xLonelySouL Posted October 21, 2012 Share Posted October 21, 2012 hello ^^ i just found this amazing forum about LDR , and i wanted to know ur opinion , i didnt know there were many ppl to share the same and im glad that i have found this place =) so here there is in short my story: almost 1 year ago i ve know this girl(online in a forum) and since the first time we kept chatting and getting along so well with eachother , our first chat was like 7h xD untill the next morning lol =P and we kept comunicating very good the next days and with the time we started to have deeper feelings for eachother , we used to send to eachother animes images of couples and with the time she gave me some hints on her feelings and were the same i was feeling and i said that i love her and she felt the same to me, for new year eve i read on the forum that she was going to stay at home alone cos her mum was leaving with he friends and i was supposed to be with my friends too but then i decided just to stay with her cos i didnt want she spend that day alone and so we stayed on the pc toghether for the new year eve^^ and was great. after that she felt really bad and depressed on february and she had to join like a hospital cos she was feeling really down and i didnt know that i was very worried because she didnt reply me but then she told me everything and i felt sorry for it , the time was going on and for the summer we finally decided to met eachother i went to her country took the plane and our meeting was amazing really the best period of my life , i stayed with her for almost 1 month and i loved that time and she said the same , when i got back at the beggining was nice then for some reason she started to not being too present on msn or sms , (in past she used to do that too sometimes especially when she was feeling bad) i felt bad for this because being almost ignored by someone u love is one of the worst thing , she was feeling really bad and in summer we decided that she would have come to my country for december but she was feeling really bad so i wanted to do something for her so i booked the tickets for 5days and ill go to visit her on 31october. when we talked she told me that "the chat doesnt help , because when we chat she felt like she cant do what she wish to do in real , so she said thats the reason y she doesnt talk to me too much in msn and we almost hardly talk online , it was kinda hurtfull cos usually im the one taht effort a lot and tries to make a stupid draw or wrote her a poetry or some nice pic , something to make her feel that i love her soo much but she hardly do that . sometimes i send her a lot of msg but she take time to reply but i ve decided to dont be that insisted and seems it worked lolz since she started to send me some messages more , but it sucks because thats not how it should be . In real life we dont have problems but there is a lot of distance between us what can we do? and is it right not talk online because she feels like if she cant do what she wish as if we were in real? i really wish some suggestion and advices or maybe similar experiences. i do lover her sooo much and i know she loves me too . sorry for the long post and thanks for reading it ^^ Link to post Share on other sites
Ginaa Posted October 23, 2012 Share Posted October 23, 2012 I think maybe you two should take a break from talking to eachother for a while and see if you she misses you or if she becomes happier without the contact. It seems she is hurting , because she cannot be with you and I think you need to decide what is best for her, and what will make her feel happier? No contact ,because it reminds her of how far away you are, or to stay in contact and in a long distance relationship. Hope this helps... Link to post Share on other sites
Author xLonelySouL Posted October 25, 2012 Author Share Posted October 25, 2012 Thanks for the reply^^ anyways we are going to meet in 6days... i mean in person , will be our second meeting (she was feeling bad 1month ago about very bad so i decided to go to visit her since i dont love her just by words or behind a keyboard , i wanna show her that also i love her in facts and cos also i miss her too much , shes feeling better , i ve tried to not contact her for 3days about and she wrote me some messages , but my question is if its right to dont keep in touch in a LDR? u know maybe the time without contacting eachother could damage the relationship? or stuff like this Link to post Share on other sites
Ginaa Posted October 25, 2012 Share Posted October 25, 2012 well if your in a LDR relationship ofcourse it is right to keep in touch, because your in a relationship but if your taking a "break" then you need to leave the other person alone, so they have time to think clearly about what they want. If you speak to them , their thoughts will only get clouded. It would only damage your relationship,if you both decided you couldnt deal with it anymore. If she wants to stay with you , after the period of no contact then you know she still wants you and its all fine, as long as it doesnt happen again . Link to post Share on other sites
justwhoiam Posted November 4, 2012 Share Posted November 4, 2012 Maybe you just need to spend less time online. It doesn't mean not talking, but not for 7 hours. You make it 30 minutes and that won't affect her real life negatively. See what happens. I guess tomorrow's your last day with her. Let us know afterwards. Link to post Share on other sites
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