What would be the youngest age woman that would be okay for a 37 year old guy to date

[Shaun-Dro]

or have a relationship with, ONS, whatever in the UK?

 

I'm almost 37 myself, but I look and feel more like about 25, I feel confused about what the youngest age woman would be considered as okay for me to get.

 

In the past I would've thought that 21 would be totally fine, but after spending time on LS, I'm not even sure if 23 or 24 would be fine. It seems like maybe people would see me as weird or 'dodgy' if I were to get a woman who is say 23, and surely if I met her dad he wouldn't be happy, especially if she was still living with him. But then at the same time, it feels like maybe I'm just being really paranoid and there's absolutley nothing wrong with it at all.

 

I think I'm mainly attracted to women in their late 20's to mid 30's, but it feels like if there are any women who would go for me, it'd be one's in their early 20's since I look so young myself, and not any who are older than their mid 20's since again, I look so young, I'm inexperienced and I'd probably have nothing in common with them. So if a woman in her early 20's did show interest, I wouldn't want to turn her down if there would be absolutley nothing wrong with me going for it.

 

I'm kinda confused so I'd like to hear everyone's opinions, thanks.

 

Stick to early 20s. These kinds of young women will keep you feeling very young and without the aggravation of typical insecurities.

[Janesays]

You've either got to be joking or you're just plain crazy.

 

Whatever the case, completely tearing down and ripping apart the way I look, from my body, to my hair, to my clothing, when I never even asked for fashion advice is totally rude and uncalled for.

 

Can we all see your pic? As I'm sure you look so perfect.

 

Dude, you asked. Don't ask if you don't want an honest answer. And YOU were the one who originally brought up your clothing and YOU were the one who wanted clarification when I, and a few others, said we thought you looked your age. I'm sorry, I didn't mean to hurt your feelings. I didn't realize you were so emotionally invested in believing you look younger than you are.

 

I'm pretty cute, but I'm afraid I DO look like the 33 year old that I am.

[Imajerk17]

^^The issue is not to sugarcoat things, it is to tell the truth so people can make improvements. Are we supposed to tell Ross that he looks fine and too bad for women for being so shallow?

 

Ross, for Pete's sake, please let your hair grow, and save your money to get yourself a decent haircut. And while you're at it get yourself some style. A few really nice pieces of clothing will do for the time being and you can expand on that later. You could be a good-looking guy, but your presentation--going by your picture anyway--is *seriously* holding you back with women.

 

You do look young in some ways, but thing is, except for your being in shape (which is very good), they aren't the right ways. Your face might have some lines in it but going by your picture anyway, your sense of style is underdeveloped. (I'm guessing you showed us that picture because it is representative of how you dress, right?)

 

A 37-year-old woman doesn't want a 37-year-old man who dresses like a college freshman. And a college freshman girl doesn't want a guy who dresses like a college freshman but who happens to be 37. Something similar could be said for women anywhere between those two ages.

Edited October 24, 2012 by Imajerk17

[mesmerized]

You have too much wrinkles under your eyes to pass for early twentie or even 25. The second pic you posted is from far and not very accurate. I would have gussed your age around 32 so you do look a bit younger. And the lady who criticized you did it to help you out so take it easy.

[kaylan]

I dunno, if OP told me he was late 20s, Id believe him. Ive seen some old looking people in their 20s, so I do think he looks pretty young for 37.

[Ross MwcFan]

Dude, you asked. Don't ask if you don't want an honest answer. And YOU were the one who originally brought up your clothing and YOU were the one who wanted clarification when I, and a few others, said we thought you looked your age. I'm sorry, I didn't mean to hurt your feelings. I didn't realize you were so emotionally invested in believing you look younger than you are.

 

I'm pretty cute, but I'm afraid I DO look like the 33 year old that I am.

 

I never asked for advice on my clothes, hair, or body.

 

Can we see your pic then? I mean, surely there's nothing for you to feel embarrassed or afraid about if you look so perfect?

[Ross MwcFan]

^^The issue is not to sugarcoat things, it is to tell the truth so people can make improvements. Are we supposed to tell Ross that he looks fine and too bad for women for being so shallow?

