jamielee Posted November 19, 2012 Share Posted November 19, 2012 i hope i get over him and after everything i wont get him with him..can imagine how u felt cause thats what i feel right now i would call him and text him non stop begging him and he would say mean things to me at times dirty things but i still didnt want to accept thats its over bt now i hope all goes well that i keep up with the NC cause everyone is saying its helps Link to post Share on other sites
taya Posted November 19, 2012 Share Posted November 19, 2012 (edited) i hope i get over him and after everything i wont get him with him..can imagine how u felt cause thats what i feel right now i would call him and text him non stop begging him and he would say mean things to me at times dirty things but i still didnt want to accept thats its over bt now i hope all goes well that i keep up with the NC cause everyone is saying its helps for sure it helps just do it ...this man is no no good to you keep telling your self that and when you feel to text or call him just post here we will surely talk some since into you untile you can get it on your own ..make today a happy day so smile as your read this because today you start your life over start think of the suff your going to do now start some new clasess or somthing think about the man you want when you get this over with start thinking of you and your son future and put this man to rest for once and for all..hes out of your head now so every thing you speak should be about help moving forward ....and i was reading you say i hope i will get over him and i hope after everthing i wont get with him ...hun stop hoping and start doing no more hope hope is for people that dont have a choice but you have one so if you dont get over him or you get back with a man like that its because you chose to... stop hoping and start doing Edited November 19, 2012 by taya 2 Link to post Share on other sites
jamielee Posted November 19, 2012 Share Posted November 19, 2012 you show him girl you show him...i had a guy did to me once left me for another girl its the most hurtful feeling that someone can feel ..he came back to me but i got ride of him ..but i will never forget what pain that was ..my mistake was like yours i dident let him go right away i would call text him and acting crazy over this man that was with another woman i finaly let go not even a momth after he saw i stop beging or calling or texting him he strated texting me the table was turn he started beging me and calling me girl i never answer him for a year that man text and text that hes sorry but i for gave him but never for got the pain i felt thats why in your story i saw my self ..i told my self i wanted someone that love me i wanted a nice family and i wanted my self respect back for sure it helps just do it ...this man is no no good to you keep telling your self that and when you feel to text or call him just post here we will surely talk some since into you untile you can get it on your own ..make today a happy day so smile as your read this because today you start your life over start think of the suff your going to do now start some new clasess or somthing think about the man you want when you get this over with start thinking of you and your son future and put this man to rest for once and for all..hes out of your head now so every thing you speak should be about help moving forward ....and i was reading you say i hope i will get over him and i hope after everthing i wont get with him ...hun stop hoping and start doing no more hope hope is for people that dont have a choice but you have one so if you dont get over him or you get back with a man like that its because you chose to... stop hoping and start doing will stop hoping and do it posting here really helps cause your not being judge everyone understands the situation am going thru and they all encouraging..my life was a wrack all that was in my head is just him, but now i can say to myself that i will make it. 1 Link to post Share on other sites
taya Posted November 20, 2012 Share Posted November 20, 2012 will stop hoping and do it posting here really helps cause your not being judge everyone understands the situation am going thru and they all encouraging..my life was a wrack all that was in my head is just him, but now i can say to myself that i will make it. yes you can and you will make it just get ride of that man ...the thing that have always help me when am in situations like this is example you say my life was a wrack all that was in my head was him think about what hes doing and thinking do you think its about you ??? do you think hes driving him self crazy over you or wracking his life for you ..no no and no hes not so ask your self this now .....WHY SHOULD YOU........thinking like that have always help me becuase it help my mind to understand how am acting is a fool ..over a man that chose another woman over me ,child please ... after thinking like that it always make me feel at peace and gives me the strenght to not call or text him ...try it Link to post Share on other sites
