KRAZY Posted August 1, 2004 Share Posted August 1, 2004 LET ME SAY I'M SO GLAD TO FINALLY HAVE SOMEONE TO TALK TO. OK I HAVE BEEN DATING A GUY FOR 4 MONTHS NOW AND IT WAS JUST SUPPOSE TO BE A SEX THING I WAS GETTING A DIVORCE AND THIS GUY WAS ALWAYS A GOOD FRIEND TO ME I CRIED TO HIM ALL THE TIMEABOUT MY HUSBAND AND ONE DAY AFTER ABOUT A MONTH OF HAVING SEX HE TOLD ME HE HAD STRONG FEELINGS FOR ME. WELL HE HAD JUST MOVED BACK IN WITH HIS EX WIFE AND THAT STORY IS DEEP. SO ANYWAYS I HAVE A HISTORY OF GETTING BACK TOGETHER WITH THIS GUY I AM NOW DIVORCED TO AND HE IS GETTING OUT OF JAIL IN 2 WEEKS WELL THE GUY I AM NOW IN LOVE WITH SAYS HE IS NOT GOING TO MOVE OUT UNTIL HE SEES THAT I AM NOT GOING BACK TO MY EX. HE IS WITH ME UNTIL 5 OCLOCK EVERY MORNING WHEN HE HAS TO GO WAKE HER UP FOR WORK AND THAT USUALLY IS AN ARGUEMENT BETWEEN US.HE SAYS THEY DON'T HAVE SEX BUT YET SHE CALLS AND CRIES ON HIS CELL PHONE MESSAGES. I AM TO THE POINT I CRY ALL THE TIME I CAN'T STAND THE THOUGHT OF HIM BEING WITH HER EVEN THOUGH IT HAS BEEN THAT WAY FROM THE BEGINING HE SAYS HE LOVES ME AND THAT HE IS LEAVING BUT NOT UNTIL HE SEES THAT I'M NOT GOING BACK TO MY EX. WHAT SHOULD I DO I'VE TRIED NOT GETTING MAD BUT I CAN'T HELP IT IS HE LYING? Link to post Share on other sites
supermom Posted August 1, 2004 Share Posted August 1, 2004 Okay, this is what I would do... 1. Leave your husband. Get the divorce final and move on from both of them. Stay strong, show your confidence and get your divorce. 2. When your divorce is final, show him your divorce papers. Simply tell him that the ball is in his court. Tell him that the same goes for him. Tell him it's either your ex wife or me. Remind him that exs are exs for a reason. Remind him that he is also an ex for a reason. The reason is that he has a relationship with you and her. 3. Do no contact for a bit, wait and see what he does. Keep your options open, because if there is a nice single man who does have chemistry with you, or you feel a spark, you will already start out as #1 in his life, not the position of #2 with this current man. Remember sweetie, he is also cheating on you too. And you deserve alot better, I know you don't want to hear this, but maybe think about other options. You sound like a very sweet person. Good luck and I hope I didn't offend you in any way. Link to post Share on other sites
Author KRAZY Posted August 2, 2004 Author Share Posted August 2, 2004 THANK YOU I NEEDED TO HEAR THAT EVEN THOUGH IT PROBABLY WON'T CHANGE TO MUCH RIGHT NOW IT'S GOOD TO HEAR I'M NOT CRAZY. MY DIVORCE WILL BE FINAL AS SOON AS I GET THE JUDGEMENT I FILED IN 2000 BUT I NEVER FINISHED SO I DIDN'T HAVE TO WAIT THE SIX MONTHS, AND I DID SHOW HIM BUT HE STILL DOES NOT BELIEVE ME. I AM SO IN LOVE WITH HIM IT HURTS EVERY TIME HE LEAVES EVEN IF HE ISN'T GOING HOME. SHOULD I TRY AND WAIT IT OUT I MEAN IT'S ONLY 2 WEEKS AWAY IT CAN;T GET ANY WORSE AT LEAST I DON'T THINK. AGAIN THANK YOU FOR REPLYING. Link to post Share on other sites
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