rick2012 Posted October 29, 2012 Share Posted October 29, 2012 (edited) My wife lived in place where I meat her for 3 years and we dated for a year before she moved back to where she grew up because her work visa was not extended. After that we had a long distance relationship for a year before she moved back where we meat and where I lived for years. After 3-4 years she started hating the place where we lived and wanter to move back and to the same place where she grew up. After 6 more years total of 10 years married (no kids or house because she didn't want it in this place, she hates it so bad tha she decided to leave. What's wrong whit this picture am I crazy for not understanding and moving w her or she is just crazy for getting married and one day after many years living and complaining decided that its enough of this place and wants to divorce and move back where she grew up (out of country)? O yes the best part is that kids and house are only possible if we move according to her. Edited October 30, 2012 by rick2012 Link to post Share on other sites
pteromom Posted October 30, 2012 Share Posted October 30, 2012 Neither of you is crazy. Life is too short to spend it somewhere you hate living. And it sounds like she tried for several years to get to like it. What are your reasons for not wanting to move where she wants to be? 1 Link to post Share on other sites
Author rick2012 Posted October 30, 2012 Author Share Posted October 30, 2012 Neither of you is crazy. Life is too short to spend it somewhere you hate living. And it sounds like she tried for several years to get to like it. What are your reasons for not wanting to move where she wants to be? My resons rental property that I owned before we got married and still own, parents that came to this country for me, and having to leav the propert for my parents to take care, knowing my way around and many other things I know about US and not knowing about Canada (place where she grew up), not to mention drastic weather difference between Florida where we live and Canada. And also feeling blackmailed about having kids and a house. Link to post Share on other sites
mass millz Posted October 30, 2012 Share Posted October 30, 2012 Your wife wants a change and there is nothing crazy about it at all. Moving out of the country is a bit extreme and something I would likely not consider but some things must be compromised. The place you are living in was fine while you were dating and to get married. Time to move on, 10 years in the same place gets old when your young. Time to buy a house and have kids. You should consider moving a few states north to make travel to and from families even. You are in an extreme comfort zone and she is terribly uncomfortable. You need to make a sacrifice somewhere.... Link to post Share on other sites
Author rick2012 Posted October 30, 2012 Author Share Posted October 30, 2012 Your wife wants a change and there is nothing crazy about it at all. Moving out of the country is a bit extreme and something I would likely not consider but some things must be compromised. The place you are living in was fine while you were dating and to get married. Time to move on, 10 years in the same place gets old when your young. Time to buy a house and have kids. You should consider moving a few states north to make travel to and from families even. You are in an extreme comfort zone and she is terribly uncomfortable. You need to make a sacrifice somewhere.... I guess I forgot to mention that we did try couple states north, Ilinois, to be exact. (For a whole year) she pretended to like it and I hated it to the point that drove me crazy 24/7 until she agreed to move back to FL. But now back in FL she has same problems as before. I don't know I just keep feeling that there should be something better in all of this places that I should move and only thing I'm seeing higer taxes, less disposable income, higher prices of everything not to mention possibly going to work on subways, and having snow to my knees. Shouldn't there be something else that I like about place besides my wife? Link to post Share on other sites
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