candybars Posted October 26, 2012 Share Posted October 26, 2012 Ex-husband and I were married for 12 years. I became pretty unhappy...overweight, at home mom with 2 young kids- hubby working tons of OT. I had been happy for a long time....hub and I always great friends, always got along well. Life though brought on its' usual challenges and we were both just tired. And I was immature. In a 5 month period I then lost both of my parents unexpectedly. I think at that point I kind of snapped and did whatever I could to distract myself from my grief. "She" came into my life and provided much needed emotional support....and then physically provided me the spark I had been craving from my husband. Our affair ended both of our marriages....but, unlike many affairs...this one lasted. For ten years. It was tumultuous, passionate, and ultimately toxic. My immature self was with someone even less mature and the struggle of blending families (4 children between us), individual insecurities, etc finally took its toll. However, my ex-hub and I remained the closest of friends thru it all (one of my partner's pet peeves) and great co-parents. Some time after my partner and I split, ex-hub and I made some jokes about becoming FWB's. As light as this was of an exchange, it sure "sparked" me right up. It was like a light bulb suddenly went on in my head: here is my closest friend, the person I trust more than anyone in the world, the person who will always love my kids just as much as me, and I am crazy attracted to him. It was a no brainer. 14 months later I am more in love with him than ever...I can't wait to get home at night. It took a while for folks (and the kids in a way) to take us serious....but we both know this is it. My ex-hub never pursued another relationship...and while he doesn't think he did it consciously, I like to think he waited for me. It's like I went to "find myself" only to realize I was never lost. Our family is intact again.....our children are so much happier (21 and 15)..and with a new house as well, the second chances are occurring everywhere. We will remarry sometime in 2013. I am the luckiest girl in the world. :bunny: 1 Link to post Share on other sites
Sugarkane Posted October 27, 2012 Share Posted October 27, 2012 But most people on here still feel insecure/ have trust issues after recon. How did you get over that? What made you even want to get back together? Link to post Share on other sites
mid-divorce Posted November 13, 2012 Share Posted November 13, 2012 great positive story - any more? Link to post Share on other sites
Tiera D Posted November 14, 2012 Share Posted November 14, 2012 shouldnt this thread be in the divorce section? TD Link to post Share on other sites
fremonde Posted November 14, 2012 Share Posted November 14, 2012 well its second chances and divorce too, could go either way. anyways its great to hear something working out, i feel it gives others, including me hope. Link to post Share on other sites
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