jamielee Posted November 21, 2012 Share Posted November 21, 2012 yes you can and you will make it just get ride of that man ...the thing that have always help me when am in situations like this is example you say my life was a wrack all that was in my head was him think about what hes doing and thinking do you think its about you ??? do you think hes driving him self crazy over you or wracking his life for you ..no no and no hes not so ask your self this now .....WHY SHOULD YOU........thinking like that have always help me becuase it help my mind to understand how am acting is a fool ..over a man that chose another woman over me ,child please ... after thinking like that it always make me feel at peace and gives me the strenght to not call or text him ...try it i did tht thnkng about what he did and that now his with somelse happy and obiviously not thinking about me itz two days now that i havnt called him but still checking my phone if he hasnt called me Link to post Share on other sites
jamielee Posted November 22, 2012 Share Posted November 22, 2012 yes you can and you will make it just get ride of that man ...the thing that have always help me when am in situations like this is example you say my life was a wrack all that was in my head was him think about what hes doing and thinking do you think its about you ??? do you think hes driving him self crazy over you or wracking his life for you ..no no and no hes not so ask your self this now .....WHY SHOULD YOU........thinking like that have always help me becuase it help my mind to 2 days that i havnt called him and today he send a text that i should say hai to his son and i replied ok so that he does not text me again..everytym he would call or text then i would start with the crying and begging but this time i didnt nor did i feel the urge to call him decided that itz better posting here. Link to post Share on other sites
jamielee Posted November 22, 2012 Share Posted November 22, 2012 yes you can and you will make it just get ride of that man ...the thing that have always help me when am in situations like this is example you say my life was a wrack all that was in my head was him think about what hes doing and thinking do you think its about you ??? do you think hes driving him self crazy over you or wracking his life for you ..no no and no hes not so ask your self this now .....WHY SHOULD YOU........thinking like that have always help me becuase it help my mind to 2 days that i havnt called him and today he send a text that i should say hai to his son and i replied ok so that he does not text me again..everytym he would call or text then i would start with the crying and begging but this time i didnt nor did i feel the urge to call him thought itz better posting here. Link to post Share on other sites
taya Posted November 24, 2012 Share Posted November 24, 2012 yeah sorry i havent been on here for the past 2 days been so busy but am going to try and come one everday so if you need someone to talk to just leave a post and i will reply ..but he text you and you reply am sorry but i woudent reply you tell him to contact your mom if he need any thing about his son so he should not be texting you and you reply the thing is you need to cut him out and i mean out and stop seeing if he text you i know your tempted but you have to get busy busy start doing some fun stuff to get this man off your mind your there stressing and waiting to see if he text and hes there with the other woman not thinking of you ..remember i tell you i have been in your shoe so i know how you feel but i had to wake up and take charge of my life the man i was going crazy over was with someone eles and i know they must have a laugh evertime you text you beg him ,,,,and good job with not texting him for the past 2 days but dont reply to any of his text and stop waiting for that man to text ...its hard but you have to i mean have to try ..i did it so i know you can Link to post Share on other sites
SBalby Posted November 24, 2012 Share Posted November 24, 2012 (edited) How are things now? Edited November 24, 2012 by SBalby Link to post Share on other sites
jamielee Posted November 25, 2012 Share Posted November 25, 2012 He showed up at my sons baptism pretending asif we cool but i kept my cool even thou i felt like chasing me away later after the service he sent a text that i looked beautiful and that his fallen inlove with me again but didnt fall for that just said thank you.. Link to post Share on other sites
jamielee Posted November 25, 2012 Share Posted November 25, 2012 How are things now? itz not well but tryin to be strong to get over it soon Link to post Share on other sites
taya Posted November 26, 2012 Share Posted November 26, 2012 itz not well but tryin to be strong to get over it soon the thing i dont think you get and i really hope you will and am not judging you but you have to stop responding to everthing this man text you ..he text you that you look beautiful dont respond to him someone your trying to get over you dont need to respond to his text you no the thing that help me a few years ago was to stop respond or text.. see you dont need his compliment its up to you but if you really want to be over with this man you need to stop respond to his texts ..hes a user he tell you you look good to pull you back in his wed then push you a side when hes done with you and have you beging and pleading with him for all these months while him and the other woman sit and laugh ...i repeat dont respond to this man texts any more the way he has treated you he dont even deserve your reponds ....but its up to you hun Link to post Share on other sites