 

Ross, for Pete's sake, please let your hair grow, and save your money to get yourself a decent haircut. And while you're at it get yourself some style. A few really nice pieces of clothing will do for the time being and you can expand on that later. You could be a good-looking guy, but your presentation--going by your picture anyway--is *seriously* holding you back with women.

 

You do look young in some ways, but thing is, except for your being in shape (which is very good), they aren't the right ways. Your face might have some lines in it but going by your picture anyway, your sense of style is underdeveloped. (I'm guessing you showed us that picture because it is representative of how you dress, right?)

 

A 37-year-old woman doesn't want a 37-year-old man who dresses like a college freshman. And a college freshman girl doesn't want a guy who dresses like a college freshman but who happens to be 37. Something similar could be said for women anywhere between those two ages.

 

I don't live in America, I live in the UK. In America, it does seem to mainly only be college kids who wear stylish clothes. Most older people for some reason wear plain, bland clothing which don't have any style.

 

In the UK where I live it's not like that though, people of all ages up into their mid or late 30's wear stylish clothes, like what I'm wearing in the picture.

 

Slacks and a plain v neck would look nerdy and absolutley ridiculous, unless you were some guy in his 60's. It's like telling someone they should wear socks and sandles or beige Y fronts.

 

People under 60 in the UK only wear trousers if they're going to the office or to some do like a wedding. To wear them as everyday wear would look very odd indeed.

 

Most guys in the UK from being a teen probably to their 40's and maybe even a bit older have really short hair. Long hair is what you typically see with little kids.

 

And how on Earth do I look skinny in that pic? I look like I've got quite a bit of a build, and around that time, the doctor even told me that I was over weight.

 

Sometimes I think people on here are from a completely different planet, either that or they're seriously smoking something really strong.

 

Can someone from the UK back me up here, or am I just hallucinating when I'm outside and I see a lot of people in their 20's and 30's with short hair and wearing similar stuff to what I'm wearing in the picture?

Edited October 24, 2012 by Ross MwcFan

[carhill]

Ross, when you see a guy your age out with a young woman, apparently in the age range you're discussing here, how do they appear to you? Since you are talking about how people appear and apparently encounter people and observe them when out an about, perhaps you can comment or take further notice in the future. What's important is that things work *for you*. All we can do is offer personal experience and anecdotes from our lives.

 

For example, when you say people under 60 only wear trousers under very specific circumstances, what do you mean by that? Both 'trousers' and what are they otherwise wearing. It's good for we non-UK'ers to understand terminology. Myself, at 53, I wear dress slacks when out on business or more formal social occasions but wear Levis (jeans) a lot in cold weather and shorts in warm weather, here in Cali. How does it go for you?

[Emilia]

Can someone from the UK back me up here, or am I just hallucinating when I'm outside and I see a lot of people in their 20's and 30's with short hair and wearing similar stuff to what I'm wearing in the picture?

 

I agree with you. You look pretty much how a guy would look in London or Manchester (ie in a big city) in his 20s or 30s. I don't think you show your age either. I'd say you probably fit in within the environment you live in.

 

edit: I don't think you look skinny either. Just normal.

[Ross MwcFan]

I agree with you. You look pretty much how a guy would look in London or Manchester (ie in a big city) in his 20s or 30s. I don't think you show your age either. I'd say you probably fit in within the environment you live in.

 

edit: I don't think you look skinny either. Just normal.

 

Thanks Emilia, for a moment I thought maybe I was the crazy one.

[Ross MwcFan]

Ross, when you see a guy your age out with a young woman, apparently in the age range you're discussing here, how do they appear to you?

 

Do you mean a guy who is 36 with a woman who is in her early 20's? I dunno I can't remember seeing any couples like that when I've been out and about. I never really take notice of the ages of couples when I see them, whenever I see a couple I'll only think 'Lucky bastard' (about the guy).

 

It's hard for me to imagine how a couple would look if the guy is 36 and the woman is in her early 20's.

 

I know a couple where the guy is in his mid 30's and the woman is in her mid or late 20's would look completely normal though. And I'm almost 100% positive that you see couples like this all the time, at least in the UK.

 

Since you are talking about how people appear and apparently encounter people and observe them when out an about, perhaps you can comment or take further notice in the future. What's important is that things work *for you*. All we can do is offer personal experience and anecdotes from our lives.

