Vague text was vague, can I ask if it's a yes or no?

[grasstronaut]

I'm a senior in highschool. I asked this guy I like if he wanted to toke and he said that he "has baseball at 3:30". So.. is that a yes or a no? I don't know how to respond without being super pushy? Can I just ask flat out if that's a yes or no?

[CC12]

That's probably a "No." You could try to get a better answer out of him though. You don't have to come right out and ask "yes or no," you could say, "Then do you want to meet up after?" or "What are you doing after baseball?"

 

Or just say screw it and ask, "Is that a yes or a no? Your answer was pretty vague."

 

It's not unreasonable to request clarification when you've asked someone a direct question and they give you a stupid answer.

[sweetkiwi]

just be straight up and ask yes or no. With all the games being played these days its nice, for me at least, to have someone be up front.

[road]

I'm a senior in highschool. I asked this guy I like if he wanted to toke and he said that he "has baseball at 3:30". So.. is that a yes or a no? I don't know how to respond without being super pushy? Can I just ask flat out if that's a yes or no?

 

Vague responds are given when the person does not want to go out with the person being asked.

 

Mainly because they don't want to reject someone harshly and don't know how to say anything but get lost not if were the last person...............

So they are vague.

 

Maybe getting stoned is not his idea of a good time.

[rubberduck]

I'm kinda with road, if he was into the idea he'd have arranged seeing you properly I think x

[Cb3657]

Probably long gone and over by now but I would like to make a suggestion to you based on my experience.

Don't make your invitations and connections about doing drugs, I am not fundamentally against smoking dope however not everyone does this or does this regular enough that a invitation to do so sounds attactive. What if this kid needs to go see his parents right away, what if he only does this kind of thing at parties, ask him he would like to hang don't make it about the drugs. Alcohol and drugs are can be a social lubricant not a reason to socialize.