Heatemyheart89 Posted October 28, 2012 Share Posted October 28, 2012 I am nearly 23. I have never really been confident in myself and I have never really liked the way I look. I have been single for a long time now but I never seem to get anywhere meeting people. I go out and I never get chatted up and I feel really jealous of all the pretty girls who do. I just get overlooked. All my friends are hooked up, some have kids. I feel like I won't meet anyone at this rate and I blame the way I look. Im not hideous but not amazing. When i see how men react to other girls it just makes me compare myself because I get no attention. I am the friend who gets ignored whilst their friend gets hit on. My ex was telling me his new gf always gets chatted up and stared at. I never did! It makes me feel really inadequate. I hate feeling like this. I feel like my looks hold me back from meeting someone because I am just not what men want clearly! Anyone got any tips for this? Link to post Share on other sites
River Rain Posted October 28, 2012 Share Posted October 28, 2012 If your goal is to be noticed, there's always the obvious, do more to make yourself feel pretty. I get dressed nicely, do my hair, make sure my nails are done, wear a little makeup, even cute underwear...this all gives me more confidence. When you feel more confidence, you actually project more positivity and that's attractive to both men and women. If you're out of shape, start to workout. If you wear glasses and don't like them, get new ones or think about contacts. Maybe a change in hair colour. Smile more. All of these things help your self-esteem. That's my suggestion. Link to post Share on other sites
Hawaii50 Posted October 28, 2012 Share Posted October 28, 2012 Can you post a photo? But yeah, other than that being in shape, hygiene, and style are the top three things people can superficially improve. Link to post Share on other sites
Author Heatemyheart89 Posted October 28, 2012 Author Share Posted October 28, 2012 Thanks for the advice but I dont wear glasses/am not out of shape. I have done all of the above. I am just not as good as the other girls so makes no difference. May aswell not bother. Link to post Share on other sites
todreaminblue Posted October 28, 2012 Share Posted October 28, 2012 (edited) Thanks for the advice but I dont wear glasses/am not out of shape. I have done all of the above. I am just not as good as the other girls so makes no difference. May aswell not bother. sometimes getting hit on is not good because when girls get hit on a lot its not because guys are serious about them some times girls get seen as objects with balloons to play with.Maybe sometimes yeah a guy might genuinely want to know the girl he hits up....but the majority the smooth talkers that hti them up arent really interested in their heart..they want to wear the girls legs as a necklace. where as the girl who gets what seems to be little interest actually gets the guy who wants a long term friendship....if you give up you will never know if that guy for you is around the corner or not.... i used to get hit on all the time......and if I started going out at night to clubs and meeting others it would happen again....i dont need to get hit on....some days i feel like crap and some days i feel good ....i try to dress nicely so i feel more at ease because i want to be respected......getting hit on makes me feel like crap because most of the time getting hit on involves them eventually trying to convince me of their sexual prowess......gets pretty old....would rather talk to a guy who likes me for me and just talks.....and i am not hot at all......and i dont get jealous of other girls who get hit on.....if i am out with my friends and they are happy then i am happy i am quite happy if nobody hits on me.....i just dance and have a good time.......but maybe because i am happy just having fun is why guys hit on me....i really dont care where most guys are in the room i wont look....unless i liked one of them i would notice where that guy was....random guys showing me attention when i am straight is not fun so i dont go out to clubs much anymore actually not for years..being hit on isnt that much fun..deb Edited October 28, 2012 by todreaminblue Link to post Share on other sites
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