suladas Posted November 13, 2012 Share Posted November 13, 2012 I lost it at 22, I had plenty of chances to do it with a random girl over the years but didn't want that. I wanted to be in a relationship, and even now I don't regret it, sure if I lost it sooner I could of had ONS after and been cool with it but whatever. You'll remember who it was with forever, personally I wouldn't want it to be with a random girl. Even though i'm not with her anymore, it still is better imo to of lost it that way, I have no regrets about it. My first time was actually really good, I didn't even tell her till a few weeks later, and she had no idea it was my first time. Link to post Share on other sites
Mary Shadows Posted November 13, 2012 Share Posted November 13, 2012 I'm a 25 (soon to be 26) AM who has never had sex. I just can't seem to find the right girl to ask out. I have no major confidence issues, I've been told I'm attractive, I have a great job that pays well. But I'm getting older and I'm just thinking if I should lower my standards and just get it over with. Find someone with whom you like and want to get to know. Don't rush it. Link to post Share on other sites
ImperfectionisBeauty Posted November 13, 2012 Share Posted November 13, 2012 Don't waste it, I lost mine in Feb at 21 and if I would have waited a few more months I would have lost it to someone I actually cared about. It sucks to lose it to someone you don't care about, its like they take a piece of you and each time you do it more and more they take more of you and it just sucks. Link to post Share on other sites
charlietheginger Posted November 13, 2012 Share Posted November 13, 2012 Take a look at yourself in a mirror? Now make a list if your flaws..... Now goto a website post a picture if yourself Get a rating .. Take that rating as your new standard If your a 7 then find another 7 and so on. Many men set unrealistic standards of what They can have..... Be realistic and you will get laid Link to post Share on other sites
Daniel V. Ross Posted November 14, 2012 Share Posted November 14, 2012 Maybe you are looking a woman who would fit in your standards that's why you stay virgin at that age. Link to post Share on other sites
VodkaShots Posted November 14, 2012 Share Posted November 14, 2012 I'm a 25 (soon to be 26) AM who has never had sex. I just can't seem to find the right girl to ask out. I have no major confidence issues, I've been told I'm attractive, I have a great job that pays well. But I'm getting older and I'm just thinking if I should lower my standards and just get it over with. What are your standards? And do you actually meet them yourself? Link to post Share on other sites
Glowdoll Posted November 17, 2012 Share Posted November 17, 2012 I think finding the best of both worlds is what this situation calls for. I lost my v-card with a good friend of mine. Minimal to moderate sexual attraction, but it was nice to do it with someone I could trust. It's been almost 10 years, and we still chuckle about it sometimes. Link to post Share on other sites
Mirth Posted December 1, 2012 Share Posted December 1, 2012 Hey man. I'm a 28 yr old AM. I think at some time in the past. I think you just have to realize that you don't really know that much. You're going to have to stumble in the dark for a bit until you find your way . Just go out there and give everything a shot. You're overthinking hard. If you see something just go for it. Even a blind man makes a shot in basketball sometimes. Link to post Share on other sites
aussietigerwolf Posted December 1, 2012 Share Posted December 1, 2012 *shrugs* I was a 27 yr old virgin Link to post Share on other sites
fafazulkz Posted December 4, 2012 Share Posted December 4, 2012 hi im 22 year old virgin too.and im a girl. Link to post Share on other sites
Nightsky Posted December 4, 2012 Share Posted December 4, 2012 what's an AM? Link to post Share on other sites
Illusionist Posted December 4, 2012 Share Posted December 4, 2012 I think there is nothing wrong with waiting for the right time and the right person. Not even when it gets to higher ages. "High" and 25? Doesn't seems that old, right? Like you said, the conditions seem right, but it still doesn't work. So here are my suggestions: Maybe you could try to create more changes for meeting new girls and get to know them. Every new meeting is a new chance for all kinds of relationships, romantic relationships included. Lowering your standards can be an option, but only when you have unrealistic standards. Like the typical "I don't have anything, but want you to have anything" situation. So maybe: Set your standards equal to yourself, but never above yourself. Never insist on her being better than you, or better to say: Don't request anything which you can't offer yourself. Well, that's just my opinion so far. Hope it could help you. Link to post Share on other sites
bobsmith76 Posted December 6, 2012 Share Posted December 6, 2012 I'm a 25 (soon to be 26) AM who has never had sex. I just can't seem to find the right girl to ask out. I have no major confidence issues, I've been told I'm attractive, I have a great job that pays well. But I'm getting older and I'm just thinking if I should lower my standards and just get it over with. I'd lower your standards a little bit but not much. I made the mistake of having too high standards. I'm 35 and have not had sex for 11 years because I am looking for someone to get married and I want her to be right. In retrospect my standards were too high and I rejected women that I should not have. I did not realize how rare love is. If you find a woman you like but are having trouble getting thrown into ecstasy I would stick with her and try to marry her. Link to post Share on other sites
Esoteric Elf Posted December 14, 2012 Share Posted December 14, 2012 Do not lower your standards. The right girl will come along when you least expect it. Tell that to men in their forties and fifties who are virgins and yet unloved. 1 Link to post Share on other sites
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