Negative Nancy Posted November 3, 2012 Share Posted November 3, 2012 (edited) O[i know you won't want to hear this, but i have to say i don't think you love your wife one iota. You may love what she gives to you, you may love the security, familiarity,, someone to admire you, etc., but you don't love her, at least not in the way that she deserves to be loved. If you did, you would never, ever EVER risk hurting her, let alone over and over again. Honestly ask yourself what she has ever done to you to deserve this kind of treatment...what has she done that you are willing to risk her her physical and mental health just so you can get your jollies? [...] one day, one of your daughter comes to you in tears because she found out her husband is cheating. You see what it's done to her, to your grandchildren. She can't eat, can't sleep, is physically sick. It tears you up inside to see your child in such pain...for a penny, you'd love to throttle her husband for ever doing his to your baby girl. After you've imagined what that would be like and the anger you feel at her husband for ever doing this to your child who you love, ask yourself...if it tears you up and makes you so angry that someone could do that to your child, then why is it okay for you to be doing the same thing to your wife and children? YOU are the one person in this world who they should be able to trust to always be in their corner, to not hurt them, to protect them...in short, to act like a MAN towards them and not a little boy...ask yourself why you can't do that? very good posting kind of telling that the OP hasn't replied to this one and the one above Edited November 3, 2012 by Negative Nancy Link to post Share on other sites
Realist3 Posted November 3, 2012 Share Posted November 3, 2012 I have come to understand than many people that post on this board have a Pollyanna-ish view of love, relationships, and life in general. Yes, there are a fair share of men just like the OP. Instead of trying to excoriate him for his decisions or motives, why not just learn from it? When I posted my personal experience here a few months ago everyone chimed in with their own analysis, guessing motives of each party ad nauseum, none of which were accurate or came to fruition. This is an infidelty board. There are many different stories to be shared from both sides of the equation. Link to post Share on other sites
Decorative Posted November 3, 2012 Share Posted November 3, 2012 I have come to understand than many people that post on this board have a Pollyanna-ish view of love, relationships, and life in general. Yes, there are a fair share of men just like the OP. Instead of trying to excoriate him for his decisions or motives, why not just learn from it? When I posted my personal experience here a few months ago everyone chimed in with their own analysis, guessing motives of each party ad nauseum, none of which were accurate or came to fruition. This is an infidelty board. There are many different stories to be shared from both sides of the equation. Hmmm. People who have been cheated on or have been a cheater are prone to Pollyanna-ism? I have to say, that's the first time I have ever heard that! LOL! Link to post Share on other sites
Realist3 Posted November 4, 2012 Share Posted November 4, 2012 Hmmm. People who have been cheated on or have been a cheater are prone to Pollyanna-ism? I have to say, that's the first time I have ever heard that! LOL! For a good many posters here, yes. Some seem to relish in their victimhood. I have been tempted to start a thread about the demographics of the people who post here. It would make for an interesting study. Link to post Share on other sites
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