 

For example, when you say people under 60 only wear trousers under very specific circumstances, what do you mean by that? Both 'trousers' and what are they otherwise wearing. It's good for we non-UK'ers to understand terminology.

 

By trousers/slacks, I mean these http://www.career.sunysb.edu/files/docs/howto/proper2.jpg

 

With the trousers usually they'll wear like a plain v neck with no style to it, a cardigan, or some sort of generic checkered shirt, and obviously shoes.

 

Myself, at 53, I wear dress slacks when out on business or more formal social occasions but wear Levis (jeans) a lot in cold weather and shorts in warm weather, here in Cali. How does it go for you?

 

I think that's totally fine carhill. If I was on business or a formal occasion I'd wear slacks/trousers too. Any other occasion and I just wear jeans. The kind of jeans that I wear have fades in them and a few other touches here and there (waits for people to tell me that jeans with fades in them and any style to them are immature and only kids wear them). I don't actually have any shorts for the summer, I think maybe I feel a little self concious about showing my legs, lol.

Edited October 24, 2012 by Ross MwcFan

[Els]

What I find even more amusing are women like Jersey Shortie

 

JS has been in relationships.

 

and a certain young lady in NZ, who have never been in a relationship

 

Hmm? Want to clarify who you're talking about? Because if you've even paid a smidgeon of attention to my posts aside from using them as troll fodder, it can't be me. I have a happy and fulfilling R, thank you very much for asking - you should try for one, it might keep you from being so ridiculously hostile to anyone of the opposite sex who dares to speak her mind. Though if there's a young lady from NZ here who's never been in a R, feel free to introduce her to me so I can bring her around and introduce her to my single friends, ey?

 

are on a relationship forum giving dating advice.

 

You're absolutely right, only bitter misogynists are allowed to give advice on dating forums. The rest of us are simply amusing when we try.

 

^^The issue is not to sugarcoat things, it is to tell the truth so people can make improvements. Are we supposed to tell Ross that he looks fine and too bad for women for being so shallow?

 

Ross, for Pete's sake, please let your hair grow, and save your money to get yourself a decent haircut. And while you're at it get yourself some style. A few really nice pieces of clothing will do for the time being and you can expand on that later. You could be a good-looking guy, but your presentation--going by your picture anyway--is *seriously* holding you back with women.

 

You do look young in some ways, but thing is, except for your being in shape (which is very good), they aren't the right ways. Your face might have some lines in it but going by your picture anyway, your sense of style is underdeveloped. (I'm guessing you showed us that picture because it is representative of how you dress, right?)

 

A 37-year-old woman doesn't want a 37-year-old man who dresses like a college freshman. And a college freshman girl doesn't want a guy who dresses like a college freshman but who happens to be 37. Something similar could be said for women anywhere between those two ages.

 

Re: Dress, i think there may be a discrepancy in cultures here. If the UK is anything like NZ (and I think it would be, since the majority of Caucasians here are from the UK), casual dress is very common even for older men. To the extent that men wear tees and jeans to fine dining restaurants, even, and nobody bats an eye. The only thing most people ever wear shirts for here is business and work.

 

I generally think most men look better in shirts, but hey, when you're in Rome, do as the Romans do, I feel.

[LC1976]

Ross,

 

I am in a similar boat as you: I am 41 and look like I am in my early 30’s. Now I am not averse to dating someone around my age, but I would like to have kids (I was with someone from my late 20’s until about 36, but that is another story). And I will tell you it will get harder to date younger women…no matter how young you look. I met a 31 yr old a few weeks ago that kept teasing me about her being the older one in the relationship (if we were to date) and when she finally found out how old I was she freaked. I mean to the point where her friend and my friends where all looking at her. She kept saying that I was perpetrating because a lot of my friends are in their late 20’s and early 30’s and who was I too act/ look like them. She even pointed at my crotch and proclaimed to everyone she wouldn’t be surprised if my “boys” were swimming anymore! LOL

 

As for women your age, I don’t know how they act in the UK, but where I live every woman seems to want to date younger. OLD site in my area are rife with women that are 36 that want men 22-37. In fact I saw a few this morning that are 38 that refuse to go over 40. And I would get it if they were still hot… LOL FML.

