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He said he loves me..but he's married

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whichwayisup Established Member

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They aren't home. Remember? The Strom.

 

Then wait until they are back home. Do you have his home number or do they just each have cells?

 

I assume you also know where they live..you could send a letter too.

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These guys are amazing. Yes tell his wife that he lied to you and had sex with you. I will be very surprised if the BW ISN'T pregnant.

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2sunny Established Member

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And that is good enough reason to tell her - BEFORE she gets pregnant!

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Anoidtoo, if your wife didn't admit to anything and you have no proof of an affair, then why are you punishing her by withholding love and giving her meaningless sex? What if nothing even happened? When you bring up that you think she cheated, does she just change the subject? I don't get your story. Anway, that's no way to live. I wouldn't live in that kind of marriage if I were either of you.

 

Jennifer, when they get back home, all you have to do is wait until Josh leaves for work and show up at his house to talk to his wife.

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Let's be honest, in your mind you know, we all know, you are certainly continuing the affair with Josh FOR SURE.

 

 

They aren't home. Remember? The Strom.
ThatJustHappened Established Member

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Actually, that is not true. I have an iphone and I cannot BLOCK someone - I've even called AT&T and they said NOPE.

 

 

 

I haven't nor will I. And sleeping with a MM is not that same as eating a donut in the grocery store and forgetting to pay for it. :rolleyes: Entering into an affair requires premeditation and actions. It isn't an "oops". Its thought out and planned.

 

He isn't leaving his wife. You need to get that hope out of your head. If he was going to leave her, for you, he would have done that already.

 

And you think he is going to call you with "important" information? Come on...admit that you are using that as an excuse to stay in touch with him.

 

I see you and he having sex again within the next 2 weeks. He needs to keep you calm and ensure you don't tell his wife. He is going to continue to feed you bullsh*t and tell you its candy.

 

He is with his wife because he wants to be with her. You really need to accept that. He isn't going to show up at your door with his suitcase, ready to move in with you.

 

He and his wife are working together to decide their next steps for THEIR future. Whether it is to rebuild or whatever. They are thinking about the holidays - where will they be to celebrate Thanksgiving and Christmas. Will they be able to give each other gifts knowing they have some big expenses due to the storm. They are clinging to each other because they only have each other. Crisis tend to bond people...there is every possibility they are bonding like bunnies right now :bunny:

 

I have an iPhone too and I have someone blocked on my phone...you should ask to talk to a supervisor next time.

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I have an iPhone too and I have someone blocked on my phone...you should ask to talk to a supervisor next time.

 

Was just getting ready to say that. I have an IPhone, and blocked numbers .

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Jennifer, as Carrie and many others have said on here, you're doing a lot of harm by hoping. Your hope is what's keeping you from moving on and developing feelings for anyone else besides Josh.

 

You're being extremely foolish and naive. Josh is protecting his wife's feelings by not telling her (of course, he already ruined that by sleeping with you, but that's besides the point)..but he's putting you through hell. Who do you think he cares more for..the person he's protecting, or the person he's hurting?

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jennifernyc84 Established Member

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Whoa! Looks like i missed a lot.

 

So anyway, i did my little detective work, and i her cell number. I've made my decision...I'm going to tell her. She needs to know. Plus its not fair that he gets away Scott free with this. Something has to happen.

 

He's been calling me still...i haven't answered. Surprisingly, he hasn't left any messages on voice mail . Not yet anyway.

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ThatJustHappened Established Member

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Good girl! Let us know what happens.

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jennifernyc84 Established Member

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Oh, and he's only two years older than me, so its not like he's this old guy chasing me.

 

We are both in or late 20s

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Whoa! Looks like i missed a lot.

 

Ok, first, that comment about the "dried meat loaf and juicy steak", was uncalled for and disgusting!

 

So anyway, i did my little detective work, and i her cell number. I've made my decision...I'm going to tell her. She needs to know. Plus its not fair that he gets away Scott free with this. Something has to happen.

 

He's been calling me still...i haven't answered. Surprisingly, he hasn't left any messages on voice mail . Not yet anyway.

