Do woman date homebodies?

[InJest]

A lot of women would enjoy dating a homebody, but most of them are not going to be the hot, outgoing girls you're probably hoping for.

[Els]

IME, even for those ladies who 'say' they don't like crowds and enjoy being home, going out is emotional stimulation and most ladies have an intrinsic desire/need for that. A way to put it into guy terms is thinking about how a guy feels when he goes without sex within a relationship; he can certainly live without the sexual stimulation and function in life, but he becomes irritable and frustrated. 'Going out', for many women, whether that is solo or with her partner, if curtailed, can lead to similar frustration and irritability. What I learned from my LTR's and M was to watch what women do, not listen to what they say. If the 'it's OK if we stay home' woman starts in with the rolleyes when I talk about a home project I want to work on over the weekend, that's a canary, as an example.

 

Further, if the lady isn't happy/content within herself in the relationship, it won't matter whether you're a homebody or not. There will be little one can do as a man that is right or appropriate, simply because she doesn't feel happy/content about anything. Watch out for that. Trying to chase that moving target is fruitless.

 

As in most aspects of life, there is balance. If your balance of 'homebody' and 'going out' doesn't match up with that of the lady in question, it can be a miss. That's OK. Billions more to be served.

 

So true. The majority of my female friends are introverts - they don't enjoy partying, bars, clubs, or anything with crowds, but one and all they still do want to go out on dates with their boyfriends, at least once in a while. There is just a different sort of romance that you enjoy on a date night out - dressing your best and wining and dining and watching a play or movie or whatever interest you happen to share, taking a stroll with your hands in each other's. That is not to say that nights at home can't be romantic, especially if you put the effort into making them so, but it's just a different sort of romance, and IMO most women want both types. Also, based on my observation, the sort of men who absolutely do not want to go out on date nights at all, are unlikely to put in the effort into making the romance happen at home either.