[irc333]

Funny, when I was approaching 40, I was thinking this same thing...I was sitll willing to date a late 20's woman, too

 

Now that I've turned 40, I've opted for early 30's

 

When was looking at women's profiles of the in their early 30's, they varied in their desired age ranges.

 

For instance, I'd see some 32 year old women date no older than 38, but others had no qualms with dating someone in their mid-40's either. THough, now that I'm at 40, I desire to have no children at all, have no interest in being an elderly parent. So, dating early 30's women might not be a good idea, because a LARGE majority of women that age have the baby cravings. LOL

 

 

Shockinly I had met some women (who have no kids, actually prefer women without kids) and they were MY age (40 ish) still WANTING to bear children, which is shocking.

 

So if I dont' want kids, I need to date a single mother in her late 30's, early 40's who have "been there done that" with having children, and they usually have no desire after having been there, done that.

 

or have a relationship with, ONS, whatever in the UK?

 

I'm almost 37 myself, but I look and feel more like about 25, I feel confused about what the youngest age woman would be considered as okay for me to get.

 

In the past I would've thought that 21 would be totally fine, but after spending time on LS, I'm not even sure if 23 or 24 would be fine. It seems like maybe people would see me as weird or 'dodgy' if I were to get a woman who is say 23, and surely if I met her dad he wouldn't be happy, especially if she was still living with him. But then at the same time, it feels like maybe I'm just being really paranoid and there's absolutley nothing wrong with it at all.

 

I think I'm mainly attracted to women in their late 20's to mid 30's, but it feels like if there are any women who would go for me, it'd be one's in their early 20's since I look so young myself, and not any who are older than their mid 20's since again, I look so young, I'm inexperienced and I'd probably have nothing in common with them. So if a woman in her early 20's did show interest, I wouldn't want to turn her down if there would be absolutley nothing wrong with me going for it.

 

I'm kinda confused so I'd like to hear everyone's opinions, thanks.

Edited October 24, 2012 by irc333

[Ross MwcFan]

So if I dont' want kids, I need to date a single mother in her late 30's, early 40's who have "been there done that" with having children, and they usually have no desire after having been there, done that.

 

That would definatley be a plus to dating someone my age.

[Million.to.1]

I'm a young lady from NZ! hahahaha.

 

 

I thought the common rule was 'Half your age plus 7 years"

 

I do know a couple just outside of that rule, (he's 43 and shes 27)

 

So if you are 37.. half 37, (round up to 19 ) and add 7 years. = 26.

 

any younger than that, you are asking for issues.

 

 

( I am not saying this is a rule, but I think it's a good theory) of course the gap gets wider as you both get older.

I also think it has nothing to do with how old someone "looks". It's about life experience, maturity and common life goals.

[Els]

I'm a young lady from NZ! hahahaha.

 

Oh, hey! It really is rare to see people from there in LS. Which part?

[ScreamingTrees]

I thought Ross was 30 years old and asking if he looked younger, and I'd believe him if he said mid to late twenties.. What exactly does he have to wear to attract girls? I see a lot of stupid looking outfits being worn from day to day, seizure-inducing rainbow colors and totally mismatched colors that look ridiculous and childish, like they either tried too hard or didn't try at all.. But it's mostly kids around 20 like me or younger..

 

It's just a blue T shirt with some words on it, I don't see what the fuss is. If a girl isn't feeling you, it won't make a lick of a difference if you're wearing a white t shirt and jeans or a business suit, or a flashy dress shirt with 150$ custom made jeans.. She'll figure out a way to turn whatever you're wearing into another reason to justify her lack of interest.

[ladyabstrused]

http://i1126.photobucket.com/albums/l610/RPKGameVids/VID00131_zpscb6aac19.jpg

 

^ That pic was taken a year ago. Still think I look like I'm in my mid 30's?

 

When someone online saw that pic they thought I was 19.

 

And before anyone says it's the clothes that make me look so young, bull****, it's really common for guys in their 20's and 30's in the UK to wear those sort of clothes, and they don't look really young for their age. What makes me look so young in that pic is how my face looks.

 

My honest opinion on your looks would be that you look about mid to late 20s.

 

As for build, you're not skinny. And the shirt's totally cool. Nothing about it screams young or old in age.

 

Back to your OP though, I really don't think you should go for early 20s? Maybe mid to late 20s? Reason being, I just think that women at that age are wiser and more mature in their thinking. Most women. Not all of them at that age are like that.

