i need your !! is he really cheating or am iJust crazy?

[bellabeec]

Hi everyone. I'm really not sure if this will help me or not but I'm hoping to get sometime of clarity out of this. Just some advice please. First off I want to start by saying my past relationship was 5 years and he cheated on me a lot. The warning signs in my current relationship in my mind are everywhere but am I just thinking the worst because of my past relationship? Here's the story - I am engaged to a wonderful guy. I have been with him for just a little over a year now. We are planning on going back home to his country and getting married there very soon. He honestly is an awesome guy. Best part of me is him for sure. But... When we first met, I heard from him about a friend who liked him that he was doing business with as well. I heard from his friends of a woman and so on. Time passed to eventually find out this woman is my fiances best friends ex wife. So besides that. The first 8 months of our relationship was quite magical. We moved away and fell inlove. We have now been back home for 4 months, and this woman, we will call her Lola. Lola is still in business with my fiance. As well as a great friend. But this woman lola is the only person out of all the people my fiance knows that I have never met. My fiance tells me there is no reason to meert her. That its business and he doesn't wantt tto jepordize anything by my jealousy? Lola calls and text are deleted from my fiances phone, hhe went to her house for thanksgiving this year and left me at home because of cultural reasons. Ok! I'm sure! He stays out later now, he doesn't seem to be turned on by me anymore. Whenever I bring her name up, he gets mad and defensive. He sometimes comments saying I'm not at her level. She calls late at night and early in the morning. All of our friends know her because she is the ex wife of a great friend, but why don't I know her? His behaviour is strange. We have gone ttthrough a lot of financial stress lately so that could be a key to his mood change. But I'm just really confused. I feel like this lola is ruining my life and relationship and he is ok with it.. He tells me I'm crazy, nothing is going on. Nothing ever did go on, but he has told me before there used to be chemistry there bnut now denies he said that.. It can go on and on, he told me she finds him very desierable. Lilk am I stupid or what? Someone please help

[Cb3657]

He is not a great guy and you are not in a great relationship. He has insulted and degraded you, he has compared you negatively to a woman he is spending a lot of time with. I say all the signs are there that he is cheating but even if he is not actually having sex he feels she is better than you.

I would say leave ASAP, you don't want to be married to someone with open contempt for you, surely you are better than that. Everyone is. This is not about your jealousy it is about his behaviour don't let him say different.