Summer Breeze Posted October 26, 2012 Share Posted October 26, 2012 His D was final 3 weeks ago and tonight we're having coffee tonight. Thankfully I have a very busy afternoon ahead. I'll let everyone know how it goes later on. I'm mindful, and thankful, of all the great advice everyone gave me in my last thread and I'm doing my best to keep aspects of all of it in mind. We've spoken a lot and it feels very familiar and comfortable but also very new and awkward. This should be fun huh? 4 Link to post Share on other sites
skywriter Posted October 26, 2012 Share Posted October 26, 2012 Hope your evening goes well... Link to post Share on other sites
Owl Posted October 26, 2012 Share Posted October 26, 2012 Good luck to the both of you, and hope you have an excellent evening! Link to post Share on other sites
mercy Posted October 26, 2012 Share Posted October 26, 2012 Remember sweet woman today is what matters. Oh, and don't wear anything that is uncomfortable, you'll be nervous enough! Link to post Share on other sites
mercy Posted October 27, 2012 Share Posted October 27, 2012 ummm how much coffee can two people drink? Details, please. Yes, I'm having a patience problem. Link to post Share on other sites
Pierre Posted October 27, 2012 Share Posted October 27, 2012 ummm how much coffee can two people drink? Details, please. Yes, I'm having a patience problem. Be patient, they are still going at it.:laugh: 1 Link to post Share on other sites
mercy Posted October 27, 2012 Share Posted October 27, 2012 Be patient, they are still going at it.:laugh: I think I spotted them at the all night Starbucks! She's pretty! 1 Link to post Share on other sites
Silly_Girl Posted October 30, 2012 Share Posted October 30, 2012 Well, there's an outcome I didn't predict, he kidnapped SB and now she can't come to the forum, she's tied up!! Seriously SB, hope everything is good 1 Link to post Share on other sites
mercy Posted October 30, 2012 Share Posted October 30, 2012 Well, there's an outcome I didn't predict, he kidnapped SB and now she can't come to the forum, she's tied up!! Seriously SB, hope everything is good ohmygods let our Summer Breeze go! Okay, no one go on coffee dates anymore! 1 Link to post Share on other sites
Author Summer Breeze Posted October 30, 2012 Author Share Posted October 30, 2012 You have no idea how much I needed the laugh reading this gave me. We never met -- sorry Pierre! A friend of mine was in an accident and I went to stay with her preteens while her H was at her side in the hospital. I've just gotten back and getting myself back together now. Coffee had to wait. Kidnapping, lots of sex, lots of coffee. I like your versions better than mine! Worry for the false alarm before. 2 Link to post Share on other sites
Got it Posted October 30, 2012 Share Posted October 30, 2012 SB - I am so sorry to hear that! Thoughts for your friend and her family. This thread was very entertaining! Loved it! Link to post Share on other sites
Silly_Girl Posted October 30, 2012 Share Posted October 30, 2012 Hope she's going to be okay! Link to post Share on other sites
mercy Posted October 31, 2012 Share Posted October 31, 2012 You have no idea how much I needed the laugh reading this gave me. We never met -- sorry Pierre! A friend of mine was in an accident and I went to stay with her preteens while her H was at her side in the hospital. I've just gotten back and getting myself back together now. Coffee had to wait. Kidnapping, lots of sex, lots of coffee. I like your versions better than mine! Worry for the false alarm before. I am so sorry to hear about your friend. I hope and pray all is okay with her. The bold ^^ Oh, that goes on at my house daily! So, when's the coffee date? Link to post Share on other sites
Author Summer Breeze Posted October 31, 2012 Author Share Posted October 31, 2012 Thank you all for your thoughts and prayers for my friend. I'm happy to say she's recovering well and the injuries were bruising from the airbag and a broken leg. She's a really lucky lady. Hockey Fan. I hadn't even thought of it that way. I was really eager to see him but when her sister called it wasn't even a consideration I wouldn't go to her. I called DMM while I was driving and the only thing he said was to call when I got there to let him know how she was. They'd met several times when we were together. Thanks very much HF. I hadn't thought of it but I guess I'm really pleased it was my nature to hold her as my priority. I guess I'm also glad he was nothing less than supportive. You're a lucky, and deserving, woman Mercy! We haven't set anything up yet but I'd imagine it'll be towards the end of the week given both our schedules. Not to mention that it's almost Wednesday now! Thanks SG, GotIt, Tara. All the comments and concern is really appreciated from the bottom of my heart. I'll keep everyone posted. This must be the most anti climactic and confusing thread in the history of threads. I have to share something with you. When I came in and read your comments an old intro for jokes came to mind---a funny thing happened on the way to the forum. I got kidnapped from a coffee date and wasn't allowed to come in and tell anyone about it! Sorry. I digress. I'll be back on topic soon! 4 Link to post Share on other sites