jamielee Posted November 26, 2012 Share Posted November 26, 2012 I get what your saying but al does not happen over night,i am trying to not to keep contact with him,atleast i dont call or text him i jz respnd short to his text i dont cry or beg him anymore with time i will be able to totaly ignore him.. Link to post Share on other sites
taya Posted November 26, 2012 Share Posted November 26, 2012 (edited) I get what your saying but al does not happen over night,i am trying to not to keep contact with him,atleast i dont call or text him i jz respnd short to his text i dont cry or beg him anymore with time i will be able to totaly ignore him.. what u say is true all dont happen over night but what i was trying to tell you is the importance of not responding to his texts .....so by me telling you all that in my post above am hoping it will help u to look in to it and say yes she is right so i never think you will just change in one day or a few days but am hopeing that the advice will help you to think and say yes this is what i needed to ear to help u to change faster .......example by me telling you what i wrote above in my post about not responding to his text if he text you what do you think you will do and that is think about everthing i say in that post above before you respond so evertime it makes it harder for you to respond to any of his texts Edited November 26, 2012 by taya Link to post Share on other sites
jamielee Posted November 27, 2012 Share Posted November 27, 2012 Wil do that. Link to post Share on other sites
Dagorath Posted December 1, 2012 Share Posted December 1, 2012 "We accept the love we think we deserve." Your issue lays in a lack of self-esteem which is compounded by the fact that you continue to tease yourself with the notion of him. Never forget that it is the memory of what was that hurts, not the reality of what is. We can so often get lost in an the memory of an idealized state with someone. At some point we have to step back and be rational about things. I know that most people try to stay in touch; for whatever reason, to be friends I guess. In their minds they assume that something is better than nothing. The problem with this is that it only works with a clean break on both sides. When one person gets hurt, they are left chasing the other and the friendship is just a tease. As difficult as it is, sometimes we just have to turn away and break contact. The act of doing so hurts at first, but every day gets easier. In some scenarios like this, it is the only way to get through it and move forward. When I broke up with my ex of a year and a half after finding out she had cheated on me several times, I knew that staying in contact was not an option - mostly because I knew that after the anger had subsided I might end up taking her back and the whole scenario might repeat itself. So I broke contact, I moved, I went back to college and I bettered myself. Those first couple of months were so hard, but they were worth the struggle. I hardly think of her now, and when I do, I am glad that she is not a part of my life, and I am thankful that she has no power over my life. Break contact with the things that ail you, even if your mind tells you that they are good things, or that they used to be good things. Clearly, anything that is messing up your life this much is NOT a good thing. Love is supposed to enhance our lives, not make them worse. I don't know you, but you deserve better. Anyone deserves better than to be chasing the illusion of something that no longer exists. Romanticize the future, not the past! Good luck to you. Link to post Share on other sites
Author Vikki_26 Posted July 15, 2013 Author Share Posted July 15, 2013 (edited) Well its almost a year on he dumped me. CORRECTION set me free but with a hold somehow I'm keeping!?! over me. (29th July 2013) I met a lovely man in December last year, local to me. But I still think of David everyday and i feel guilty of this. David contacted me a few times in December, January, February and April. Updating me on his dog that was fighting cancer. Oddly everytime he did contact it was when he recently became single. So I can only thing a user and seeing if I was interested which im not. But and this is why im back on here. I have for i cant remember how long still looking at his profile pictures at each new girlfriend he has. And I want to stop this addiction to seeing what his up to. Why should i care? Does this mean I still love him? Is it possible to ever move on and stop this? Im thinking of seeking therapy again as I have gained two stone since all this. And think its holding me back. Its no reflection on my current bf i dont think as his kind, caring, loving. His not as spontaneous and exciting as David though and thats what I miss I think. But we dont have bust ups ever five mins like me and my ex had. So mean, harsh words im waiting for them as i just want to be set free from this. Edited July 15, 2013 by Vikki_26 Link to post Share on other sites
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