The_Reader Posted October 18, 2012 Share Posted October 18, 2012 Two months ago, J and I met at a concert. It felt like fate brought us together, and I am not normally one to consider such things. It started when the usher accidentally brought him to the wrong seat. We were both there alone and within five minutes of talking, we found we had a lot in common. He said he specialized in Chaucer, so I showed him my Chaucer pin while speaking Middle English. I mentioned my favorite book and he pulled it from his bag...these moments kept unfolding until I was so smitten I could barely focus on the music. I drove him home after the concert and we've been going strong ever since. The problem is, he is only in the US for a semester abroad. He goes back to Switzerland in two months. We love each other, but I don't know what to do when the time comes to say goodbye. We are only 23 years old, but I feel I could spend the rest of my life with him if he asked. He's met my family and I will be meeting his parents when they come to visit in a week, so other than our impending separation, our relationship is steadily progressing. However, I could never ask him to change his life by moving here and I doubt he would ever ask that of me either. But if he did ask, I would say yes. I don't want to bring it up though because it would be adding incredible pressure to what is essentially a new relationship. Has anyone been in a situation like this? I am preparing for heartache, but I am hoping for some advice to help me navigate the relationship. I can't imagine saying goodbye forever, but it seems inevitable. Thank you for any help. Link to post Share on other sites
pteromom Posted October 18, 2012 Share Posted October 18, 2012 I'm glad you found someone you connect with, but two months isn't enough time to really get to know someone, much less decide you could spend the rest of your life with him. Let him go. Keep talking to him, Skyping him, texting him. Stay connected. Keep building your friendship. Keep getting to know him. If he is invested as you are, eventually one of you can decide whether to move to be together. But take it one day at a time. Heck, you don't even know yet what will happen in the next two months. 2 Link to post Share on other sites
Solcita2 Posted October 18, 2012 Share Posted October 18, 2012 I'm glad you found someone you connect with, but two months isn't enough time to really get to know someone, much less decide you could spend the rest of your life with him. Let him go. Keep talking to him, Skyping him, texting him. Stay connected. Keep building your friendship. Keep getting to know him. If he is invested as you are, eventually one of you can decide whether to move to be together. But take it one day at a time. Heck, you don't even know yet what will happen in the next two months. I agree. I don't think you have to make any life changing choice in the next couple of monts. Let him go back to his life, keep in touch, I would recommend you visit him in his enviroment BEFORE anything. How is your education situation? Are you done with school? Link to post Share on other sites
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