AnotherRound Posted November 1, 2012 Share Posted November 1, 2012 Thank you all for your thoughts and prayers for my friend. I'm happy to say she's recovering well and the injuries were bruising from the airbag and a broken leg. She's a really lucky lady. Hockey Fan. I hadn't even thought of it that way. I was really eager to see him but when her sister called it wasn't even a consideration I wouldn't go to her. I called DMM while I was driving and the only thing he said was to call when I got there to let him know how she was. They'd met several times when we were together. Thanks very much HF. I hadn't thought of it but I guess I'm really pleased it was my nature to hold her as my priority. I guess I'm also glad he was nothing less than supportive. You're a lucky, and deserving, woman Mercy! We haven't set anything up yet but I'd imagine it'll be towards the end of the week given both our schedules. Not to mention that it's almost Wednesday now! Thanks SG, GotIt, Tara. All the comments and concern is really appreciated from the bottom of my heart. I'll keep everyone posted. This must be the most anti climactic and confusing thread in the history of threads. I have to share something with you. When I came in and read your comments an old intro for jokes came to mind---a funny thing happened on the way to the forum. I got kidnapped from a coffee date and wasn't allowed to come in and tell anyone about it! Sorry. I digress. I'll be back on topic soon! SB - so glad to hear that your friend is going to be okay! I am looking forward to hearing about how your coffee date goes - I'm sure it will be fine (although I'm hoping for spectacular!), and I hope that you aren't too nervous. I can imagine it's nerve wracking though! Just wanted you to know that I'm following the thread, even though I haven't had a chance to post or read much lately!!!! 1 Link to post Share on other sites
Author Summer Breeze Posted November 2, 2012 Author Share Posted November 2, 2012 Well, it happened. I've seen him now. I could see him before I got to the cafe. He looked exactly the same and I have to admit my heart did a flip and a whole flock of butterflies were unleashed at that first glimpse of him. I wanted to be the first one there but that obviously didn't work out the way I planned. The greeting was so awkward. We were like a couple of teenagers on a blind date. It was awkward. It was new and it was old. Once in a while one of us would say something and it would bring back an obvious memory and all of a sudden we were drawn back in time. Then we'd realize where we were and go all polite again. It's so hard to describe. I knew it would be awkward but I had no idea just how awkward it would be. In so many ways we are very different people than we were the last time we saw each other. I think we were both startled by it. We talked at my car for a minute and something about walking together hand in hand broke the barrier down a little. We decided to have dinner tomorrow night. I wanted to wait a little while but he has a 10 day business trip coming up and I didn't want to wait quite that long. I still feel really strange. We talked on the phone for a little while this morning and it was a little more back to normal. I think the difference in the whole R really surprised us. It shouldn't have. We've both gone through a lot since the last time we saw each other and I think we both really underestimated how that would affect us. I feel good about it though. Thanks everyone for your patience and your advice. 1 Link to post Share on other sites
Silly_Girl Posted November 2, 2012 Share Posted November 2, 2012 Sounds lovely!! 1 Link to post Share on other sites
whichwayisup Posted November 2, 2012 Share Posted November 2, 2012 It's because a new dynamic is happening. No more affair-mode. Just get to know him in a new light and take thing slowly. Link to post Share on other sites
Author Summer Breeze Posted November 2, 2012 Author Share Posted November 2, 2012 It's because a new dynamic is happening. No more affair-mode. Just get to know him in a new light and take thing slowly. You're absolutely correct. I know I've read in here a hundred times warning about the difference but I didn't get it till then. I think we needed to feel that discomfort and recognize it as a turning point to a new R based on a whole new set of realities. Thanks for your response WWIU. 1 Link to post Share on other sites
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