Am I asking too much?

[little_miss_giggles]

I have been dating my bf for 10 months, and we don't live together. For the past year I have been training for a big sporting charity event. The event is this weekend and the plan for the last couple of months has been that my bf would drive me to the event on saturday morning and pick me up on the sunday afternoon (we have both discussed this and agreed to it). Last night my bf calls to say that he is going out drinking with mates on the friday night (the night before the event) and will just come and pick me up the next morning to take me to the event (at 5am). I had assumed that he would stay at my house friday night, that he would want to spend the night with me and support me as much as he could the night before the event. Since the event is a one off thing and something that I have trained hard for over the past year. Am I expecting too much from him? or is he been selfish wanting to hang out with his mates (something that he can do anytime, its not like it's someones bday or some special event) rather than support his gf?

 

Even in the leadup to the event in the last couple of weeks I have had friends helping me to raise final donations, posting on facebook about the event (both on their personal pages and on their company/workplace pages) and encouraging their friends, family and customers to support me, 'liking' the promotinal photo shoot photos that my friend took of me. My bf has done none of this, hasn't 'liked' any of the posts/photos on fb or shared it with his friends and family. I feel like I am over reacting, but shouldn't he want to support me just as much as my friends and family do?

 

Any advise would be greatly appreciated. I don't want to get into an argument with him if I really am just been too needy!

Edited October 19, 2012 by little_miss_giggles

[little_miss_giggles]

No advice anyone???

[Eddie Edirol]

You cant expect your bf to be as into this charity event as you are. If he doesn't want to involve himself in such trivial things as clicking like on a Facebook page, its because he knows it doesnt mean anything to him in the big picture. Have you talked a lot about this event to him, more than he wants to hear? As far as hanging out the night before, it sounds to me like he doesn't want to hang with you until this event is over with and done. He wants to have fun, he has a life, you should too, away from him. You shouldnt depend on him for support, or force him to be into things he doesnt want to be into. If you want to do things with him, they should be things that you both like.

 

Your bf is being honest, he isnt faking enthusiasm about this event just to make you feel better. If he doesnt want to go to the event, or talk to you about it, talk to other people for your support. Theres plenty other people you can get support from, preferably ones that are actually participating in this event. He probably needs a break from you talking about it all year, if you were. Dont be so needy. take pride that you are doing this event and that you can do it on your own. Let him chase you to be involved, dont force it on him.

Edited October 19, 2012 by Eddie Edirol

[little_miss_giggles]

Thanks for the advise