Necromancer Posted October 27, 2012 Share Posted October 27, 2012 My point is if you are going to have that much anxiety after 48 hours, I would be very surprised if you are able to maintain a relationship. Its good that he finally called you. Maybe you are the type of girl that is really sensitive and easily hurt. Maybe you are very young and haven't dated a lot. I was just saying, that a lot of guys are "Not gabby phone call talkers" and guys are much better "in person talkers" so its not always the easiest thing to call up a girl immediately, think of something to say, and plan a date activity. Guys are a little scared, but they're mostly clueless about "taking the lead in dating romance." Believe it or not, guys think very little about dating romance, guys don't watch 'romantic comedies' and have no idea how to impress a woman. The few men who have figured out "romance" become "Players" because they realize just how much better they are than 99% of the other lazy men out there, and can attract so many more girls that they don't need to be monogamous. Lazy men?, Mens success with women is mostly based on their looks. Don't tell me that you think mans success with women is based on how romantic he is.... That's not TRUE. Link to post Share on other sites
ja123 Posted October 27, 2012 Share Posted October 27, 2012 He gave me his number, he put mine in his phone then called me so I would have his. But the thing is he said I will call you...So I feel stupid making the first move, I am not a shy person so normally it would not bother me at all, but being that he said I will call you I don't feel it's up to me. Am I wrong? And now it's been 3 days and tomorrow will be 4 so anything I text at this point would be LAME. sigh. He gave off a real down to earth guy vibe too. Don't call him first, in this situation. Link to post Share on other sites
ja123 Posted October 27, 2012 Share Posted October 27, 2012 I've had something similar happen to me. This guy would always compliment me everytime he saw me by telling me how wonderful I looked. He would say "wow everytime I see you, you always look so nice". Other times he would call me "sexy". So I asked for his phone number. I called it, and it was the WRONG number. When I saw him again, he gave me some b.s. excuse about his cell phone not working. I don't get it. Since then I always let the guy make the first move by asking me for MY number. He was married. Link to post Share on other sites
ja123 Posted October 27, 2012 Share Posted October 27, 2012 I ran into a guy I'd briefly (platonically) met 4 years ago, he asked for my number and hasn't called. That was two weeks ago. He'd mentioned that things had taken a downturn in his life, so I figure he's probably not feeling too good about himself now to pursue a woman. Too bad though, he's cute and we good have taken things slow and tried to get to know one another. Link to post Share on other sites
jcrew11 Posted October 27, 2012 Share Posted October 27, 2012 I ran into a guy I'd briefly (platonically) met 4 years ago, he asked for my number and hasn't called. That was two weeks ago. He'd mentioned that things had taken a downturn in his life, so I figure he's probably not feeling too good about himself now to pursue a woman. Too bad though, he's cute and we good have taken things slow and tried to get to know one another. Haha, why don't you call him first? Link to post Share on other sites
jcrew11 Posted October 27, 2012 Share Posted October 27, 2012 Lazy men?, Mens success with women is mostly based on their looks. Don't tell me that you think mans success with women is based on how romantic he is.... That's not TRUE. Well, I was saying there are a lot of good-looking and average-looking guys that are terrible with women because they are clueless. Having a "Likeable personility" and knowing how to keep a girlfriend will help a guy get laid, way more than standing around and not calling a girl. Putting in the right amount of effort is essential. Link to post Share on other sites
jcrew11 Posted October 27, 2012 Share Posted October 27, 2012 I get it but no I am not young but I do have limited dating experience I was married for 11 years and then in another long term relationship for 2.5 years, it was never this hard with them! I prefer not to gab on the phone and just set up a date and go! I just have always heard if a guy is into you they will contact you right away (1-3 days) because they are excited to hang out. I suppose I do have some anxiety just because I feel new to all of this again and have no clue what to expect! Well, dating is a lot more hectic nowadays because there are so many more options, and women are more available to men and promiscuous. The traditional dating of Men taking charge, and waiting for marriage are long gone. You're a bit older, so your options in available men have shrunk. But in this feminist age, you have to take charge of your own life and not wait by the phone. As a feminist, a woman can be president, but a woman can't be the first to call a guy? If a guy doesn't like it, then its his problem, not yours. Guys will generally call between 3-7 days if they want to make plans for the weekend. But Guys have busy lives, but if you need a strange man to call you everyday and getting upset, then its going to be very hard keeping a relationship. Its called the "3 day rule" because Men are busy with work and don't want to appear wimpy or creepy. Also, during the week people have lives. Link to post Share on other sites
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