long term boyfriend plus blast from the past

[galwaypenguin]

Hi guys,

 

I have been in an extremely happy relationship for the past 4 and a half years. Of course no relationship is perfect, but ours seems to be getting stronger and stronger as time goes by. I'm young, 24 and last weekend bumped into an old friend from secondary school whole i fancied for the 6 years. We always had 'something' between us, we kissed once in secondary school and we went our separate ways; college. Bumping into him was such a lovely surprise and we had a dance, completely innocent, there was a group of us and then, out of the blue he kissed me on the lips. I didn't kiss back, I instantly pulled away and brought him outside to explain I am in a relationship and I am very happy in it. He apologised profusely and then he just have a nice conversation about the good old days.

 

We've agreed to meet up for lunch next week, and as innocent as the whole lunch thing is, part of me feels guilty about it. Of course I'll tell my boyfriend that I will be going for lunch with him, but for some reason I still feel disloyal. I didn't initiate the kiss, nor did was I flirting with him. It was too old friends who hadn't seen each other in 2 years dancing with other friends.

 

Would you tell your boyfriend about the kiss, I want to do the right thing...but I'm not sure if there's any need as I didn't kiss him. When he found out I had a boyfriend he was extremely apologetic.

 

It is ok for me to go to lunch with this guy? It will be innocent lunch with 2 old friends. Part of me is frightened that feelings will resurface and I won't know what to do if that happens as my I love my boyfriend so much.

 

I would really appreciate any advice.

[nofool4u]

Hi guys,

 

I have been in an extremely happy relationship for the past 4 and a half years. Of course no relationship is perfect, but ours seems to be getting stronger and stronger as time goes by. I'm young, 24 and last weekend bumped into an old friend from secondary school whole i fancied for the 6 years. We always had 'something' between us, we kissed once in secondary school and we went our separate ways; college. Bumping into him was such a lovely surprise and we had a dance, completely innocent, there was a group of us and then, out of the blue he kissed me on the lips. I didn't kiss back, I instantly pulled away and brought him outside to explain I am in a relationship and I am very happy in it. He apologised profusely and then he just have a nice conversation about the good old days.

 

We've agreed to meet up for lunch next week, and as innocent as the whole lunch thing is, part of me feels guilty about it.

 

Its not innocent. You know what you are doing. Feeling out the situation.

 

If you are in a happy relationship, or any relationship, you have no business, without disrespecting your bf, having lunch with a guy you had/have the hots for.

 

 

Of course I'll tell my boyfriend that I will be going for lunch with him, but for some reason I still feel disloyal. I didn't initiate the kiss, nor did was I flirting with him. It was too old friends who hadn't seen each other in 2 years dancing with other friends.

 

You aren't "just" friends. You already admitted there has always been something between the two of you. Therefore this lunch meet is highly inappropriate and disrespectful to your bf.

 

 

Would you tell your boyfriend about the kiss, I want to do the right thing

 

Then call off the lunch meet with this guy.

 

 

It is ok for me to go to lunch with this guy?

 

No.

 

 

It will be innocent lunch with 2 old friends.

 

No, it is not an innocent lunch with 2 old friends. Its a feeling out lunch between 2 people that have feelings for each other.

 

And yes, you STILL have feelings for him. This is not "just" a friendship.

 

 

 

Part of me is frightened that feelings will resurface

 

They already have, otherwise you wouldn't be meeting him again.

 

 

I would really appreciate any advice.

 

Cancel the lunch and tell this other guy that its inappropriate for you two to have lunch together.

[River Rain]

Hi guys,

 

I have been in an extremely happy relationship for the past 4 and a half years. Of course no relationship is perfect, but ours seems to be getting stronger and stronger as time goes by. I'm young, 24 and last weekend bumped into an old friend from secondary school whole i fancied for the 6 years. We always had 'something' between us, we kissed once in secondary school and we went our separate ways; college. Bumping into him was such a lovely surprise and we had a dance, completely innocent, there was a group of us and then, out of the blue he kissed me on the lips. I didn't kiss back, I instantly pulled away and brought him outside to explain I am in a relationship and I am very happy in it. He apologised profusely and then he just have a nice conversation about the good old days.

 

We've agreed to meet up for lunch next week, and as innocent as the whole lunch thing is, part of me feels guilty about it. Of course I'll tell my boyfriend that I will be going for lunch with him, but for some reason I still feel disloyal. I didn't initiate the kiss, nor did was I flirting with him. It was too old friends who hadn't seen each other in 2 years dancing with other friends.

 

Would you tell your boyfriend about the kiss, I want to do the right thing...but I'm not sure if there's any need as I didn't kiss him. When he found out I had a boyfriend he was extremely apologetic.

 

It is ok for me to go to lunch with this guy? It will be innocent lunch with 2 old friends. Part of me is frightened that feelings will resurface and I won't know what to do if that happens as my I love my boyfriend so much.

 

I would really appreciate any advice.

 

Do you think all of this is completely innocent? How would you feel if your boyfriend bumped into an old flame and danced with her, then went to lunch with her? If you're worried that old feelings will resurface, and if you don't want them to, don't be in contact with this guy. You'll be setting yourself up for trouble and hurting your boyfriend in the process.

 

It's up to you if you want to tell your bf about the dance/kiss/lunch date, depends on your set of values. If you hide it, then that probably indicates it's not very innocent after all.