BrokenPrincess Posted October 24, 2012 Share Posted October 24, 2012 My AP had DDay not even 2 weeks ago, and I honestly can't imagine him ever breaking NC as he's solely focused on repairing his M and is TERRIFIED his W is going to kick him out. But as I read through old posts here, I'm surprised to read that NC is eventually broken quite a bit. Did your AP end up breaking NC after the A was discovered? And if so, how long did it take? Seems like such a huge risk if AP is trying to reconcile with a spouse who would be on high alert for suspicious behavior Link to post Share on other sites
myname Posted October 24, 2012 Share Posted October 24, 2012 I could never understand it, but my xMM broke NC all the time after his numerous d-days with his wife on high surveillance. He phoned me from phone boxes when she had his phone, he created new email addresses when she was checking the ones she knew about... On and on, and I got sucked back into it many times, and she found out again, and he still carried on. I couldn't understand, he made his choice, he obviously wanted to stay married so why did he keep chasing after me. It's totally bizarre. I guess he must've at some point come to expect that while his wife would threaten all sorts and I would ignore his contact, at some point if he carried on long enough she'd put up with it, and I'd come round, that's what happened so why wouldn't he expect that to carry on. After three years and more though I had enough and he and her can do whatever they like just so long as they leave me alone. Link to post Share on other sites
RickFox Posted October 25, 2012 Share Posted October 25, 2012 We talked for a bit, but not much, she bit my head off for no reason during some of our conversations and she then told me to leave her alone which I did. In May of this year, at the end of the school year, I logged into my FB account and found two messages from her that were sent in April. It was odd, act like you don't know me and I don't exist, but send me messages via FB. Oh well. Link to post Share on other sites
ThatJustHappened Posted October 25, 2012 Share Posted October 25, 2012 Why are you asking? Are you hoping your ex will break NC? Link to post Share on other sites
Author BrokenPrincess Posted October 25, 2012 Author Share Posted October 25, 2012 No I finally stopped nonstop crying a couple days ago and I'm trying to move on. There's no point to breaking NC. As I've been poring through all these old LS posts though, I was just really surprised to see how many AP break NC and I get it for those that had ended As on their own terms, but was wondering how often that happens for those that have actually been ended due to DDay. I just can't even comprehend that risk if you're trying to R, but seems like maybe in reality it does happen? Link to post Share on other sites
justcantletgo Posted October 25, 2012 Share Posted October 25, 2012 My xMM and I haven't spoken in almost a month now. DDay happened when I exposed the A to his BW and their family and friends. He presented himself as divorced and I only found out he was married few days before the DDay. They are on MC now as the BW told me on her last email and the counselor told her to remove all the internet/computers in their house and to let him use an old phone that has no internet connection. And since he has no library card and his family knew about A, he really has no other ways or options to contact me again. Link to post Share on other sites
thomasb Posted October 25, 2012 Share Posted October 25, 2012 When I told OW I never wanted to see her again, I meant it wholeheartedly. Link to post Share on other sites
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