taya Posted October 23, 2012 Share Posted October 23, 2012 (edited) PLZ DONT JUDGE ME I ONLY WANT POSITIVE ADVICE ..ok so i met a great guy 8 months ago he toled me he was getting a divorce from his wife they already file and they just wating to finalize everthing and also they are not living togather anymore. i wasent too happy earing all that but i agree to have dinner with him we had dinner and days and months go by we beacme great friends we text everday and we also had sex we dont live in the same city so we dident see each other alot and also he have a crazy job that takes alot of his time but we communicate text calls ect about a month ago he tell me his wife wanted him back and he dont no what to do beacuse hes not happy with her sex wise alot of agruements and ect so i ask him what he want he tell me he dont no beacuse he did love her and they have been togather for 8 years dated 6 and married 2 . lately i see he dont text me as much i havent even seen him in awhile now evertime he say hes coming to see me somthing happen ,he was to see me last week he say his counselor tell him not to be with anyone at the moment until he fixs his life and know what he wants .and also they stop the divorce but he say its stop but nothing change hes not with her they both still do there own thing he say he agree to stop it only to see if his mind will change he text me today i tell him am going to go out with another guy next week because i feel hes with his ex now he say no hes not he just cant see me right now because he dont want to hurt me.he say he really wants me ,they have houses a dog cars togather ect so he say thats why its so hard .they have no kids tho , he also tell me today he really wants me he just need to figure things out .i have also got mad a few times with him and tell him i wont bother him or wont text him anymore now i feel guilty for doing that even today i got mad telling him hes with his ex and am going to go out with another guy i just need some advice no judgement plz. and we are both in your 20ths ,i saw on her face book she put a pic of both of them up ,but he dident do that on his but i saw she did a few post and he click that he likes them so i dont no if am over analyzing sfuff Edited October 23, 2012 by taya 1 Link to post Share on other sites
2sunny Posted October 23, 2012 Share Posted October 23, 2012 He's playing you. Find an available guy...life's too short. Never settle! 2 Link to post Share on other sites
Author taya Posted October 23, 2012 Author Share Posted October 23, 2012 He lied to you, he never was separated. He probably got caught or he is not as interested anymore or he is afraid of getting caught. As sunny said..........find an available man, without the drama. Cut your losses now, it will be less painful now than later. i agree with you guys thats what am going to do now so crazy tho but that life. i do beleave him tho when he say they were getting a divorce thats why i even talk to him in the first place but i dont beleave him now that they arent togather i think he wants me to wait around to see if they work out or not so if they dont he will come back to me but i will not be someones option:o Link to post Share on other sites
Pierre Posted October 23, 2012 Share Posted October 23, 2012 i agree with you guys thats what am going to do now so crazy tho but that life. i do beleave him tho when he say they were getting a divorce thats why i even talk to him in the first place but i dont beleave him now that they arent togather i think he wants me to wait around to see if they work out or not so if they dont he will come back to me but i will not be someones option:o Don't be a fool. He is playing you. His words are the same words all cheating married men say to naive women like you. You are playing with fire and this man is a loser. 1 Link to post Share on other sites
veryhappy Posted October 23, 2012 Share Posted October 23, 2012 Ask for proof of what he's been saying. Any papers related with the divorce, if it's been going on for a while he should have something to show. If they were separated, any proof of a different address? This should be fun to see. The first step is optional. The second step is to tell him that unless he's divorced, he shouldn't look for you. That's all. If he's in his 20s with no kids, he has no remotely valid excuses. What, the cat will have a hard time during the divorce? I wouldn't be surprised if they're going to a have a baby soon to celebrate their marriage. It's in your best interest to stop the A. Link to post Share on other sites
underwater2010 Posted October 23, 2012 Share Posted October 23, 2012 Ask him for paperwork....or better call his house. I bet you find out that he was never divorcing and just got busted. This is why I tell women to ask for the finalized paperwork before they ever get involved. Link to post Share on other sites
