kodiak Posted July 30, 2004 Share Posted July 30, 2004 Does anybody out there have some good stories of things working out after three months of being broken up. Its been a month and a half for me. Is that long? I have had no-conact for about three weeks but she called me the other day out of the blue. I missed her call but she left a really nice message. You can read more in my post "ex called need some advice" Any suggestions or good ideas or stories to help me deal with this a little better. thanks Link to post Share on other sites
KitWalker Posted July 30, 2004 Share Posted July 30, 2004 It varies mate......with all types of relationships etc. There are some who have been together for a short while and know that they're the one for each other There are some who have been together for ages and definately know they are for each other With both, some have broken up and gotten back together over a few weeks...sometimes even days???? Others have broken up over a few months..... Then there are some of us, who have broken up for months, even years and are STILL not back together! There isnt a line you can draw in the sand here to determine when she'll be back, IF she'll be back. This is the reason for No Contact...you have to move on with the idea that he/she MAY not come back at all! It's been 10mths for me apart from my loved one....she's only just starting to get talking with me now (see my threads "Can I get her back" Part I and II), so if thats any indication, you've got a little while yet! Link to post Share on other sites
mronederful Posted July 30, 2004 Share Posted July 30, 2004 here is some sound advice, if it's gonna work, it will. time and space can sometimes be a very good thing in a relationship. it makes you forget the things that made you mad in the first place. be patient. three months or six, if you care about her, don't give up. but be ready to accept the cold harsh reality that it may NOT work Link to post Share on other sites
Author kodiak Posted July 30, 2004 Author Share Posted July 30, 2004 Thanks everybody for the replies. I know that there is no line that you can follow because unfortunately you cant read the others persons mind. Dont you wish you could at times? I have been broken up for about a month and a half. It has gotten so much easier and i can get through a couple of hours without thinking about her. It feels so good. Sure i miss her and wish that she would call me tomorrow and tell me that she made a bog mistake and wants to be with me. however im letting the idea of being without her slowly creep in. It isnt fun buts its atleast bearable now. You know? My ex and I have no hard feelings at all for each other and if she was true to her word, we are both still very much inlove with each other. The relationship(LDR) just wasnt going in the right ways at the present time. I have read here that some people say that if the person is inlove with you there is no need to break up. I feel that this is untrue. Sometimes life throws curveballs at you and you need to be on your and be free to get through them. Relationships are stressfull and require alot of work. Unfortunately when times are tough it is the only thing that you can get rid off. It sucks for the other person but i have been on both sides before. In the meantime i have been focusing on my own isssues that i need to work on to make my relationships better. My ex was great and i truly wish her nothing but the best. i want her to be happy. Although i treated her great and tried my best to be a great boyfriend, if she can find better that makes her more happy, i truly want that for her. I mean this everybody. Sure it would suck, but i know that by letting her go and not trying to keep her around as a means of holding on, my love for her was true!!!! I hope that things work out. I know that nomatter how great i was to her or how much i loved her, if we are not meant then it wont happen period!!!! If this is the case i am glad that i had the last ten months of my life to share with her but im also glad that i didnt invest 10 years. Its sounds kinda ignorant, but i think everyone knows what i mean. After the breakup i wished that i never met her so i wouldnt have to feel like i was. Now, i thank God everyday for letting me meet this wonderfull girl and letting me have so many wonderfull memories, so many laughs, so many tears and so much love. i wouldnt trade that it for anything. Thanks again everybody for the replies. take care!!!!! Link to post Share on other sites
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