 

Though I'm not sure if location matters with the age of a woman. Perhaps where you are, women are so much more mature in their thinking and wiser at a younger age?

[Ross MwcFan]

My honest opinion on your looks would be that you look about mid to late 20s.

 

As for build, you're not skinny. And the shirt's totally cool. Nothing about it screams young or old in age.

 

Back to your OP though, I really don't think you should go for early 20s? Maybe mid to late 20s? Reason being, I just think that women at that age are wiser and more mature in their thinking. Most women. Not all of them at that age are like that.

 

Though I'm not sure if location matters with the age of a woman. Perhaps where you are, women are so much more mature in their thinking and wiser at a younger age?

 

Thanks ladyabstrused and screamingtrees.

 

In real life 3 or 4 people have actually told me that my clothes look good, that I look smart, stylish, cool, whatever. I've never had anyone insult my clothes, or insult how I look in them before.

 

Also, around 3 or 4 people have also told me that I look quite big. I have had people tell me that I was skinny in the past, but that's because in the past, I was skinny. I can even type in my height and weight online and the results will come back that I'm overwieght. Plus on top of that I work out and I do have a bit of a build.

 

Also, on the rare occasion I'll still get carded for buying alcohol.

 

I'm not sure if location matters within the UK. But I've kind of noticed, that women in their early 20's in America do seem to act quite a bit more immature than women in their early 20's in the UK, I'm not sure if it's just genetics or whether it's because their parents still treat them like children.

 

The funny thing is though, is that American women in their early 20's do actually look a lot older than UK women in their early 20's.

[Ross MwcFan]

Here is a question for the people who think my clothes look too immature for me.

 

This is just out of pure curiosity, I'm not doing this to try and argue or anything.

 

Do you think that the top that the woman (she is 31) in the video is wearing underneath her other top looks too immature for her and makes her look silly, since there are words on it?

 

Do you think this top that the same woman is wearing looks too immature for her and makes her look silly, since it's colourful and has stripes on it?

 

Do you the baseball cap and the hoody on this 40 something guy looks too immature on him and makes him look silly, since it's a baseballcap and a hoody?

[ladyabstrused]

Thanks ladyabstrused and screamingtrees.

 

In real life 3 or 4 people have actually told me that my clothes look good, that I look smart, stylish, cool, whatever. I've never had anyone insult my clothes, or insult how I look in them before.

 

Also, around 3 or 4 people have also told me that I look quite big. I have had people tell me that I was skinny in the past, but that's because in the past, I was skinny. I can even type in my height and weight online and the results will come back that I'm overwieght. Plus on top of that I work out and I do have a bit of a build.

 

Also, on the rare occasion I'll still get carded for buying alcohol.

 

I'm not sure if location matters within the UK. But I've kind of noticed, that women in their early 20's in America do seem to act quite a bit more immature than women in their early 20's in the UK, I'm not sure if it's just genetics or whether it's because their parents still treat them like children.

 

The funny thing is though, is that American women in their early 20's do actually look a lot older than UK women in their early 20's.

 

You don't look that big honestly. I think you look just nice. Maybe you're heavier boned? Yeah, perhaps more muscle mass?

 

Yeah I do realise that there could be women from the UK and US, of the same age who would be different in behaviour and maturity. If women of the early 20s there are mature enough for you, it shouldn't be a problem I suppose. Just as long as you're happy.

[Drseussgrrl]

If I was in my early 20's and wanted to date someone on my own maturity level, I'd date someone also in their early 20's. Not an immature 37 year old.

 

But that's just me.

[veggirl]

Ross you look perfectly fine. The people nit-picking you to death are just being jerks. Your outfit was fine. I like a polo shirt and jeans on a guy but your t-shirt is absolutely normal. I guess they want you in dockers and a tucked in shirt or something? lol. Dumb. I agree you look much younger than 37. From a distance I can see the early 20s, and in the closer shots I'd guess late 20s.

[Ross MwcFan]

If I was in my early 20's and wanted to date someone on my own maturity level, I'd date someone also in their early 20's. Not an immature 37 year old.

 

But that's just me.

 

Why would it matter if his age was 37 but he was on the same maturity level as you and looked around your age? Age is just a number.