Author taya Posted October 23, 2012 Author Share Posted October 23, 2012 Ask him for paperwork....or better call his house. I bet you find out that he was never divorcing and just got busted. This is why I tell women to ask for the finalized paperwork before they ever get involved. yeah when we met he was getting a divorce he had show me the papers he file it was after they stop it beacus he say she wants him back but he say he stop it to see if is mind will change beacuse he did love her and need to figure this out , but part of me feel they back togather now but he say they are not the thing that kills me is not being able to just let it go and move on if he really wanted me he will finalized the divorce, but know i keep on texting him and making a fool out of my self Link to post Share on other sites
Author taya Posted October 23, 2012 Author Share Posted October 23, 2012 (edited) Ask for proof of what he's been saying. Any papers related with the divorce, if it's been going on for a while he should have something to show. If they were separated, any proof of a different address? This should be fun to see. The first step is optional. The second step is to tell him that unless he's divorced, he shouldn't look for you. That's all. If he's in his 20s with no kids, he has no remotely valid excuses. What, the cat will have a hard time during the divorce? I wouldn't be surprised if they're going to a have a baby soon to celebrate their marriage. It's in your best interest to stop the A. i so agree with you and thats what i told him he say hes just seeing if his mind change beacuse he did love her hes even the one that told me its better he gets out before there is a kid involved beacuse hes not happy . at this point i dont care what he does today i have look over everthing and will let it all go hes not even coming to see me any more so that alone should tell me so am leting it go if he wants me he will get a divorce finalized but am not wating to find that out he knows how to reach me Edited October 23, 2012 by taya Link to post Share on other sites
mishy Posted October 24, 2012 Share Posted October 24, 2012 its always bad news getting involved with someone who is attached. And he is cheating on his wife so even if you did end up properly together, he would probably cheat on you too Link to post Share on other sites
Author taya Posted October 24, 2012 Author Share Posted October 24, 2012 its always bad news getting involved with someone who is attached. And he is cheating on his wife so even if you did end up properly together, he would probably cheat on you too i agree i stll talk to him tho but not in that way until he finalized his divorce i will move on am talking to another guy now thats single so am moving on with my life i tell him he needs to figure this out i really like him so much i wont lie because he was good to me and very respectful always making sure am ok we did mess around when he had first flie for the divorce but we stop when he stop the divorce to figure out if he wants to stay married so me and him not togather now like i say until i see that finaly divorce papers i will be dating another guy and thats what am doing now.... there is too much fish in the sea Link to post Share on other sites
GuyInLimbo Posted November 14, 2012 Share Posted November 14, 2012 i agree i stll talk to him tho but not in that way until he finalized his divorce i will move on am talking to another guy now thats single so am moving on with my life i tell him he needs to figure this out i really like him so much i wont lie because he was good to me and very respectful always making sure am ok we did mess around when he had first flie for the divorce but we stop when he stop the divorce to figure out if he wants to stay married so me and him not togather now like i say until i see that finaly divorce papers i will be dating another guy and thats what am doing now.... there is too much fish in the sea No, no, NO. Cut off all contact with hm and move on. You're going to pursue a relationship with a guy like this?? You have never gotten a straight story from him. To me, sounds like he found a hottie to bang, accomplished that and is now playing games. Even if he has papers, why would you trust the guy at this point? IMO, if you have any further problems with this guy, it's your own fault for ignoring the obvious red flags here. Link to post Share on other sites
2sunny Posted November 14, 2012 Share Posted November 14, 2012 I agree with no communication. By talking to him - he's still GTTING the idea your biting on his line. He still gets his ego feed! Just tells you that if you were dating him - he'd be chatting it up with other women without telling you. It's not nice to his wife...and that could be you. Link to post Share on other sites
mammasita Posted November 14, 2012 Share Posted November 14, 2012 Taya, you have great boobs. Just sayin. Link to post Share on other sites
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