SayonaraItsuka Posted October 25, 2012 Share Posted October 25, 2012 Just recently moving on from a devastating breakup about a month and a half ago, I realize that I am a really picky person. I'm super picky when it comes to relationships. I think this is my problem, because I can't seem to find any girl that are up to my standards. First of all, being an Asian male, I would love to find an Asian female. It's just the familiarity of being with somebody within your own race. Second, she has to be attractive. Unfortunately, I like to lust first before I love. And everything else, she has to be intelligent, goal oriented, an LA girl (I live in Las Vegas), and just so many other qualifications that make my pickings slim. Does anybody else have this kind of problem to the point that they're too picky? What should I do? I don't want to settle. Link to post Share on other sites
Biscous Posted October 25, 2012 Share Posted October 25, 2012 I'm picky too. Link to post Share on other sites
Nik1 Posted October 25, 2012 Share Posted October 25, 2012 An Asian living in Las Vegas? You don't happen to know karate, cause there's this dude over there who needs an ass whooping? I'd pay you (after I find a job, of course). Link to post Share on other sites
CC12 Posted October 25, 2012 Share Posted October 25, 2012 (edited) In your other thread, you said there are lots of attractive girls at your university, but that you're afraid of rejection and you just don't know how to talk to them. So maybe you're being picky in order to reject people before they reject you. It's easier to tell yourself, "Nope. She's not up to my standards so I'm not even going bother." Maybe you're using it as an excuse for not trying. Also, an "LA girl?" Meaning, a girl from Los Angeles? That's an oddly specific standard, being that you're not even in LA. Why do you want an LA girl? Edited October 25, 2012 by CC12 Link to post Share on other sites
Author SayonaraItsuka Posted October 25, 2012 Author Share Posted October 25, 2012 Yeah, that's true. I am afraid of rejection, but I'm going to work on it. I need to work on it. My friend makes it look so easy. Just yesterday, he just walked up to a girl, said hi, and shook her hands. He said her hands were very soft and what kind of lotion she used. And they immediately initiated a good conversation and got her number... I was like, "Is it that easy?" And yes, an LA girl, who loves LA sports teams, and loves LA hotspots, because I lived in LA before. lol Link to post Share on other sites
kerme Posted November 7, 2012 Share Posted November 7, 2012 Yeah, that's true. I am afraid of rejection, but I'm going to work on it. I need to work on it. My friend makes it look so easy. Just yesterday, he just walked up to a girl, said hi, and shook her hands. He said her hands were very soft and what kind of lotion she used. And they immediately initiated a good conversation and got her number... I was like, "Is it that easy?" And yes, an LA girl, who loves LA sports teams, and loves LA hotspots, because I lived in LA before. lol Keep working on dealing with rejection. Nothing wrong with being picky to a certain point. Nobody's perfect. Don't be so picky that you end up alone. Link to post Share on other sites
pteromom Posted November 7, 2012 Share Posted November 7, 2012 Some of your standards are logical though, and some aren't... First of all, being an Asian male, I would love to find an Asian female. This is reasonable. Second, she has to be attractive. Unfortunately, I like to lust first before I love. This is reasonable. she has to be intelligent This is reasonable. goal oriented This is reasonable. an LA girl (I live in Las Vegas) This is ridiculous. So if you found a beautiful, smart Asian girl, but she was from... Ohio, you'd be like "NEXT!" ?? Doesn't make sense. If you want someone who loves LA sports teams, introduce her to them. If you want someone who knows and loves LA hotspots, take her for a trip to LA and show her all your old hangouts. Your other criteria make sense, but caring about where she is from doesn't. It's not like being from LA would make her more or less of a match for you. Link to post Share on other sites
VeveCakes Posted November 7, 2012 Share Posted November 7, 2012 Yes and a lot of LA girls are materialistic and shallow. That being said my best friend lives there and she's the bomb. You know how I met my husband? His friend would walk up and down the beach with his "friend" who would stop and talk to literally every girl within his age range and hit on them. He was out there but when he talked to my friend and I, I started to talking to my husband and we hit it off. Stick with your friend, you will meet lots of hotties through him. Link to post Share on other sites
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