How to go about meeting new people...

[JustSomeGuy1]

I posted another thread on here about my depression and such.. One person told me I need to find people like me and to make friendships with them.. Just I don't know how to go about doing this or where to go or anything, I'm at a complete loss.

 

I'm 17 and at college so it's not exactly like I can go out and talk to people are bars and things... and I'd like to stress I'm not looking for a girlfriend.. as much as I'd like too... it's not exactly going to happen.. So, best way for me to meet people?

[Avulare]

Any college worth its tuition has tons of social clubs. Join some of those.

[JustSomeGuy1]

Any college worth its tuition has tons of social clubs. Join some of those.

 

I live in the UK so my college tuition is free for me.. on top of that, my college isn't worth a penny. It has like nothing at all, I did already think of that but it honestly has nothing.

[aMguilts]

hi JustSomeGuy1

 

Just read your other thread.

 

I`m going to give you an answer to this thread but it`ll kind of help you from what you mentioned in your other one..

 

`Bullies` will always pick on people they see as `weak` ( i`m not saying you are weak, just hear me out)

 

What you do seem to lack thou is confidence in yourself. A `bully` will never pick on a confident person, nomatter their size .

 

Plus with your depression( are you getting any help with that? meds? councelling?)

 

it seems i can give you 1 bit of advice that will kill 3 birds with 1 stone.

 

How to meet new people?

 

Start a sport..... Join a running club, start learning karate, join a cycling club a rowing club( after the olympics, london must be boooooming with these???)

This will benefit you , cos 1.. you will get fit, 2 you will become more confident in yourself( exercise releases endorphins, they are natures `antidepressants( way better than any pill you can take)) and 3... you will meet more ppl

 

Good luck

 

aM

[River Rain]

I posted another thread on here about my depression and such.. One person told me I need to find people like me and to make friendships with them.. Just I don't know how to go about doing this or where to go or anything, I'm at a complete loss.

 

I'm 17 and at college so it's not exactly like I can go out and talk to people are bars and things... and I'd like to stress I'm not looking for a girlfriend.. as much as I'd like too... it's not exactly going to happen.. So, best way for me to meet people?

 

If you don't think you're ready to meet people in person, you can start by joining a forum for people with depression. I did that and it got me back into feeling social again and eventually I've been able to meet people in "real" life.

[ooglesnboogles]

Ya know, I was in a boat similar to yours. I was across the US in school, far from home, with people who didn't think anything like me (different culture, kinda out in the middle of nowhere). I was friends with a few people I had multiple classes with but after a few months I really only had two friends and I only saw them during the week. Weekends were long and hard.

 

I made it better by just going outside and sitting or walking. Just get out and look around. Don't be like a hawk looking for prey, just go outside and see what there is to see. I used to hang out near the school-bus stop (goes between campuses), I'd strike up a conversation with anybody who looked bored like me. Had I been a little more open I probably could have formed a few friendships just from that. I actually ended up becoming friends with one of the students who drove the school shuttle, she was pretty chill and was bored as hell from driving back and forth all Saturday so we used to have great conversations.

 

I'm not one to get out there and do stuff, I never joined any clubs or tried especially hard to meet people. But I managed to find a few people whose company I enjoyed just by getting outside.