2sunny Posted November 13, 2012 Share Posted November 13, 2012 Probably the best advice I've gotten in this whole thread. That's how delusional you are. You've had a TON of great advice. You've taken action on almost none of it. Resulting in misery by your choices. 1 Link to post Share on other sites
Author jennifernyc84 Posted November 13, 2012 Author Share Posted November 13, 2012 So... What you're saying is - you are willing to let him continue using and abusing you - for his own pleasure and your pain? No. I thought he wanted a relationship with me. Link to post Share on other sites
ThatJustHappened Posted November 13, 2012 Share Posted November 13, 2012 Probably the best advice I've gotten in this whole thread. Wow..seriously? 93 pages of people supporting you and trying to help you and stop you from getting hurt again and you say this? I hope this is a joke. Link to post Share on other sites
Author jennifernyc84 Posted November 13, 2012 Author Share Posted November 13, 2012 Wow..seriously? 93 pages of people supporting you and trying to help you and stop you from getting hurt again and you say this? I hope this is a joke. Chill out people. I just meant that it made alot of sense to me...that's all Link to post Share on other sites
Mount Posted November 13, 2012 Share Posted November 13, 2012 SEE THE DIFFERENCE now... Josh called you at 2:00am for what? Remember? (mocking up the way you talked back people here ) Its late. I think i should call at a decent hour. I don't know. Maybe i am scared to face the truth. I don't know what he'll say. Link to post Share on other sites
ThatJustHappened Posted November 13, 2012 Share Posted November 13, 2012 I'm out. This thread is pointless. I think we should all just stop acknowledging it. 4 Link to post Share on other sites
whichwayisup Posted November 13, 2012 Share Posted November 13, 2012 No. I thought he wanted a relationship with me. You know he doesn't because he is married and is trying to have a child with his wife. Your mom told you this. FACT. FACT - You are/were looking for a relationship with him, he was looking for an affair, or a few day get away from his life to have some change and excitement. Jen, he loved another woman, married her. That is when you should have closed your heart and moved on. He doesn't want a relationship with you the way you want one with him. Believe that. I can promise you that is what the truth is. Link to post Share on other sites
whichwayisup Posted November 13, 2012 Share Posted November 13, 2012 SEE THE DIFFERENCE now... Josh called you at 2:00am for what? Remember? (mocking up the way you talked back people here ) Difference is, Jen lives alone and at that hour, calling a 2am didn't matter. HE knew she would answer and there'd be no problem. No way can she can his house in the late evening, let alone past midnight. Jen, you need to reconsider therapy or take the advice from someone else that mentioned you to stay with your mom for a few months. Rent your place out, take a leave of absence from your job. Chill out with your folks, friends and work hard to get Josh out of your system. FOR GOOD this time. Link to post Share on other sites
Mount Posted November 13, 2012 Share Posted November 13, 2012 Exactly, the whole thing even can not be categorized as Affair. Affair at least is two way, man woos woman even though the man or woman is committed to others, but here over 90 pages I don't see any kind of relationship happening... Just Jennifer keeps throwing herself to a man that having zero connection with her at all. Even the topic shouldn't be in OW/OM forum, since Jennifer is not OW even. No. I thought he wanted a relationship with me. Link to post Share on other sites
Author jennifernyc84 Posted November 13, 2012 Author Share Posted November 13, 2012 Ok, you're right. You're all right. I'm wrong. I know that i was. But, you know what? At least i got a couple of good romps with him. I should be grateful for that. I'm so over this. I cannot tell you how over this i am. Its been great, but i can't do this to myself anymore. Whatever happens, happens. I will call him tomorrow. And I'm ready for whatever he says. Link to post Share on other sites
2sunny Posted November 13, 2012 Share Posted November 13, 2012 I'm out. This thread is pointless. I think we should all just stop acknowledging it. I don't think we've helped her a bit. May be better to let her do what she wants and... Stop wasting time and energy trying to help her see how her choices just keep harming her. Just go Jen - do whatever YOU want - you will know MORE pain! Go ahead... Find out. Link to post Share on other sites
Lois Posted November 13, 2012 Share Posted November 13, 2012 Ok, you're right. You're all right. I'm wrong. I know that i was. But, you know what? At least i got a couple of good romps with him. I should be grateful for that. I'm so over this. I cannot tell you how over this i am. Its been great, but i can't do this to myself anymore. Whatever happens, happens. I will call him tomorrow. And I'm ready for whatever he says. That comment is quite sickening and, frankly, says a lot about you. You know ... some women get quite vicious when they find out another woman has been messing with their husband ... I do hope Mrs. Josh is one of them. 2 Link to post Share on other sites
Mount Posted November 13, 2012 Share Posted November 13, 2012 All the 90ish pages make me think how Jennifer looks? Any weight issue...or image issue probably? Just curious. That comment is quite sickening and, frankly, says a lot about you. You know ... some women get quite vicious when they find out another woman has been messing with their husband ... I do hope Mrs. Josh is one of them. Link to post Share on other sites
