Necromancer Posted October 24, 2012 Share Posted October 24, 2012 If so how?. Link to post Share on other sites
mammasita Posted October 24, 2012 Share Posted October 24, 2012 Have you ever heard the term "Fake it till you make it" ? That's how. 1 Link to post Share on other sites
InJest Posted October 24, 2012 Share Posted October 24, 2012 Have you ever seen a guy that you thought was a complete loser, but thinks he's the ****, and somehow girls like him? It's because he thinks he's the ****, and he projects that. It's not about faking confidence, it's about finding any little thing you can be confident about, and running with it. 1 Link to post Share on other sites
threebyfate Posted October 24, 2012 Share Posted October 24, 2012 Can confidence really be faked? Why fake it when it's not that difficult to become confident? 3 Link to post Share on other sites
carhill Posted October 24, 2012 Share Posted October 24, 2012 OP, could you specifically define the type and substance of the confidence you wish to inquire about being faked? For example (not advice or a general description), do you wish to project the confidence that is attractive to a woman when approaching her for a date? That can be a very different kind of confidence, even with the same umbrella, from the confidence in your research work to discover a cure for cancer or landing Microsoft as a customer for your company. I'm asking because I've seen such disparities in confidence in both others and myself throughout life. In fact, I can't point to one person who is globally confident about every potential and real aspect of life. Sure, one can adapt and overcome, but there still are moments of indecision, fear, hesitation, doubt. Is 'faking' confidence squelching the expressions of those emotions during the process? What do you think? 1 Link to post Share on other sites
Necris Posted October 24, 2012 Share Posted October 24, 2012 Can confidence really be faked? Why fake it when it's not that difficult to become confident? Confidence is hard to achieve if you aren't getting results. Link to post Share on other sites
january2011 Posted October 24, 2012 Share Posted October 24, 2012 If so how?. By just getting on with it and ignoring your inner critic. Start small with actions that are low risk and have a high probability of a positive outcome. Wash. Rinse. Repeat. 2 Link to post Share on other sites
jcrew11 Posted October 24, 2012 Share Posted October 24, 2012 Have you tried smiling in public? Work on your voice - having a confident, cool, sensual voice is very appealing to women. George Clooney has a seductive voice. Just practice your voice because its one of the easier things to improve. If you dress nice, buy nice clothes, get a good haircut, maybe blonde hightlights. By looking good, and feeling good, your confidence will improve. Wear a nice suit when you go out to clubs, just for fun. Link to post Share on other sites
threebyfate Posted October 24, 2012 Share Posted October 24, 2012 Confidence is hard to achieve if you aren't getting results.This is because you believe it's given to you from external sources. That's not confidence. That's a need for external validation. Isn't there anything that you're confident about in real life that doesn't require external validation? Link to post Share on other sites
todreaminblue Posted October 24, 2012 Share Posted October 24, 2012 If so how?. you find something about yourself that you love.....you accept the fear and you take a step.....and then another and another and another oops wrong turn defeated here another step another success another step more defeat so insert prayer here....look for blue skies another step then you are striding with your chin up and a smile on your face i have to look within i try to project respect i feel for others to gain respect....i dress to the best of my ability when i go out if i look like crap i shouldnt go out.....because no amount of confidence will make you feel good if you look like crap....i smile at people i care about which is nearly all ....lol...sometimes a smile can go a long way to making a difference to someones life....do you remember any stranger smiling in the street when you look their way just makes you day a little brighter doesnt it...its unexpected kindness.....i gain confidence.....for this fact...i have made a difference to loads of people just by simple unassuming ways and i am a fan of random acts of kindness...i have confidence within no matter when i am scared crapless its still there........deb 1 Link to post Share on other sites
Jamesblame Posted October 25, 2012 Share Posted October 25, 2012 Great answer up above. Really just find something about yourself that you enjoy and then own it. You may have made mistakes in the past, you're not as perfect as you want...but you do have that XY and Z going for you. And also be sure to view yourself as a third party person. If you saw you, and knew everything that went in your head and your past...would you be as judgmental and cruel to them as you are yourself? Most likely not. I'd suggest to carry along a gratitude list to remind yourself of the good things going for you. Then just build on small successes. If you do the right thing every day then you'll eventually get where you want to be. Regardless of what happens. Study basic body language to appear more confident. Straight back, smile, hands out of pocket. Sure enough...your body positioning will actually make you FEEL more confident. It's somatic memory. You smile and your mind associates smiling with a feeling of being happy, making you happy. Just because you smile. Link to post Share on other sites
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