We are both married

[swtnsxy20041]

I began working as a waitess, and met this wonderful guy. We are both married. He is haveing problems in his marriage and so I am. We have been talking to each other for 4 months now and yet to be romantically involved. I want to be but he says that he is not ready. He wants me to leave my husband. I love him so much. He is like no other. He is tried of sneaking around and meetting at 4am and stuff but I am fine with that fvor right now, I mean dont get me wrong I want to be with him, but we could hurt so many people. what do yall think

[whichwayisup]

Hi. Yes, Difficult situation. I don't understand why he would want you to leave your husband when he's not ready for anything to really happen between the two of you. Abit confusing?

 

Keep your shield up abit, I know you love him and feel alot, but I must say too, you do have your head on straight too, being aware of many potiental hurt feelings from your spouses too. How bad are the problems in each of your marriages? Any kids in the picture? Do you love your husband and does he love his wife?

 

Take it slow, maybe take a break with the romance with him, but try the friendship thing for a while and see how that goes. Go for coffee and lunch but stay away from dinners and late night meetings.

 

Good luck.

 

WWIU

[TheAnalyzer]

If the both of you are married and you both are having problems in your marriages are they not salvageable? Or do not want them to be? If you don't, then you need to come clean with your H and he needs to come clean with his wife about wanting out. Then maybe the both of you can go from there as far as a relationship together. You're right others can get hurt if you all are found out and they may be hurt anyway if you tell your H you want out. However, better to do it that way, than to continue to sneak around and get caught. Then it will be a mess. Good luck.