 

This is such a good decision. Awesome show of strength by you.

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Can you ask her husband first if she's pregnant? Any trauma to a pregnant woman affects the fetus. I personally would not do that.

 

If she's not pregnant, go ahead and do what you decide to do. Remember you don't need to put up with her treating you badly and calling you names. You can hang up the phone. Hope you have proof, because I can see Josh trying to explain it as the crazy old crush who went psycho and is lying.

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So anyway, i did my little detective work, and i her cell number. I've made my decision...I'm going to tell her. She needs to know. Plus its not fair that he gets away Scott free with this. Something has to happen.

I'm proud of you.

 

And what Cutedragon said, expect to be painted as a liar. I hope you have kept voicemails and text messages...

 

Be strong and remember - we are here for you when you do it.

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jennifernyc84 Established Member

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Can you ask her husband first if she's pregnant? Any trauma to a pregnant woman affects the fetus. I personally would not do that.

 

If she's not pregnant, go ahead and do what you decide to do. Remember you don't need to put up with her treating you badly and calling you names. You can hang up the phone. Hope you have proof, because I can see Josh trying to explain it as the crazy old crush who went psycho and is lying.

 

She isn't pregnant. And i do have proof.. i saved every text he sent me.

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jennifernyc84 Established Member

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I'm proud of you.

 

And what Cutedragon said, expect to be painted as a liar. I hope you have kept voicemails and text messages...

 

Be strong and remember - we are here for you when you do it.

 

Thanks...its nice to know

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I'm sorry for my post I was being a B itch, it was uncalled for. I'm just in a really bad emotional place right now. I posted on one site and as soon as they know your the ow they all attack you, I guess I was just lashing out as well. Again I'm sorry I offended any of you.

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2sunny Established Member

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Glad you're going to tell her!

 

Great that your showing some change and strength in ending this and being honest with his wife about who she's married to.

 

I hope you can show her some compassion for her perspective when presenting your evidence.

 

Good work! Keep moving forward.

 

I hope you can stick to your boundary when he comes running after you.

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She isn't pregnant. And i do have proof.. i saved every text he sent me.

 

Just out of curiosity, how do you know she's not pregnant?

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jennifernyc84 Established Member

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Glad you're going to tell her!

 

Great that your showing some change and strength in ending this and being honest with his wife about who she's married to.

 

I hope you can show her some compassion for her perspective when presenting your evidence.

 

Good work! Keep moving forward.

 

I hope you can stick to your boundary when he comes running after you.

 

After this, i don't think he'll be running to me. He'll probably hate me forever.

 

I'm really nervous about talking to her. I hate confrontation.especially when I'm the one in the wrong...

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Just out of curiosity, how do you know she's not pregnant?

 

Because Josh would not hold that from me, he's a big mouth. Plus, my mom talks to josh's mom all the time. They're really close friends. It would've come up. We practically have the same group of people in our circle.

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I think I'd block his number before calling her...

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ThatJustHappened Established Member

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Because Josh would not hold that from me, he's a big mouth. Plus, my mom talks to josh's mom all the time. They're really close friends. It would've come up. We practically have the same group of people in our circle.

 

After all of this you still trust him to be honest with you? He is lying scum. Telling you would have impeded his ability to get what he wanted from you, so no, he wouldn't have told you.

 

Telling his wife is not only beneficial to her you know..it's beneficial to you too. You'll finally be able to begin freeing yourself from this obsessive hold you allow him to have over you.

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2sunny Established Member

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Start staying busy!

 

Work more

Take a class

Exercise

Join an art group - paint, draw, ceramics etc

Go out on real dates with new men

 

You need to get the focus off of him and onto you changing your life and interests - and meet NEW real friends!

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whichwayisup Established Member

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She isn't pregnant. And i do have proof.. i saved every text he sent me.

 

He could have lied to you about that, so it's not really proof that she isn't pregnant..It's just what he told you.

 

Either way, just know by telling her, you need to own your part in all this and not play the victim. Apologize to her for your part in this, and admit to her that you do love her husband and have for a long time. Don't put all the blame on him.

 

And be prepared for drama and fall out.

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