ideas needed for re-igniting interest

[black swan]

To cut a long story short: u have been dating a woman for 3 months (OLD). Everything was perfect, we liked each other a lot, she was very much into me and we never had an argument. Then suddenly she disappears. While we had regular communication and we saw once a week at least, spending all the weekends together, she suddenly became very distant. In the forthcoming 3 weeks I called her twice and she didn’t pick up, and sent her 2 text messages that she responded to. So nothing heavy from my side. Then I left it there. Another 10 days go by and she finally resurfaced with a long text saying she was very very sorry for her silence, that she felt ashamed for having done so, that she has no excuse for that and that she came to the conclusion that she hasn’t got over her ex boyfriend of too many years and she is not looking for anything serious and she freaked out because she thought I had feelings for her. Also that she had been very busy with work and she is having some family issues. Then she said that she would like to be friends and hook up sometimes because she really likes me. So I sent her an email saying that I am not someone who does hook ups, that we never initiated any conversation about things getting very serious and that I would still like to date her casually but I guess that would mean that she is not seeing other guys at the same time, which of course will be reciprocated from my side. I told her I am cannot be an option.

Because my gut feeling is that the real reason she disappeared is that she met someone else online but because she likes me she wants to keep her options open. I will never know that of course, unless she tells me, which is difficult as she hasn’t responded to my email. Closing my email to her I told her that I would still like to see her and that she has some time to think about it, but no obligation to get back to me.

Now, I know I am doing a disservice to myself, but I wanted to try to somehow give it another go (although she doesn’t deserve it)because she is one of those people I felt we clicked instantly and that happens very rare. At the end of the day we hadn’t have the talk, so technically she is free to do whatever she wants.

I was thinking of inviting her for a weekend as I am going to a special event that she will like it very much. I would tell her 2 weeks after I sent her my email.i guess the options here are that either she will get in touch at some point when she will want to see me (which might never happen), that I would have to decline as she doesn’t deserve it and I shouldn’t be available on her demand, or that I send her an invitation(maybe a bad idea?). Which again it sounds a bit odd, as I told her I don’t do hook ups, but at the same time I invite her(in the hope we can re-establish some connection)!

A bit complicated, I know, so I would appreciate some ideas on how to go about it.

I guess responses like “move on”, will not help. I am asking for some tips to re-ignite interest, I am more than capable of moving on,but I thought I would give it a go for the reason I explained above!

Thanks!