what's wrong with her

[Alban]

Well, I've posted here before but this is something different..

 

Me and my GF of 4 years have some problems lately, and well I don't know what it is with her, maybe some girl here knows what is happening.

 

I found out recently that she has opened a FB account with her friend, and that wasn't really long ago and confronted her about that but she denies everything, says that it's her friends fb account and that she has nothing to do with it..

 

She called me yesterday at 10 PM to ask me if I am in the internet, I said no I am not, the next morning going in her skype and saw that she was chatting with her friend about their FB, it wasn't really bad or something I know she loves me..

 

What I am really asking is, she is always mad at me for everything, somehow blaming me ?

Making me guilty ?

 

What does it mean, I dont know maybe someone can tell me about it ..

 

Thanks

[Sasu]

she is always mad at me for everything, somehow blaming me ?

Making me guilty ?

 

Based on your words,that thing is a sign of she wants to breakup,

 

Don't be paranoid about it,If she have a liking to her friend & you act paranoid ,that would just push her farther from you .

 

Play it cool and don't think much about it .

[coffeebean201]

I had to take a little peek at a few of your other posts to get the basic situation.

 

So long distance rela'p of 4 years, really really like each other, but only see eachother once a year?

 

If that is the situation, then she probably wants to be closer, see you more often. Women have a biological clock and they don't sit around indefinitely in long-distance relaps. They like to spend time with you, and if they can't they get frustrated.

 

But I'm just guessing. But it sort of explains why she is interested in Facebook. She is reaching out socially.

 

But I'm just guessing......

[Alban]

Based on your words,that thing is a sign of she wants to breakup,

 

Don't be paranoid about it,If she have a liking to her friend & you act paranoid ,that would just push her farther from you .

 

Play it cool and don't think much about it .

 

about 2 hours ago I asked about that FB account, and she doesnt want me to know, then changes every password (msn,fb,skype), saying to me that she is doing this because I don't deserve it because I don'T trust her !?

WHAT A STUPID REASON

I know she is doing something wrong, and yet she still denies it..

Can any girl relate to it ?

 

If I wouldn't love her so much, this relationship should have ended so many times till now, I am always the one who fights etc.

She loves me that is not the question here, and she has a problem with her anger, when she's in that mood she can't control herself, it's like I am her enemy, insults me and mistreats me, and to be honest, I never listen to what she says when she's angry, at least not anymore.

 

Can anybode help me find that FB I have tried everything but I just don't know how to find it .

 

She is the best thing ever happened to me, and in the same time the worst.

I love her so so much but I am becoming tired, so so tired, please, if you know how it is when your dreams crush, that only human in your life that you cant live without is letting you down help me, give me your hand ;(

[PlanThree]

You know, I am in EXACTLY the same situation as you are..

 

My boyfriend of almost 2 years is the best thing that ever happened to me, but also the worst. He has yelled at me and screamed at me over the webcams, called me names and he's suspicious about everything. But still, everytime again I forgive him, because I love him. And I don't want to lose the relationship that we have.

 

Right now (what a coincidence) my boyfriend and I don't know if we still can be together. We've had a huge argument tonight. One part of me wants to make this pain and suffering stop. But the other part doesn't want to lose all the great memories, the sweet things he also can do for me, the times we've laughed until we cried.

 

It hurts to feel your dreams crashing down on you. But you HAVE to decide for yourself: is this girl going to make you happy, if things continue as the way they are now? Is she the one person you want to spend your life with, if she continues having anger problems and not having the ability to let you talk when you have an argument?

 

Maybe it will help if you make a list - all the good things about her on the left, and all the bad things on the right.

 

But above all, I think it is the best if you are a 100% honest to your girlfriend. You need to tell her exactly how you feel about the situation, what it does with you, how it hurts you. She NEEDS to realize what she's doing. And if she does, it's up to you if you want to give her ONE more chance.

 

 

I wish you the best of luck, and I hope my advice can be helpful somehow.

