alternate between bashing me and asking me why Husband didn't love her anymore, and only loved me. I tried to explain to her that he DOES love her, but that he cannot deal with her kind of crazy while he's drop center in the middle of a combat zone... nicely, though. She went crazy AGAIN saying all kinds of mean and hateful things, especially picking and choosing the things that she knows I am not proud of, or self conscious about myself or my life, and publicly downtalking me for them in the most hateful way. She said everything from cheating whore to spending all Husband's money to totally off the wall things that had nothing to do with nothing. (And no, none of it was true.) Husband and I cut her out of our family's lives completely. It's been a year now. She's lost custody of her son, and according to Mother In Law, is addicted to some serious drugs and having a hard time of life in a big city... I really do think I might hate her. She makes my life miserable, and does everything to try to be Woman #1 in my husband's life. She cuts herself when he tells her that he will put our son and me before her. Yes... CUTS. We are in our twenties... But Husband still loves her, and I constantly wrestle with my conscious whether or not I should try to let her back into our lives. Husband says he doesn't want that, but I know in reality he does... he just knows he doesn't want to deal with her crazy. He wants his best friend back. I don't want ten, twenty years to pass, and him to think that I kept them apart. I'm not, but things can get twisted in time... I don't know what to do and it causes me major stress in my life and I make myself sick over trying to decide what the right thing to do is!! I love my husband enough to put aside any and every problem I have with her to make him happy and to be connected with Sister again... I don't know what to do!! Link to post Share on other sites
shayla Posted October 19, 2012 Share Posted October 19, 2012 I feel for you, man that can't be easy for you at all! It seems like she may have some mental health issues, and needs professional help. Good luck, and hope for the best for your family. Link to post Share on other sites
Lostinlife4now Posted October 19, 2012 Share Posted October 19, 2012 If sissy keeps doing drugs and keeps making the mistakes she is making, she will be dead in a year, then you and your husband won't have anything to worry about. It is her own fault that she has taken this path. It is a little creepy that she finds it ok to send her brother shots of her in lingerie. EWW! Link to post Share on other sites
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