anp1005 Posted October 24, 2012 Share Posted October 24, 2012 My boyfriend and I were texting back and forth yesterday and he stopped responding to me. So I called him to ask what he was up to, he said he was at his friend’s house (which I took to mean he had been there for awhile). Apparently he had just gotten there. He told me he was driving when I texted him. So I text him again because I thought he was lying and was at his friend’s house and just said he was driving, so he responds with a text that says “why over”. This was at 2:42, then he sends one at 2:44 that says “I just got here when you called”. So I ask what he meant by “why over” and he says that he meant to say “what?” and that it was a typo. Now “why over” is pretty far from “what?” so I started to get suspicious and I got this idea in my head that maybe he accidentally sent the text to me and meant to send it to another girl that he’s been seeing behind my back and he was asking her why it’s over between them, hence the “why over” message. I’m not sure if I’m being irrational. I asked him about it a few times and he said to check the AT&T account (he’s on my phone bill), but he could have decided not to text the other person since I saw the message and though it was suspicious (maybe he was being careful)…I did look though and there were no calls or texts to any unknown numbers at all yesterday (before or after the weird text) or in the days before that. Does this sound like it was meant for another girl? Link to post Share on other sites
Author anp1005 Posted October 24, 2012 Author Share Posted October 24, 2012 wow! are you being serious? I don't want to sound mean, but you really need to relax and calm down. He was driving and probably misstyped (he shouldn't be texting while he was driving)! Hell when I read the title I thought it would be something along the lines of him callin you another girl's name, or saying something else which completely emplies cheating. he just used "why". You know if you keep up these acusations he is going to leave you. I would ignore it, play it off... and make a real post on here if you actually find evidence to suppor that he is in fact cheating on you. Thank you for your response. But he actually wasn't driving. He was at his friend's house when he sent the text. Not sure if that changes your response Link to post Share on other sites
Mycteria Posted October 24, 2012 Share Posted October 24, 2012 Wow. This is another example of why I'm glad I'm a woman! Link to post Share on other sites
Author anp1005 Posted October 24, 2012 Author Share Posted October 24, 2012 Wow. This is another example of why I'm glad I'm a woman! What do you mean by this? Link to post Share on other sites
mammasita Posted October 24, 2012 Share Posted October 24, 2012 I think you're reaching a bit. Has he ever cheated on you before? Link to post Share on other sites
Author anp1005 Posted October 24, 2012 Author Share Posted October 24, 2012 I think you're reaching a bit. Has he ever cheated on you before? Not that I know of. I sure hope not! Link to post Share on other sites
SmileFace Posted October 24, 2012 Share Posted October 24, 2012 Women logic.... Face palm. 2 Link to post Share on other sites
TigerCub Posted October 24, 2012 Share Posted October 24, 2012 oyi... Here's most likely how it happened: - You were texting him - He was driving to friends - You call him - He answers and tells you he just go to his friend's - You continue to text him - He is annoyed because he just got to his friend's so doesn't want to keep texting you then, so he tried to type "what ?" and sends quickly before realizing that the auto-complete feature can be quite annoying (almost as annoying as you are being with him) - So ... you continue to hound him and question if he's a cheater. - Furthermore, lets assume for a second that the text was to his secret gf, why would it be 'Why over' - shouldn't it be something along the lines of 'When are you coming over?' 3 Link to post Share on other sites
SmileFace Posted October 24, 2012 Share Posted October 24, 2012 First things first. Stop checking his calls ffs Link to post Share on other sites
Million.to.1 Posted October 24, 2012 Share Posted October 24, 2012 You are being paranoid. You will push him away if you carry on with this sort of behaviour. If there are other reasons you feel insecure in the relationship, you need to address those rather than projecting imaginary fears onto your boyfriend in unproductive ways which will only create more of the same. Link to post Share on other sites
GorillaTheater Posted October 24, 2012 Share Posted October 24, 2012 Is this the same guy you've been posting about for the past two years? I'm about ready to send him a sympathy card. 7 Link to post Share on other sites
Janesays Posted October 24, 2012 Share Posted October 24, 2012 If I were him, I'm dump you. You sound waaaaaayyyy too insecure and paranoid to be in a relationship. If you distrust him to the point where you're checking his phone bills and inventing these crazy 'he's cheating' theories in your head, why bother even being with him? You're just going to make the both of you miserable. Do some work on yourself before you try to be someone's girlfriend. You'll be happier that way. 1 Link to post Share on other sites
Mycteria Posted October 24, 2012 Share Posted October 24, 2012 (edited) What do you mean by this? So that I don't have to date women...! Wow...I knew I had posted that on some other thread at some point. I just looked at your thread history and it was actually in one of your threads. You are the perfect example of everything men dislike about women. I feel so, so sorry for your boyfriend. I'm actually wondering if this is a troll or not. Edited October 24, 2012 by Mycteria 1 Link to post Share on other sites
Mycteria Posted October 24, 2012 Share Posted October 24, 2012 Is this the same guy you've been posting about for the past two years? I'm about ready to send him a sympathy card. This x100000 2 Link to post Share on other sites
pteromom Posted October 24, 2012 Share Posted October 24, 2012 I’m not sure if I’m being irrational. Yes, you are. You need to relax, and decide to either trust your boyfriend, or decide that you do not trust him and let him move on to someone who does. You can NEVER NEVER control someone into not cheating. No matter how closely you monitor his phone, email, and every move, if he wants to cheat, he will. So why waste your energy on these things? Instead, focus on being happy and enjoying life. Link to post Share on other sites
MichiganMan222 Posted October 25, 2012 Share Posted October 25, 2012 This happened to me. I asked my wife what time she was working 'til one afternoon and she meant to reply 'Be home at 5. Can't wait to see you' but it auto-corrected to 'See you in 5. Can't want to sit on your pole'. She ended up getting home around Midnight and we chuckled about it. 2 Link to post Share on other sites
todreaminblue Posted October 25, 2012 Share Posted October 25, 2012 you have to trust him you have the proof in the phone bill if you keep accusing a guy of cheating........your relationship is not going to last..... next tiem somethign liek this happens dont jump the gun....relax....trust.....until you have absolute proof ....be honest though ask if you doubt(dotn accuse just ask) but then give him and your relationship that benefit of trust....best wishes....deb Link to post Share on other sites
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SeventhFloor Posted November 2, 2012 Share Posted November 2, 2012 Seriously, it sounds like he was just texting his friend "way over" as in, i'm on my way over, but mis-sent it to you and it was a typo. This is nothing, let it go. Link to post Share on other sites
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