The nihilst chick Posted October 19, 2012 Posted October 19, 2012 What is true love? Lustful or love at "first sight" like in the movies? Is it lust too but mixed with care? Platonic or a love of a friend? Or the ultimate one unconditonal love? To me it is a noble but insane idea unconditional love. Noble as in no matter how ugly,deformed,weird, and flawed a person is youll love 'em. And you never ask for a thing in return. Just loving them is enough. It is insane because what if they were a rapist, Hitler or somethin? You would still love them despite their wrongdoing no matrer what. Usually i scoff at the idea of love or someone being out there for you. But i find unconditional love both noble and something to fear. It is rare to love and be loved without anything asked in return. Truly selfless. And thats why so many die never knowing it. We are by nature selfish as humans. But maybe it isnt impossible. I feel that other types of love are underrated platonic and romantic love overrated lustful "love" to emphasized today. What do you all think?
CarboniteCammy Posted October 22, 2012 Posted October 22, 2012 I think that there is a such thing as true love, like someone you'll always care for no matter what. BUT, there's a big difference between that and being in a real, working relationship. I dated a guy when I was in college who made me feel like I'd come home. That's the only way to describe the way I felt when we were together. We still keep in contact now, but we broke up after four years of on and off drama. We just didn't and don't and will never work in a relationship together. In fact, he just got married this year to a wonderful woman who he has been dating for five years. My husband is the man I consider the love of my life, despite some of the more difficult times we've had. When I look back on what I had with my ex, I attribute most of the feelings I had to rushing hormones and a deep crush. What I have with my husband is real and amazing and tangible.
Romanticlyhopeless Posted October 23, 2012 Posted October 23, 2012 Love can be seen as a wheel. You start off with rapport, do you like this person or not? Once your decision is made of you like them, you go through self-revelation. Both you and that person reveal something about yourself to the one another to "test the waters". If you choose to stick around then you become dependent on each other, rely on each other for support and kindness. Then you move to become intimate with one another. Once break the intimacy barrier it is up to you if you want to stay. By choosing to stay you reentered the rapport stage, you like your partner a little more. You then are continually going through this cycle and becoming closer and closer to one another.
Author The nihilst chick Posted October 28, 2012 Author Posted October 28, 2012 Love can be seen as a wheel. You start off with rapport, do you like this person or not? Once your decision is made of you like them, you go through self-revelation. Both you and that person reveal something about yourself to the one another to "test the waters". If you choose to stick around then you become dependent on each other, rely on each other for support and kindness. Then you move to become intimate with one another. Once break the intimacy barrier it is up to you if you want to stay. By choosing to stay you reentered the rapport stage, you like your partner a little more. You then are continually going through this cycle and becoming closer and closer to one another. Hmmm...you make sense. I feel tbat most types are love are selfish though, attachment.
amaysngrace Posted October 28, 2012 Posted October 28, 2012 True love is an energy that two people share. It's an intense connection and its a physical attraction. It's primal in nature. It's love at first sight. It's a great friendship. It's total acceptance. It's knowing that person as much as you know yourself. And sometimes even better.
Cb3657 Posted October 28, 2012 Posted October 28, 2012 Ok for me my pair bond with my wife got better over time, I did not immediately love her, I grew into love and have gone deeper over time. In the real world I believe this is how it happens, expecting a huge overwhelming feeling that continues for years is how many people end up being unfaithful, after the initial rush is over, its all downhill and they go looking to replace the rush. The most unselfish love I have experienced is to my kids, my wife's behaviour is her own, my kids behaviour is a reflection of me, in addition a parent is the only real protection kids have untill they are a certain age. I would do anything in this world to keep them from real harm. You want true love , in a non romantic sense, that is the place to find it.
mammasita Posted October 28, 2012 Posted October 28, 2012 True love = love for my child. Complete, unconditional, knowing I will NEVER abandon him, leave him, go anywhere.... no matter what. No matter what disagreements we have, no matter how much he acts like he knows everything, no matter how many times he talks back to me, no matter how many times he pisses me off.....my love for him will never change.
Hawaii50 Posted October 28, 2012 Posted October 28, 2012 An unconditional, unquestionable, passionate, mutual display.. methinks. But the word "love," in and of itself, implies so much that typical people fail to ever know like; Compassion, understanding, accepting, openness, supportive, affectionate, reciprocal, growth, and all sorts of other virtuous words I've failed to mention. I pay close attention when with a partner as to how we resolve conflict... major topic that will make or break a relationship at the first sign of trouble, and only because I've been in a few relationships over years with out a voice ever raised, so I know it's possible and necessary- for me.
todreaminblue Posted October 28, 2012 Posted October 28, 2012 What is true love? Lustful or love at "first sight" like in the movies? Is it lust too but mixed with care? Platonic or a love of a friend? Or the ultimate one unconditonal love? To me it is a noble but insane idea unconditional love. Noble as in no matter how ugly,deformed,weird, and flawed a person is youll love 'em. And you never ask for a thing in return. Just loving them is enough. It is insane because what if they were a rapist, Hitler or somethin? You would still love them despite their wrongdoing no matrer what. Usually i scoff at the idea of love or someone being out there for you. But i find unconditional love both noble and something to fear. It is rare to love and be loved without anything asked in return. Truly selfless. And thats why so many die never knowing it. We are by nature selfish as humans. But maybe it isnt impossible. I feel that other types of love are underrated platonic and romantic love overrated lustful "love" to emphasized today. What do you all think? I think loving a rapist or someone like hitler would come under the stockholm syndrome which is a form of conditioning really you sympathise with someone who manipulates your emotions hitler was the ultimate in manipulation and brainwashing techniques honed over years of psychotic decline.....a rapist is a manipulator its all about control loving someone like that is feeling empathy towards soemone who has conditioned you to feel for them.....by manipulating you into believing its love ......i dont think any woman could truly love hitler.....or anyone who is cruel and vicious its glamour by a manipulator its an illusion surrounded in empathy by that males conditioning..... i think love is not controlled you cant stop it you cant control it when you do thats when you start to implode, it is just there and it turns up when you cant and even sometimes try not to accept it......it doesnt go away even when you try to convince yourself it is messy and complicated...when to me love is just just simply having strong feelings for someone that cant be explained away.wont go away...or sit still to be analysed or ever controlled...... it makes you stoopid, makes you happy makes you sad makes you worried scares the crap out of you and breaks your heart ....and this is simply love...it can be unconditional....but if everyone is honest when you care deeply about someone you want them to return your love.....the part that sucks is because you do care you will let them go even when you feel it badly you want them to be happy and after a while you move on knowing that you can feel love and you try again ....because all the negatives do not equal how many positives there are.....and yes i do feel a certain amount of attraction occurs or chemistry......sometimes it can be one sided and that si where it gets difficult..but is love worth it......i believe so.....because if people didnt believe in love....whats left????..no families....no marriage..no promises ..no hope....just loads of lonely people trying to deny the existence of love....sounds depressing....deb 1
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