2sunny Posted November 13, 2012 Share Posted November 13, 2012 That comment is quite sickening and, frankly, says a lot about you. You know ... some women get quite vicious when they find out another woman has been messing with their husband ... I do hope Mrs. Josh is one of them. It is quite disgusting that she's grateful she had sex with him. When you're his wife and some sappy OW gets grateful and brags about helping him cheat on you - maybe then you'll know the exact harm YOU caused! You really have no empathy for his wife - and quite frankly - it's disgusting! 2 Link to post Share on other sites
2sunny Posted November 13, 2012 Share Posted November 13, 2012 All the 90ish pages make me think how Jennifer looks? Any weight issue...or image issue probably? Just curious. I think it's a brain issue. Link to post Share on other sites
Mount Posted November 13, 2012 Share Posted November 13, 2012 OK I think we are getting mean now... I think it's a brain issue. Link to post Share on other sites
2sunny Posted November 13, 2012 Share Posted November 13, 2012 OK I think we are getting mean now... I think the OP has been mean to his wife. Link to post Share on other sites
Tara247 Posted November 13, 2012 Share Posted November 13, 2012 Ok, you're right. You're all right. I'm wrong. I know that i was. But, you know what? At least i got a couple of good romps with him. I should be grateful for that. I'm so over this. I cannot tell you how over this i am. Its been great, but i can't do this to myself anymore. What?? "It's been great"? After all the anguish he's put you through already?? If you're talking about bedding him, what? Is what he has "golden" or something? Jen, he's not the only man that can give you good sex. Whatever happens, happens. I will call him tomorrow. And I'm ready for whatever he says. Yes, make the call, Jen. You need to face whatever he has to tell you. If you need to rage at him, rage at him. You need to face this so that you can move forward. Right now, you're stuck in limbo. The truth will set you free, Jen. 1 Link to post Share on other sites
Scarlett5 Posted November 13, 2012 Share Posted November 13, 2012 Have you called him yet Jen? Stick to your guns, you won't see him until he's classed as separated and has seriously filed for divorce. Link to post Share on other sites
PurpleGal Posted November 13, 2012 Share Posted November 13, 2012 All the 90ish pages make me think how Jennifer looks? Any weight issue...or image issue probably? Just curious. Okay, this is a t/j...but what the hell do her looks/weight have to do with this? Are you seriously making the assumption, "She settles for less than she deserves...she must be overweight/ugly..."? Your ignorance is astounding. I'm sure you think you're just as CUTE as can be, but beauty is subjective. At least she doesn't accept monetary gifts from him! 3 Link to post Share on other sites
Scarlett5 Posted November 13, 2012 Share Posted November 13, 2012 Okay, this is a t/j...but what the hell do her looks/weight have to do with this? Are you seriously making the assumption, "She settles for less than she deserves...she must be overweight/ugly..."? Your ignorance is astounding. I'm sure you think you're just as CUTE as can be, but beauty is subjective. At least she doesn't accept monetary gifts from him! I agree, our core beliefs about ourselves don't pay attention to our looks. People make this strange assumption that because you look good you should have it all and feel great about yourself. Not true! Link to post Share on other sites
Mount Posted November 13, 2012 Share Posted November 13, 2012 I think you read into the post that does not contain the intention being ignorance at all. We are all here trying to diagnose what causes Jen so obessive towards Josh, her teen age crush not over...etc, etc. And no one accept monetary gifts from MM either, at least not me. Okay, this is a t/j...but what the hell do her looks/weight have to do with this? Are you seriously making the assumption, "She settles for less than she deserves...she must be overweight/ugly..."? Your ignorance is astounding. I'm sure you think you're just as CUTE as can be, but beauty is subjective. At least she doesn't accept monetary gifts from him! Link to post Share on other sites
William Posted November 13, 2012 Share Posted November 13, 2012 Time for a break. Link to post Share on other sites
Author jennifernyc84 Posted November 13, 2012 Author Share Posted November 13, 2012 And i swear, this will be my last post. You guys have devoted alot of time and given me alot of advice and support, do i thought you all deserved to know. I called him. This morning. He told me that their house is really not worth fixing, since they don't own it. That it would be easier if they would just move. So they are, which i already knew that. Them he told me that he's not moving into a new place with her. They talked about getting seperate places. He told her everything, about us, about how unhappy he has been. She wasn't angry, he said. She wasn't even surprised. He told me he's looking for an apartment the city..to be near me. Then he told me he really regrets the last few years of his life, but it feels good to be finally making it right. He said that he's sorry for everything he's put me thru, especially in the past few Weeks. He should be here later. I told him he could stay here until he find a place. I knew not to doubt him. Something inside of me kept saying for me not to give up on him. I do thank you all for helping me in thetime i needed it. You guys are awesome. P.S. Oh, and, btw, just fyi, I'm not fat or ugly. Link to post Share on other sites
ilovedhim Posted November 13, 2012 Share Posted November 13, 2012 Lord help us. 1 Link to post Share on other sites
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