confusedlife123 Posted October 21, 2012 Share Posted October 21, 2012 So. Basically. Don't judge me. I am sickened and disgusted by my own actions. I 19. met this guy a couple of weeks ago, he goes to my college. He is a masters student, a lot older than me and i knew he had a girlfriend. He, however told me he did not. I finally got it out of him and he told me they were breaking up. She still lives in Canada, where he's from, but he's in the UK studying. We were dancing all night with his friends, and, after realizing how drunk both he and i were, i decided to call it a night and went home alone. A week later i see him out again and we start flirting, alcohol becomes involved (not an excuse, just saying...it was involved). I went back to his, telling him we were not going to have sex, we were just going to sleep, but i think subconsciously i knew what would happen. He openly told me then that he had a girlfriend. I knew i would regret it. He made me feel good about myself and something inside of me was hoping him and his girlfriend might break up and he might want to be with me. So we had sex. I feel so guilty. Not because i'm scared his girlfriend is going to find out, she won't, because he wants to keep it on the down low, also. But because my actions are incredibly wrong and i feel like a whore. I would HATE it if i had a boyfriend and he cheated on me. The next morning he explained to me, that being in a long distance relationship is hard, and to be honest, i agree with the valid points he made, but i did tell him that it would not happen again, and that he shouldn't do this to his girlfriend. I don't know what i want out of this post. I just wanted to confess. Sorry. Link to post Share on other sites
Author confusedlife123 Posted October 21, 2012 Author Share Posted October 21, 2012 I will never, do it again! Link to post Share on other sites
silicone Posted October 21, 2012 Share Posted October 21, 2012 Oh come on, LDRs aren't the hardest thing. I last had sex with my gf last year, and I have a high sex drive, but I haven't cheated on her. Link to post Share on other sites
ImperfectionisBeauty Posted October 21, 2012 Share Posted October 21, 2012 If you don't wanna do it again then don't.. It happens to the best of us. Link to post Share on other sites
whichwayisup Posted October 21, 2012 Share Posted October 21, 2012 I will never, do it again! End it with him completely. No friendship, no keeping in touch. You messed up and it's a mistake that made you feel bad, made you go against your moral compass. Forgive yourself and move on, never look back. Link to post Share on other sites
nofool4u Posted October 22, 2012 Share Posted October 22, 2012 So. Basically. Don't judge me. I am sickened and disgusted by my own actions. I 19. met this guy a couple of weeks ago, he goes to my college. He is a masters student, a lot older than me and i knew he had a girlfriend. He, however told me he did not. I finally got it out of him and he told me they were breaking up. She still lives in Canada, where he's from, but he's in the UK studying. We were dancing all night with his friends, and, after realizing how drunk both he and i were, i decided to call it a night and went home alone. A week later i see him out again and we start flirting, alcohol becomes involved (not an excuse, just saying...it was involved). I went back to his, telling him we were not going to have sex, we were just going to sleep, but i think subconsciously i knew what would happen. He openly told me then that he had a girlfriend. I knew i would regret it. He made me feel good about myself and something inside of me was hoping him and his girlfriend might break up and he might want to be with me. So we had sex. I feel so guilty. Not because i'm scared his girlfriend is going to find out, she won't, because he wants to keep it on the down low, also. But because my actions are incredibly wrong and i feel like a whore. I would HATE it if i had a boyfriend and he cheated on me. The next morning he explained to me, that being in a long distance relationship is hard, and to be honest, i agree with the valid points he made, but i did tell him that it would not happen again, and that he shouldn't do this to his girlfriend. I don't know what i want out of this post. I just wanted to confess. Sorry. He lied to you. So what happened is really not on you. You shouldn't feel bad....unless you continue having sex with him. He wants to keep it on the down low because he has no intentions of breaking up with his gf. So you shouldn't feel bad about this......yet. Tell him you don't want anything to do with him again. Link to post Share on other sites
MrVegas Posted October 22, 2012 Share Posted October 22, 2012 I wouldn't say don't feel bad, you are not completely without a part in the situation. However, you should not shoulder any burden for the status of his relationship, or the outcome. If not with you, a cheater will find someone to cheat with. Cheating is cowardly, especially so in a LDR. If his balls aren't big enough to deal with his relationship, you should not let them near you. I do agree that if you do allow it to continue, then your role in the situation does change. Remember that he didn't respect his girlfriend enough to be honest, it is unlikely he would respect you any more than her. If he comes back with a sob story about why, or how bad it is, or even that she cheated too or it's over, its probably a lie. Chalk it up to a bad decision, and move along. Better for you and your conscience. Link to post Share on other sites
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