LolaLopez Posted August 2, 2004 Share Posted August 2, 2004 how many times is it normal to have sex in marriage? after 6 years and w/ 2 kids? Link to post Share on other sites
quickreply Posted August 2, 2004 Share Posted August 2, 2004 I have been married 5 years, and we have sex about once a week. We have no kids, I would bet even less if we had kids! Link to post Share on other sites
havNfun Posted August 2, 2004 Share Posted August 2, 2004 Why do you ask Lola? Are you having it too much? too little? how many times would you like it to be? Link to post Share on other sites
MassiveAtom Posted September 9, 2004 Share Posted September 9, 2004 I think it averages out to about .25x per week. 1.5x month. anuallized . Link to post Share on other sites
MarriageBed Posted September 10, 2004 Share Posted September 10, 2004 I think someone already asked the important question: Why do you care? Is it not enough or too much for you? There have been several surveys done on this, and the last one I saw mentioned something like 3 times a week. However, most survey are biased depending on who did the survey and how they conducted it...so I'm not sure if I would trust that number. If you both are happy with the frequency, then I would not worry about the norm. However, since you are asking the question, I'm assuming one of you is not happy. Sex is a very important part of marriage, so I suggest that the two of you talk through the issue and decide what is right for your relationship. By the way, if you believe in the bible, it recommends sex as often as the other person wants it (I Corinthians 7:3-5). Link to post Share on other sites
Matilda Posted September 10, 2004 Share Posted September 10, 2004 I don't think there is any normal. I do think it is common for sex to decline after many years of marriage, and the addition of children. However, I don't think that you should accept that "That is just the way it is" if one of you is unhappy. Sexual frequency should be something that is agreed upon by a couple. Some couples are happy with sex once a month, and others aren't happy unless they are having it every day. Sometimes you may be going through a period of time that is particularly stressful, and this may have a huge effect on your sexual relationship. In these cases I think you should expect that sexual frequency will decline. I think the key is to strive for a sexual relationship that both of you are happy with. This generally involves some compromise on both sides. Link to post Share on other sites
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