inever Posted October 25, 2012 Share Posted October 25, 2012 Hi, I've found myself in a strange situation and I'm a little unsure what to think of it. I am a happily married man and I play online games a little as a hobby. Recently I was trying a new game and I created a female character. I was playing this character when a person playing a male character came up and started talking sexually to me. I think they assumed I was female in real life. The first time I ignored it but I think the second or third time I found myself pretending I was female and talking sexually back. I think I initially did it out of interest at first but now I am full on pretending to be female and am having regular text cybersex with this person. I keep doing it because I really enjoy it. I think this is probably considered cheating but I'm not sure so wanted to get other people's views. My wife and I don't consider watching porn to be cheating and I think watching someone over a webcam without taking part is not cheating. I do think that taking part in text cybersex is probably cheating but cybersex while role-playing someone entirely different to yourself and of the opposite sex, I'm not so sure. What do you guys think? Link to post Share on other sites
mammasita Posted October 25, 2012 Share Posted October 25, 2012 Is this something that you can/would tell your wife? "Hey honey, my character is female and I'm having sexual chats with one of the male characters" 1 Link to post Share on other sites
Author inever Posted October 25, 2012 Author Share Posted October 25, 2012 Is this something that you can/would tell your wife? "Hey honey, my character is female and I'm having sexual chats with one of the male characters" Probably not. I would be fine with her doing the same but I'm not sure what she would think. Sometimes she surprises me. Anyway, I should stop just in case. Link to post Share on other sites
MichiganMan222 Posted October 25, 2012 Share Posted October 25, 2012 Depends on your motivation. What you're doing does actually sound fun in an entertaining/amusing sense. See how shook up you can get the poor bastard. If I were doing that, I'd call my wife in to show her how funny it was. She would crack up and probably grab some popcorn and laugh along with me. However, if you actually get-off on it, then that's different. In that case, yeah it's cheating (assuming communicating sexually to another is violating boundaries). It certainly would be with my marriage. So you tell us. Is this more of a prank for entertainment value, or does it actually turn you on? Link to post Share on other sites
Author inever Posted October 25, 2012 Author Share Posted October 25, 2012 I'm not into trolling so yes i'm flying my bisexual freak flag. It's just interesting because I have never experienced this in myself before, however it is dangerous so I will stop. Link to post Share on other sites
Sasu Posted October 25, 2012 Share Posted October 25, 2012 To be honest, she may not mind watching porn as cheating, I used to do that as well all time with ex ,But in cyber ,there is basically another person involved and if u don't keep a lid on this,it may get to you emotionally and may disturb your married life . Link to post Share on other sites
KathyM Posted October 25, 2012 Share Posted October 25, 2012 I would suggest you stop. I know a woman who started a cybersex affair in this manner, and ruined her marriage over it. It became addictive, and she couldn't stop. I also know a woman who was talked into a real life relationship with a guy she had been playing internet games with who was twice her age. She wasted the best years of her life living with this guy after they developed a relationship through this kind of game playing. You're playing with fire, and I suggest you stop before you ruin your marriage. Link to post Share on other sites
carhill Posted October 25, 2012 Share Posted October 25, 2012 What do you guys think? If you want to continue, or do something similar in the future while online gaming, bring your wife in on the deal and maybe you can have some couple fun. Seems like she's pretty open-minded, based on your posts. If it works for you in your M, it works. Once disclosed, there is no deception, so cheating would not apply. Good luck. Link to post Share on other sites
Silly_Girl Posted October 26, 2012 Share Posted October 26, 2012 I agree with Carhill. I wouldn't be upset with my other half if he disclosed it, I'd be interested/intrigued, but to keep a sex life (albeit cyber) a secret from me would be hurtful and make me suspicious that more is going on/will happen. Disclosure is the way forward my friend. Link to post Share on other sites
JamesM Posted October 26, 2012 Share Posted October 26, 2012 Hi, What do you guys think? I like to give long posts in response, but this one requires only a short comment.... It doesn't matter what WE think. It only matters what your WIFE thinks. End of story. Okay, one more comment... Do you think it is kind of weird that you are a woman who is turning on men? How would you feel if you were in the guy's position and you found out that you had been chatting sexually with a man instead of a woman? Obviously you don't mind chatting to men sexually, but if you thought it was a woman...how would you feel? I think it is more of a power thing that turns you on sexually rather than actually getting off on having cybersex with a guy. I wonder if he suspects you are a guy. Link to post Share on other sites
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