[Alban]

You know, I am in EXACTLY the same situation as you are..

 

My boyfriend of almost 2 years is the best thing that ever happened to me, but also the worst. He has yelled at me and screamed at me over the webcams, called me names and he's suspicious about everything. But still, everytime again I forgive him, because I love him. And I don't want to lose the relationship that we have.

 

Right now (what a coincidence) my boyfriend and I don't know if we still can be together. We've had a huge argument tonight. One part of me wants to make this pain and suffering stop. But the other part doesn't want to lose all the great memories, the sweet things he also can do for me, the times we've laughed until we cried.

 

It hurts to feel your dreams crashing down on you. But you HAVE to decide for yourself: is this girl going to make you happy, if things continue as the way they are now? Is she the one person you want to spend your life with, if she continues having anger problems and not having the ability to let you talk when you have an argument?

 

Maybe it will help if you make a list - all the good things about her on the left, and all the bad things on the right.

 

But above all, I think it is the best if you are a 100% honest to your girlfriend. You need to tell her exactly how you feel about the situation, what it does with you, how it hurts you. She NEEDS to realize what she's doing. And if she does, it's up to you if you want to give her ONE more chance.

 

 

I wish you the best of luck, and I hope my advice can be helpful somehow.

 

I am afraid that list would be full of negative things :/

 

But I just can't let go, like you said one part says screw her, the other part just can't and unfortunately that's the stronger part.

 

You know, when we are together, believe me when I say we are the happiest couple, we laugh talk, just a great time together that flies so fast , I just wished this distance would be so much closer, then everything would be so much easier :/

[justwhoiam]

I found out recently that she has opened a FB account with her friend, and that wasn't really long ago and confronted her about that but she denies everything, says that it's her friends fb account and that she has nothing to do with it..

1. Why did you confront her about it

2. Is there a ban on opening accounts on FB with friends?

 

She called me yesterday at 10 PM to ask me if I am in the internet, I said no I am not, the next morning going in her skype and saw that she was chatting with her friend about their FB, it wasn't really bad or something I know she loves me..

So, let me get this straight. You have her Skype account password and entered it to see what she wrote and whom she chatted with.

1. Is that how you found out about her new FB account?

2. Did she give you her Skype password?

Also, what are you complaining about here? She asked you if you were on because she was going to be on and probably wanted to talk to you. You were not, she talked to other people. What's the problem. You were not available.

 

she is always mad at me for everything, somehow blaming me ?

Making me guilty ?

If you feel guilty, you know deep down you did something wrong. Otherwise you wouldn't feel guilty. Why is she mad at you? This statement pops out of the blue, so I don't really know what you're talking about. Your line of thought doesn't make sense.

 

about 2 hours ago I asked about that FB account, and she doesnt want me to know, then changes every password (msn,fb,skype), saying to me that she is doing this because I don't deserve it because I don'T trust her !?

Yeah, it doesn't make sense and she's right. If she gave you her passwords, she knows you have access to anything and you can read everything she writes, so there's nothing she's hiding from you. Nevertheless you're giving her a hard time. What for? I didn't understand that yet.

 

I know she is doing something wrong, and yet she still denies it..

What is she doing wrong?

 

If I wouldn't love her so much, this relationship should have ended so many times till now, I am always the one who fights etc.

You are having lots of issues, that's clear. And many hard feelings. You want to bake a chocolate cake knowing you have no chocolate. What's the point? Bake a different cake instead or give up cooking. Or buy chocolate. There's no other way.

 

she has a problem with her anger, when she's in that mood she can't control herself, it's like I am her enemy, insults me and mistreats me, and to be honest, I never listen to what she says when she's angry, at least not anymore.

From what I read so far, you are very controlling, sneaking, and a real PITA.

 

Can anybode help me find that FB I have tried everything but I just don't know how to find it .

Are you asking to enter her FB account illegally? You are sick.